I was talking to a friend the other day about how as an adult, she is really close to her mother. She said she is her best friend.
While I think that is all good since she's grown up, what about when a parent is still raising them?
I know parents that try to not upest their kids and be the "cool parent" instead.
Is there anything wrong with trying to be a friend as well as a parent or is it even possible?
2007-02-14 01:39:03 · 9 answers · asked by Kari 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you should be your kids friend but at the same time don't let them over power you still watch over them make them under stand that your the parent and there the kid don't let them do any thing they want to do but at the same time try to be still a cool parent to them then later on in life they will thank you for it no there nothing wrong with it but at the same time you can't always be the cool parent
2007-02-14 02:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Meagan J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is why so many kids are at a loss today on what is right and wrong. Parents have decided to be friends with their children instead of an adult authoritative figure. There is nothing wrong with having a close and/or open relationship with your children. As a child grows up and becomes an adult that is when you become a "best friend" to your children, your one a 1 to1 ratio with them.
2007-02-14 09:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not care to be my children's best friend. I am their paent and my job is to parent them. When you look at your kids as your friend you are allowing them to treat you as a friend and friends can be nasty to friends. I want my kids to ALWAYS know where their lines lay with me. I have 4 sons and we are all close enough to talk about ANY and EVERY thing but I make it clear to them where the lines are. I would be their Parent over being their friend ANYTIME!
2007-02-14 09:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell my son that I'm not there to be his friend; it's my job to raise him to be the best that he can be. Toward that end, I must deny him certain things and I must reward/punish good/bad behaviors.
Parents that strive to be friends with their children during the formative years will often find that they have bitter relationships when the child becomes an adult. Conversely, I expect my kid to say "thanks for being so hard on me" when he grows up - just as I did to my dad.
2007-02-14 09:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by Irish Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe in the saying (respect to get respected). Kids need parenting now a days not friends. As a parent you can give your kids respect so they can respect you and like that they are able to talk to you as well as you can talk to them.
2007-02-14 09:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by pinkbubbles282004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always keep the line of communication open with your children but also have them understand there are consequences for their actions when they break the rules. This doesn't mean you love them any less, to the contrary, it means you are teaching them to be self-sufficient.
2007-02-14 09:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Thunderman9 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When they are grown is fine, but kiddos need a parent and not a best friend...
2007-02-14 09:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great when they are adults, but when they are still children, they should be parents.
2007-02-14 10:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am...
And they are my best friends...
2007-02-14 09:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋