I live in a townhouse. The guy who lives on my bedroom wall side always plays his music very loud at 1 am. I need to go to sleep around 10pm. I have to get up for work at 5 am. My husband has trown a box at the wall several times to show him that we are angry and instead he turns the music up. I get no sleep from 1am on. I am 6 month pregnant and need as much sleep as i can get. How do I approach this guy?
2007-02-14 02:47:36 · 25 answers · asked by Worried wife 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
WHATEVER YOU DO... DON'T get into a "noise war" with him. It's childish, and it hurts your "case" if you have to get a third party involved.
If you don't think your neighbor is violent, go next door with your husband and try having a polite, heart-to-heart with him. Smile a lot. It might be hard for him empathize with you if he doesn't like kids, but maybe say something like, "When your mom was pregnant with you, I'm sure she appreciated the rest that she got so you could grow into a healthy newborn. And I really need that for my baby."
He'll either respond with an "F' You" attitude or he'll be nice.
If he cooperates, drop off some cookies or something you think he might appreciate. (Six pack of beer?)
If he does not cooperate, is there an association board that you could approach? (Not sure if you live in one or not.)
If not, your next step is to call the police to make a noise complaint. I would bet that they will be VERY sympathetic to a pregnant woman.
2007-02-14 03:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd go to him early in the evening and have a talk. Simply mention the problem and ask him to be more considerate of the volume. Maybe he doesn't realize how loud it is on your side. If that doesn't work call the police and report him for noise disturbance. that outght to wake him up. He's probably being an ***.
2007-02-14 10:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by poof10958 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You call the police. There are noise levels that homes can have. Just like cars. Next time it happens, call the police. Did you try ringing their doorbell and asking them nicely? Do that first, if it continues, call the cops, tell your landlord. Or hire a 4 piece rock band, locals who arn't that good, or like a hardcore scream band to play for like 3 days straight and practice while you sleep at your parents for the week.
2007-02-14 10:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by dave k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the police...there are noise ordnance's and disturbing the peace laws for this very reason. Then if he continues to do it they will fine him or arrest him because he's been warned. Call them every night he does it. You can make the complaint anonymous but I wouldn't recommend confronting him when you are pregnant...he sounds like a jerk and you don't need to take the risk of him getting irate and acting out. Eventually he's gonna get sick of the cops showing up and either cut it out or move out. You win either way.
2007-02-14 11:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by jeannie78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock on his door, greet and explain your problems and ask his cooperation. Most folks will offer a little compassion for a pregnant mom and tone down the music.
Next step would be to research you town home property regulations and check to see if there is a :nuisance clause and then get it enforced
third step is to squirt a can of cigarette lighter fluid under his door at 5 am light it and run. If it Doesn't kill him, it will scar the apartment and he will have to move until it is repaired.
2007-02-14 10:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either wait 20-30 min. after he shut his music of and continuoisly go to the door knocking Making him get up ( only for an hour ) or set your alarm for 4:30 instead and wake him upspend that extra 30 min. pounding on his door. He will probably turn his radio on and blare it, but this will benifit you not him. The reason is he is now awake after having as little sleep as you!He will most likely continue doing this for aweek or two, but after he gets as little sleep as you, he will get the point!!!!
2007-02-14 11:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by no.#1 Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think sometimes it's nice to just approach him in a nice way... wait till he gets home and just pop on by and tell him the truth... tell him, "hey how are you? listen I am having a bit of a noise situation... not sure if they insulated the walls right, but the noise is too loud for me to sleep at night and as u can tell, I am pregant and really need the sleep :) can we work something out here with the noise level? Thanks."
2007-02-14 10:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him once, if he doesn't listen then call the cops everytime untill he gets the point. He will get tired of the cops coming to his house to tell him to turn down the music, plus he will start getting fines. Don't let this guy ruin your sleeping, you are pregnant for heavens sake.
2007-02-14 11:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by echc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you and your husband go over and have a mature conversation about it. If there are still problems after that you might have to call the police about the disturbance. I often know that moving is not an option. Good luck.
2007-02-14 10:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by mktk401 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try having your husband talk to the man, calmly is always best. If he won't be resonable, then talk to townhouse landlord/mamger. If this doesn't work, cops can be very persuasive.
2007-02-14 10:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋