how can i find out if my wife is lesbian without her admitting it. She admitted that she tried it, before we meet, and says it was a mistake. But I thinks she might be Bi sexual. Please help. Thanks
2007-02-14 01:50:56 · 11 answers · asked by NorthEast_Swagga 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She married you - is that not enough proof that it doesn't matter that she may be bi?
If she were a lesbian and still married you, then she'd be in denial of herself - so how could she admit it to you?
How would you know? You wouldn't for sure. You might catch her looking "lustfully" at other women - but that could just be a recognition of how appealing they look - nothing sexual.
2007-02-14 02:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says it was a mistake, and she married you, then I think you should believe her. I think you should try to make her happy and ask yourself if she's trying to make you happy and consider yourselves people who deal with the normal problems of marriage like anyone else.
Let's put it this way- she knows that if she wants to make the marriage work and last, she'd be a fool to fool around, whether with a male or a female. It's a shame that the way lesbians act is so covert that you have to be on your guard but ultimately, the strength of your marriage (it's easy to take marriage for granted as something that is not going to change) is what will carry you through. That is true even when there isn't this question.
2007-02-17 13:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that? Does she hit on Females alot or flirt with them when you are watching? She may have been Bi-Curious at one time but that does not make her BiSexual unless she is still pursuing that Life Style. Why don't you just sit down with her and talk to her about it. Jeesh if you don't get this straightened out, the poor lady will not even be able to go shopping with female friends.
2007-02-14 02:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be up front with her. Think about what you really want to know, how you can ask her without sounding aggressive or in some other way bad, and then just ask her. If you really love and respect each other, you will hopefully be able to talk about it. I don't imagine anyone would like their partner asking about them behind their back.
2007-02-14 02:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by FTW 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband had a girl for 8 yrs. He love her. Wanted to marry her. She drank a lot. One night she ask if they could have a threesome, he said cool. Not cool , I think it was someone ,like friend. She left him for that lesbian . I think she had been gay for a long time. Sorry , that you have a question like this. I hope I helped alittle. 3 is a crowd. GOD BLESS
2007-02-14 02:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by TCC Revolution 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she says it was a mistake she probably is not bi-sexual, and she found out through experimenting. the only way to find out if she is, is to talk to her.
2007-02-14 01:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by mrzwink 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you stumbled into every straight mans dream!!!
But seriously I would just come out and ask her. If she finds out your asking and snooping behind her back she's not going to take it well.
2007-02-14 01:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell dher u want the truth or u r leaving her bi sexual @ss. or have a really good friend that is a girl to hit on her and see if she is .
2007-02-14 03:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by COLTS_MUSTANG_FAN_2008 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite a woman over to play?!? haha
i'm being perverted now.
But seriously, why don't you just ask her....don't you guys usually like stuff like that?? Don't judge her for it when asking her and she will be honest with you.
2007-02-14 02:10:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her! Would it make a difference in your marriage?
2007-02-14 01:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋