how can I learn to look into the inner beauty?

Question

I believe that people are not as they seem
BUT! I still judge with the outer look - known standards ( beauty, sense of humer, style, , ,.ect.)

I hate being like this i wish i can change... so i can be comfortable with the people i love.

i know i cant know whats inside people just by lookin

i mean how can i search to love the inner beauty.. without interfering the appearance , i know this mught sound like i am answering my question, but i still need some help!

thanks all u r really inspiring
but let me say it in another way
How 2 LOVE the inner beauty??
after already figuring it out :D

Answer 1

We judge other people because we are judging ourselves. The outer world is a mirror of what's going on inside of you - what you like and accept in other people are things you like and accept in yourself. What you don't like or accept in other people are things you don't like or accept about yourself.

Learn to love EVERYTHING about yourself and you will automatically stop judging other people. To find out how to do this please read Debbie Ford's "The Dark Side of the Light Chasers" and "The Secret of the Shadow."

Answer 2

It's human to prejudge people by their outward appearances. In fact, it's normal to want to size up a person within just a few seconds of meeting someone new. Everyone experiences this their whole lifetime-even into adulthood.

Inner beauty is a person's character and character is what defines us as individuals-how we feel about things, what we believe in, how we do things, how we conduct ourselves, how we respond in given situations or circumstances. This is what makes us uniquely different from one another, because everyone is different.

It takes time to get to KNOW a person, so people won't seem to be what they first appear to be, so you're kinda right about that. In time, though, they will display their true character. It's only then can you determine if they really have an inner beauty (or character that you like, etc.).

There's nothing to learn-just let people be themselves and their character, or inner beauty, will show through for you to see it, just as your inner beauty, or character, will show through to other people, too!

I hope this was helpful to you!

Answer 3

We are visual people. So when you 1st meet/see someone - the first thing that you notice are their looks. We all do that. I'm like that towards black men. I'm like he's either a pretty boy, thug, womanizer, gay, on the down low, unfaithful, dead beat, etc.--- I shouldn't be like that but I guess that because of bad experience.

For you acknowledging this about yourself means that you are wanting to do something about it. So don't beat yourself up about it.

All I can tell you is to block those negative thoughts out about people and eventually you'll stop judging people on beauty, sense of humor, style, etc... :-D

Answer 4

Inner beauty is not the way one looks. It's their character, integrity, their heart, how they considerate they are, how they would treat others, how thoughtful they are. Only spending time with them can tell. just can't tell by looks. The first thing you can tell is how they treat their family. Charity begins at home, my mom always says. Treat your family well, be kind to your family, give and take, learn to forgive. When in the outside world, this will be the most natural way to react, with kindness, charitable and forgiving.

Answer 5

Ooo tough one. I try my hardest to see past whats on the outside of a person. Usually I try and get to know them more even though I may have judged them when I first saw them. Talk to the person and hang around them, see if they really are what you thought. Most times your opinion about the person will change..and you'll see that you really can't judge a book by its cover. When you do this more and more, soon you'll see past their appearance, clothing style, living conditions, and see what really matters in everyone. Whats on the inside. :]

Answer 6

Since we are so bombarded by the latest fads in cosmetics, grooming, clothes and other fashion and since most people follow fashion like lemmings, it is not easy to go against the stream or people will say you are weird.

So first you have to decide that in general the opinions of people who are not among your closest friends or family is worthless.

You have to give more weight to your friends and family's opinions since you have to live with them. However, the main thing is to trust your judgment and not be afraid to get burned from time to time.

Authenticity is fine in moderation.

Answer 7

To see the inner beauty is to see the person, not the persona they wear on the outside. To see their warmth and compassion, kind acts, gentleness.

Those in touch with their inner self/beauty often don't fit a "fashion" aren't concerned with how people perceive them, they believe in themselves, have conviction.

To see the inner beauty in others, you must first see it in your self. You must be comfortable with your self before you can be comfortable with others.

Answer 8

Do YOU feel loved - and LOVEABLE?

If we do not feel loved and loveable then how can we love others? So perhaps that's what you need to work on.

All the best.

Answer 9

look at them