She has consistently violatated our divorce decree which is why I filed in the first place. She refuses co parenting counseling.Where I live the judge has to review it to make sure it is valid. He signed off on it and returned it to my lawyer and the Marshal who served my ex wife. The idea for doing this was for her to cooperate in the best interests of the kids.We presently have joint custody with primary residence at her house. Even though she was served with the papers she continues the same behavior as before. She claims to love the kids and care about them but she can actually lose custody of the kids if she continues even before the court date.I would truly like a peaceful coexsistence with my ex wife. Why would someone not change their behavior when faced with such serious consequences?
2007-02-14 03:02:18 · 9 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's trying to hurt you. Unfortunately, she's hurting the children. She's using them as a weapon. She really needs to grow up. The children should be priority, and she should think about what is best for them not her. I don't know the details of your divorce, but she may be bitter and controlling. Just follow court procedure, counselling is definitely required. As you said, she will lose the kids if she doesn't stop. Best of luck to you and your children.
2007-02-14 03:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently she's very angry about the divorce and what ever shes doing she's doing just to get back at you which is back firing to her. you wil probably end up with custody of the kids. Document everything!!!! I cant emphasize this more. Also, no matter how angry she gets..be perisistant with asking her to go to counceling for the sake of the kids. Never mind the hurt feeling you have or she has. Whast matters is the children. Never mind your/ hers problems. The judge dont care and the people dont care. Its all about the Children. Tour ex needs counciling for her anger issues. So what at this point the marriage doidnt work out. Life goes on . And at This Point the only thing that will matter in The court of law is resolving any issues with the children..there living situation...safety...proper care and upbringing. so document document document and keep your cool.!!!
2007-02-14 11:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably alot of reasons. I would say anger being number one. She's probably thinks she's thumbing her nose at you by not doing what the decree says. Maybe having the kids is too much for her to handle alone and she would like you to have them. By doing what she's doing she doesn't have to say she can't handle being a single parent. Maybe she's a selfish woman that doesn't care about anything or anyone but herself. Take your pick of answers they could all be true.
2007-02-14 11:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably thinks the judge will not take the kids they usually don't.. Or she wants this to happen and is to embarrassed to say it.. Continue what you are doing and time will tell!
2007-02-14 11:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer that, our daughter did the same thing and lost her kids to her ex. Thank goodness we get along great with him and can see them often. She made the same claims but never sees them and rarely calls them.
2007-02-14 11:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend....you're the best person to answer this question. You know her better than any of us. May be she is insecure and fighting with herself. Make her understand that you're over with it and it's just for kids. I wish she understands.
2007-02-14 11:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't care. she thinks she will get away with it even though you have filed such serious charges.
2007-02-14 11:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by mrs. savealot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because once a person is like that they will never change it just how they are.
2007-02-14 11:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by somebodyssexygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No judge is taking away her kids and she knows that. You left. Suck it up.
2007-02-14 11:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋