is it normal for a 17 to 19 yr old guy to be in love with a 12 to 16 yr old girl....i mean any of them ages....i dont want to mention the ages so just tell me for all...is it normal and ok if the girl likes you back and your willing to wait untill shes old enough before trying anything like that and just stay close firiends....coz i really love thiss girl and shes 6or 7 yrs younger than me but i truely love her and im willing to wait and shes ok with it too....i love her and i want to marry her when shes old enough and has finished her education do you ppl think its fine...wer keeping our distance just as wer close friends and we have fun together and stuff play games do our homework i help her with her school work and encourage her to studdy while i do my work...and wer just like close friends...she likes me too...she said...so what do u think....its no more than what i told you...just good friends..her parents know me coz wer cousins far like 5th or 6th cousin removed....
2007-02-14 01:45:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeah and i dont want anyone saying icest and stuff like that its none of your business....my mom knows and she said its fine i love her and want to marry her....people marry their cousins so its none of your business the cousin thing....plz dont say any negative things about the cousin thing.....it hurts us its easy for you guys to say it but you dont think it hurts us...
2007-02-14 01:48:08 · update #1
not everyone lives where its illegal to marry your cousin.....so i think thats fixed...
2007-02-14 01:53:33 · update #2
and as someone said about the sex thing it wont happen until wer married i truely care for her i know the reasons and when to have sex and to not have sex...
2007-02-14 01:55:21 · update #3
we are both looking forward to be with each other...wether you like it or not...and shes leaving school soon...so shes a big girl....i live in pakistan so my system is different here....my mothers english and my dads pakistani....shes pakistani too...and as the girl said i dated a 20 yr old guy when i was 15 so i think that seems to show you it does happen and its right....
2007-02-14 02:05:40 · update #4
we are both looking forward to be with each other...wether you like it or not...and shes leaving school soon...so shes a big girl....i live in pakistan so my system is different here....my mothers english and my dads pakistani....shes pakistani too...and as the girl said i dated a 20 yr old guy when i was 15 so i think that seems to show you it does happen and its right....
2007-02-14 02:05:57 · update #5
the guy at bottom saying you should be friends till older seems to be the best answer....and for the bit people might think its wierd is right but i can say wer family cant i and its true...so people shouldnt mind...its none of ther bussiness they can MYOB!.....
2007-02-14 02:10:55 · update #6
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2007-02-14 02:25:08 · update #7
well i mean i want to wait and then see how things are and then may be if we still feel same then get married..why do you all think everythings gonna be now...
2007-02-14 02:37:00 · update #8
I think that, as you say, waiting would probably be apropriate. Considering you like her so much, I don't see the problem. However waiting for her to be older would be best, especialy at the age she is at the moment. Obviously the age difference will be less significant when your older, and there is no rush. If you stay close friends as you are now, and you really do like her, there is no harm in waiting for her to be atleast 16 before you really start getting close to her. If you feel you still want to go out with her at this age, I would be careful, as it can be seen as weird by other people. The assumtions people will make immediatly may not reflect what your relationship is truely like with her, but people will think this way. This may get to you, and possibly ruin the relationship completly, this may be a risk you are willing to take.
But, right now, I think you should just carry on being good friends, and you'l still be able to be with her, enjoy her company, and will carry on getting to know her.
2007-02-14 02:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by travelmate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i would really like to help you but you HAVE to give us the exact age - because each age situation would be looked at differently. but i will try to help by giving a couple different scenarios ...
lets say your 19 and shes 12 OBVIOUSLY theres a huge problem! at 19 you are out of high school and should be with a girl who is somewhat at your level - a 12 year is still a baby! i mean you could be 7 years apart but it all depend on the ages such as if you were 30 and she was 23... but right now and for the next couple years you would be looked at very badly!
now lets say - you are 17 - 19 and shes 16 or 15 thats no big deal.
i guess the conclusion im coming to - is if you are 17 - 19 and she is under 15 ( like 14 , 13 or 12) that is just totally inappropriate.
but what confuses me - is your saying you want to marry her - but your only 19! that is just crazy - wait and see how you feel in a year or 2 - trust me things may change.
my only advice to you - is take is SLOW - VERY SLOW and think about what you are doing. and ask yourself if you were a father and you had a daughter would you allow her to be doing what this girl is doing.
as for the cousin thing - who cares! as long as your not first or second cousins - who cares!? dont let anyone tell you different about that.
im sorry i wish i could help you more - but its a very complex story - bottom line - follow your heart.
2007-02-14 02:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, from what you said, the oldest she could be is 13. That's a little young. Wait until she's about 15 at least to talk about relationship. Girls are fickle creatures and if you try to begin a relationship now she'll either get sick of you in a year or she'll stay with you a long time and then realize that she regrets not exploring more. You can continue your friendship, just give her enough space that she can discover who she is and what she wants in life. And don't think I'm a prude or anything- I starting dating a 29 year old when I was 17 and we're happily married now. Just give her time and space.
2007-02-19 15:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by daisyduke8605 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard not to say anything hurtful. The bottom line is that you need to keep your distance from her. Even though you say you are willing to wait for her to get older something is bound to happen if you two keep spending time together. And I know that you are distant cousins but its still not exceptable to marry your cousin or to have any types of relations with her. Go out and find someone your own age and that isn't related to you and move forward. Please don't destroy that little girls life.
2007-02-14 01:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really I think no if she is 12 or 13 that is just a little too young for her to finish school you will have to wait a long and by that time she will probably meet someone else and you will too. Just make sure that it is ok with her and your parents.
2007-02-14 01:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica Wellls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not feel comfortable with girls your own age ? You will have a long wait , she should finish school . It is probably because you want to dominate her , be in control of her and have a sense of power over her . Sounds like you are insecure with girls your own age . I think you need professional help .
2007-02-21 07:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by darsow@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is normal but illegl I dated a 20 year old am only 15 I don't believe age matters
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2007-02-14 01:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by spawnof_thedevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aarrghhh forgettt agee...!!
theres nothing wrng with marrying your cousins!! Its better as its in the family and anyway we all must be related we came from adam and eve n dey must hav produced by slpin wiv der brothers and sisters hehe...and i think thats worse...theres nothing wrong wiv 6 or 7 years younger as long as she keeps you happy...! just amke sure shes ready and you're ready...!
And yeppp definitely encourage her to do her work!!
inshahllah (if god wishes) you'll be together..
take care xxx
2007-02-21 09:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has been proven that any one beyond 1st cousins should not worry.. so go for it. if your parents and hers know whats going on... cool.. but dont be thinking about sex..just enjoy each other as you are right now.
2007-02-14 01:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... its not ok to say you love her now... she is way to young.... you both need to finish growing up and date other ppl b4 you decide this.
2007-02-14 01:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by butterflygurl085 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋