I am married for 6 years and have two kids 5, 3 years old,
She started going out with her friends since 2005; sometimes she was getting lift back home with her male friends which I never meet him, I trusted my wife, but one day I found out the he was flirting with her sending sms good morning baby, I got very angry,
I told her off, she told me this is the way he talks with everyone. And he’s just a close friend, I insist to get me full details phone bills she told me no, I kept on about the phone bill, eventually she did, she was sending on average 20 sms and 5 min talking a day. She never told me that he's a close friend, if she really loves me why she kept it secret.
2007-02-14 01:35:40 · 14 answers · asked by sevarmen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've got a problem, Bucko. Your wife is out of line with this kind of activity. Steer her toward marriage counseling. And if she refuses to go, get some counseling for yourself. Good luck.
2007-02-14 01:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respected Sir,
1)have you ever tried to ask your wife Why she kept it secret? If not try asking her in a very usual conversation.
2) You may find it abnormal but still as all counselors suggest Play the exchange role that is whenever both have enough time let her percieve from your viewpoint you in her viewpoint.
Like playing the role of a husband and a role of wife. THIS WILL PROVIDE YOU & YOUR WIFE SOME INSIGHTS, which might be helpfull to both.
2007-02-14 02:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Winiart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of the way you're reacting at this point. Honey, marriage is like looking at the dessert menu, you can look all you want but you can't buy it. There's nothing wrong with looking, but it's the acting is something different. It's not uncommon for females to have male friends that are good friends. It's okay I'm sure.
2007-02-14 01:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by dns618 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two seriously have some communication problems... I think that she should have told you about her 'new close friend' whether it was a male or female... And if he's married he wouldn't be so close to your wife if he knew that she's married. Talk things out with her.... Go with her out... even if she's going out with her friends...why should you two have different groups of friends? Don't tag along as a spy... be more interested in her friends....
Hope I helped... All tha best!
2007-02-14 01:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is everything in a marriage without Trust you have nothing.If your wife and this man are just friend's then both she and him should have no problem with you meeting him and getting to know him.I am happily married and I have 2 very goos male friends but they both know my husband and everyone get's along just fine because we are all just friends..You need to talk to your wife and tell her how you feel and then as I said meet this man if either one of them has a problem with that then you have cause to be concerned and again Trust is everything without Trust you have a serious problem..Good Luck to you..
2007-02-14 01:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to your wife,
sit down (no fight) just talk and be honest with each other
ask her waht she wants out of the marriage & from you as a man after getting your answer ask how will she feel if you have a close woman friend that you were sms
Good luck
2007-02-14 01:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do believe that those who have nothing to hide hide nothing. once they begin hiding things, the marriage is in trouble. usually where there is smoke there is fire, and it is hard to believe this is just a friendship. why would she feel the need to go out if she is a married woman, maybe she is just too immature to be married. if she really loved u she wouldn't do these kinds of things that hurt u. no i would not believe a thing she says, i would set boundaries with her, and if she isn't willing to accept it than i would say u really don't have a marriage anymore. why set yourself up for a major heartbreak here, your married and married and committed people don't go out and run around. they sty with their mates, and go out with their mates.
2007-02-14 02:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it keeps it interesting with you and doesn't cause problems. My brother got really frisky with his wife after a new woman at the office he found attractive started working there. Go figure.
2007-02-14 01:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I know what you are talking about -- natural body smell is very attractive, unlike a soap smell, which is not sexy. If a person showers every day and keeps clean, then, hours later, their natural body smell should be more attractive to their mate than smelling like freshly applied soap.
2016-05-23 22:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds extremely young. Sounds like she got herself in over her head in the whole "stable, raising a family" life too early and now she wants out. She's out sewing her oats and she is going to wreck your family. I hope she comes to her senses before it's too late.
2007-02-14 01:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋