We have been married for 4 years now and when we first meet in college and began our jobs we were wild. I was even wilder before i meet him. Now that we are into our jobs and such and we dont seem like the same people expecially bedroom time. Well last weekend one of our friends had a party it was only four couples, we drank and played games. Then we decided to play dirty truth or dare. where you had to do thing to your partner, well anyways it was fun! Back in our wild days we had orgys, 3sums all that fun stuff but it made us talking. My husband wants to do a 3sum with me and another guy, wants to do the DP thing. I have done that before before i meet him and i dont care it was pretty damn good. We have done 3sums with me and a girl but never this, i never suggested it to him just that he not the person to do that. Have any others been in this? just curious
2007-02-14 03:17:26 · 9 answers · asked by sarah h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I knew a swinger that swore his lifestyle was the way to go. It was the road to thrills and highs and they claimed he and his wife that they were happy happy happy. Well she left him for a man half his age, then she was dumped and found a woman. To make a long story short it ruined both their lives. I am not saying this from a moral standpoint but from reality. What seems great fun could end up hitting you in the face. Sorry but true.
2007-02-14 03:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I havent been, proud to say. You and he simply seem like you have few morals and are simply looking to get some strange. You didnt bring it up cause you didnt want to be thought of badly. But you want some strange and he probably does too.
What would possess someone to think it is okay to have sex with anyone other then their mate when married, is beyond me. But then I guess I dont suffer from all the nonsense that floats around today and tries to call itself normal or just a choice.
I am sure you have a handy and cute justification for the following, but I will ask it anyway.
Was there anything special in your vows that even remotely said it was okay to have sex with someone other then your partner?
Just because one of you wants to try something, does that somehow make it okay? If you both agree to do something, does that somehow make it alright instead of bad or immoral. Last I knew of, if two people agreed to rob a bank, it was called conspiracy and it was still a crime. Get it?
Is your moral code pretty much that of so many today, in that what is moral or right is what gets you what you want or like? It is wrong if you dont like it or dont agree with something?
Please you two, do not have kids.
2007-02-14 03:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say there are times men piss me off and I can understand wanting to give him a Sonic "Snuggie" (wedgie) for giving you that for an anniversary present, however, that is not a reason to cheat. It seems like there are probably some other important reasons that have been building over time and this is the thing that pushed you over the edge. If you really think a poor gift choice is a good reason to cheat then I think you are very superficial and should do the man a favor and leave him. As far as gifts, I think there are very few men that are in tune enough to women to know what a perfect gift would be. I think we need to be more direct about what things we like and want, or suggest they get gift ideas from friends that know our taste.
2016-05-23 22:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by Audrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
April is right.It is over.Try and live with one person and have the need for only 1 person.It does take some emotional maturity
2007-02-14 03:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by skirickfiftyone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!! What you are talking about falls into the category of swinging. there is nothing wrong with it if you are both consenting. Your marriage is not over. Feel grateful that your husband wants to see you achieve that erotic feeling. If you are not interested in opening up your marriage to this type of intimacy then you need to tell him so. Explain your conditions.......same room sex......... only if together.............then you are setting up the foundation to have one hell of a sex life. Right ON
2007-02-14 03:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tina S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not do it if you have done it be4 and stayed together whats the risk now?its just 4 FUN right
2007-02-14 03:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by truewrdz 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sounds like fun.......
But never done it.....
Tooooo jealous to let my spouse **** someone else.
He'll have to do it behind my back.....
I'd rather not know.....LOL
2007-02-14 03:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 words...GO FOR IT.
2007-02-14 03:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your marriage is over..............
2007-02-14 03:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋