Would you think this person is cheating with these facts:
My spouse is married with children one mine one theirs
Found some old best friends from teenage years
One was an ex that was hurt by my spouse
Hangs out with them till am hours ignoring phone calls on a
couple occasions
Got drunk with them
I showed displeasure, spouse did it again
Erases texts and call logs from person (says cause they know it
would bother me if I saw them)
Won't continue IM conversations with me around
Sent picture of self to said person on phone (just a nice pose
nothing sexual)
My spouse says nothing is going on. I love my spouse and am very hurt by this, but be honest and I kept our sexes out on purpose because I think standards should apply both ways.
2007-02-14 01:22:56 · 9 answers · asked by isanynameavialable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The house that my spouse is going to is a very good old friend of theirs it doesn't seem fair to me to stop them from going. No I can't go with we have kids at home. And I dont know these people so its not like I could ask.
2007-02-14 01:33:06 · update #1
This is a rule that I live by......
If i have to hide it from my significant other......I shouldnt be doing it.
SO, if they are hiding something.....apparently they shouldnt be doing it.
Think about that.
As far as the clues, there is definately a window of possibility.
Cant say for sure, but simply by not being open about everything, it makes it worse.
Your spouse needs to come clean and put your mind to rest. You need to begin hanging out with the "crowd" we well. Why is it that you arent invited to these get togethers? And why are phone calls being ignored?
There is trouble here, and it needs to be resolved before it goes any further.
Trust your instinct. If you think something doesnt smell right, it prolly is gettin rotten.
Good luck to u.
2007-02-14 01:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that your spouse is cheating by those facts. It seems like a possibility but without proof, there just isn't anything you can do. To acuse your spouse will cause more problems, but I can understand why it would have you upset. I have been through a similar situation, and I did the accusing, and the constant calling, and whatever else I could....it did me no good. To this day he still swears nothing was going on, he just was having a good time with friends(some of them females that I know wanted him). He even told me that same line about it would upset me to see/ hear the conversations that occured. I eventually made up my mind to stop worrying so much about it, and what was going to happen would happen. Things changed, he stopped going out, and started staying home again. We are happy as can be and it is not something that is really talked about that much. His friends now come over to our house and hang out with him. It could be different in your case, but it could be that your spouse wants to go out and enjoy themself without being bothered by anything. Maybe they are going through some type of mid-life crisis.
2007-02-14 09:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your spouse is definitely hiding something. I won't say they are cheating-yet. But it seems to be heading in that direction. The IM thing sounds very suspicious, like they don't want you to see what is being said. If there was nothing going on, it wouldn't matter if you saw it. Erasing texts and calls-same thing. People who have nothing to hide don't hide things. Time for some investigation on your part. Good Luck.
2007-02-14 09:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course there's something going on. How serious is another question. A man who has nothing to hide, hides nothing.
A man who genuinely cares about his wife does not do the things listed here; he stays with the person he married and does things with her.
Want to find out who he's calling? You can request a list of phone numbers called from your home phone from the phone company.
2007-02-14 09:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but it sounds like cheating to me as well. If my husband did this I would tell him how hurt I am about it and if it doesn't stop he can go live with her and if he didn't stop I would file for divorce because he obviously putting her feelings first not yours. Good luck and don't stay together for the kids, it's going to hurt them more than help to have their parents in an unhappy marriage.
2007-02-14 09:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Affair. Why don't you stay out a few night and see whether she would like it? Why are you at home babysitting? Don't announce it or discuss it. Just do it.
2007-02-14 09:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i do not think the situation souns good. And if I were you I would be pissed and demand it to stop. If you did all those things would she be okay with it? Probably not, so you need to stand up for yourself and make it stop
2007-02-14 09:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by novagirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is probably cheating. And even if he is not cheating, he is betraying your trust, he is emotionally cheating on you.
2007-02-14 09:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by starrjellie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like cheating to me.
2007-02-14 09:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Maphondo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋