My NEW Husband just told me he does not believe in Valentines Day. It's our 1st valentines. what do I do?

Question

He did not give me even a card for Christmas much less a gift. He did not get me anything for my Birthday either...not even a card. What do I do?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

How long have you been with your husband, surely you were going out with him for a few years before your married him, and if you were when it came to things like valentine' s day, birthday's and Christmas did he give you anything. If he didn't then you can't really say that much now, but if he did and now that you are married he has stopped then that isn't fair and you have should say something to him about it.

However if he has never brought you anything you could still mention to him that as its your first valentine's as a married couple and it would have been nice, but the chances are if he hasn't done it this time he won't do it the next either. So you either have to make a big fuss so that he knows that you are really upset about it and that he should not do it again or you just have to forget about the fact that he has forgotten and when it comes to things for him just do the same

Answer 3

You couldn't have known that he didn't believe in Valentines day. Actually whats to believe? Some people (guys) think its just another commercial day created to make people spend money. So what if it is?.........Regardless of the holiday or the occasion, if its important to his wife, he should take advantage of it and make her happy. It doesn't matter how he feels about it. If you feel neglected or dissapointed becasue you thought he might do something for you, then he needs to look at his priorities and get with the program. I bet that everything you do for him isn't becasue you really wanted to do it. You do it becasue you love him. If he has a brother,dad,mom or maybe a best friend that could talk to him about it,that would be good. If you can find a way to tell him how you feel,,that would be better. Remind him, when you're happy,,he'll be happy :)

Answer 4

I came from a family that didn't celebrate anything other than a half hearted xmas. It wasn't that I didn't care that it was my husband's birthday, it was that I didn't care that it was anyone's birthday, including my own. Valentines, Father's Day, Mother's Day, etc. But he was somewhat into them, and his wife (now mine too) was off the hook on holidays. I mean she decorates for Groundhog Day and makes a huge production of all celebrations. Her passion for these things eventually rubbed off on the rest of us, and of course we had kids and kids make all celebrations special. So my advice would be to first do the cost/benefit matrix on ol'boy and see if he's worth the effort. If he isn't, you'll never divorce any cheaper or hunt for a replacement any younger. If he has some potential, then YOU take on the full brunt of celebrator. Buy yourself grand presents and expressions of these holiday occasions. If he's worth it, he might come around and want to join you.

Answer 5

Tell him he is the cheapest person you have ever met. I know people think Valentines Day is over commercialized, but come on.. your birthday.. .Christmas. Tell him that these things while not important to him are very important to you and he should care enough about you to at least acknowledge these days for your sake. Does he not believe in Birthdays or Christmas either or is it that he is just CHEAP and uncaring?

Answer 6

first of all how did you not know all of this before you married him
this you two got married the same day you meet?
and even if you did, have you two ever talk
those are thing you ask
this is a list ? to ask before married a man
1-Are you married
2-are you divorced
3- do you have any children
4- have you ever been in jail (for what)
5- are you gay (or ever have sex with the same sex as you)
6- what is your religion
7-what do you feel about euthonisia
8-have you ever rape, molested anyone (including animal)
9-do you have any mental or any other handicap in your family
10- what do you think of the holydays (christmas and other religious ones) do you celebrate them ?
11-how do you feel about Valentime, birthdays
12-where you go to school
13_Don't forget the STD''s for this one even if he says everything is OK you still say darling can we go have a check up( Blood test) together
Their is much more but these are basic ?s you ask before saying I DO

At least that what I told my children (all boys)
I hope they ask the girls the end up with and I hope the girls ask them also
but honey talk to him about the importance those days mean to you but don't brake your marriage over it
no matter how angry you are try to stay calm when you talk to him
Good luck

Answer 7

and you didnt know this...who did you date before before you decided to marry this guy, if you had been with him any reasonable amount of time before you married him , you would know these things....hmmmm...too late now, you will have to deal with it, Valentines Day is sooooo Over-Rated anyway, but Christmas is a big deal to most people, talk to him and tell him how you feel...thats really all you can do now, or divorce him and find a "gift-giver", if you have been thru a few holidays and nothing has changed, it might never change..do you give him gifts?...i dont think i would waste my time or money on someone who doesnt return the gesture

Answer 8

He Sounds Cheap To Me Have A Talk With Him And Tell Him This Bothers You And That He Needs To Start Showing You Some Respect

Answer 9

just remember people has different ways of showing their affection some of them didnt believe in valentine day as it is for commercial purpose only some do believe as other too why not make the first step on your part by going in a dinner with your husband give him a big kiss and say I LOVE YOU AND HAPPY VALENTINE

Answer 10

Dear ma'am,
Lets first try fully on our behalf.
1) remember that he might have been brought up like that and it is indept imbeded.
2) Try giving him surprises on his Birthdays, and special occassions (which are of great importance to him)
NOTE: the surprises may not be too expensive but small gifts or delicacies prepared at home.
3) Share with him whether he liked it or not
And will work like anything....

Answer 11

Why were you unaware of this before you married him? He probably doesn't care for commercial holidays. Maybe you can explain to him how important and sentimental these holidays are for you. Try to communicate first. Maybe the both of you can compromise as well. If there is no hope, you probably have no other choice but divorce. But don't give up right away.