I've just received the most wonderful bouquet of red flowers and I sent a txt to my bf to thank him.......however I've read the card again and realise that it wasnt him that sent them.....
He's not replied to my txt, should i call him ? Oh my god what do I say ?
Dilema !
2007-02-14 01:55:11 · 16 answers · asked by betterthanyou_getoverit 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Ahhh I should explain that the flowers actually came from a dear friend, who is male but just a friend.
2007-02-14 02:04:23 · update #1
I would leave it on him for a bit, then call and say who it turned out to be. It could be your man is feeling the git at the mo!
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-02-14 03:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him. It's not your fault that you received flowers from someone else. Surely it's better that you assumed they were from him initially? It shows that you weren't expecting any from anyone else.
Do you actually know who they are from? If there is no real evidence on the card I would actually deny all knowledge of knowing who it is, to your boyfriend at least! I know it's not really being totally honest, but if he thinks you know who they are from then he may think there is something going on between you both, and if there isn't then it could cause one hell of an arguement!
If you do know who they are from, perhaps you could thank that person and possibly explain the dilemma it has put you in, suggesting that if he wants to send flowers to someone who is taken he should make sure the card clearly states his name next time!
Your boyfriend may not actually have had time to reply to your text, so don't panic just yet. If you really can't face the thought of calling him then send another text, but it can be very difficult to get your point across in a short message, calling is definitely best in these situations.
He may even find it funny, or as someone else pointed it out, it may be a kick up the backside. If he has anything planned for you this evening make sure you really show how much you appreciate it. He may even be simply gutted that what he has planned will now happen second, and that he didn't get in there first!
Can you leave the flowers on your desk at work? Taking them home would kind of be rubbing salt in the wound...
The exact same thing happened to me two years ago by the way! And last year I received an unexpected card at work, but luckily I did have an inkling of who it was from, and left it there ;)
Good luck, and try not to stress too much until you've spoken with your boyfriend. Ooh, and congrats on having more than one admirer!
ps, Just seen the bit about it being from a dear friend, in that case, provided your boyfriend knows about him and is aware it is a platonic relationship then just tell him. He should be fine, particularly as you instantly assumed they were from him!
2007-02-14 10:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by cymraesgwyllt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Soulful Thinker, you have to call your BF and tell him the deal. Who are the other flowers from!? If you are trying to be sly and don't want him to know about the other person, your only hope is that he did send you flowers as well and you just haven't gotten them yet. Then he will be assuming that your text was in reference to his flowers and not the "other" flowers.
Just remember, honesty is the best policy!!
2007-02-14 10:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by fluffyhead42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a brilliant set up. If the boyfriend sent the flowers, but denied sending them, your natural reaction would be to find out who did. If you had a second lover, you would instinctively call that lover immediately after your boyfriend. If your boyfriend were truly as smart as this theoretical set up, he could then figure out from your phone (or email) records who this lover was.
If there were no lover, you would assume that your boyfriend were simply being mysterious, which might lead to fun in bed, or you might ignore the whole matter, which might lead to no reward at all.
It's brilliant.
2007-02-14 10:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kilroy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him, explain the mix-up and tell them you mis-read the card and they are from ??? and explain what the other friend is to you and why that person sent the flowers.
2007-02-14 10:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by soulful thinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! lol! That is hard! Just call your bf and tell him that you didn't mean to send that txt! Just say, that your aunt or someone sent u flowers. If you say like your friend that is a male (If that is who sent it) that will make him jealous! SO...just say they were from your old aunt! !!!!!!!! Lol! GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-14 10:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another good example why V Day got canceled over 3 decades ago; And why Law Law got canceled nearly 2 millenniums ago. Where have you been girl? You're more than a little behind the time is 2007AD; not 1968 nor BC.
http://www.godshew.org/ValentinesDay.htm
http://www.godshew.org/Law.htm
2007-02-14 10:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've a secret admirer and managed to make your b/f feel guilty?
I'd call that a result!
I think just leave it. You haven't done anything wrong and with a bit of luck the b/f will take the (unintended) hint and get his act together.
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2007-02-14 10:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by Nobody 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dilemma at all. You received a bouquet of flowers - you thought they were from him. They weren't. Why should you be upset? You have done nothing wrong.
2007-02-14 10:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by celianne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. Throw away the card and keep telling him how nice it was of him. Most men will not tell you it wasn't them and just take the credit. If he does tell you that it wasn't him than you can claim deniability and say that there was no card so you assumed that it was him. Than make a joke
2007-02-14 10:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by puggylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋