My daughter likes a boy in her class, but she doesn't want to tell him. Then there is a kid that ask if she and the kid like each other, my daughter says nothing and the boy smiles and says no. Then another girl says they are love birds. They're only in 5th grade. I want to help my daughter, but I don't know how I can help. I know she really likes him, she says funny stuff about him and she say he makes her laugh. I saw her diary and it said that two other girls like him too.
2007-02-14 01:07:18 · 22 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
5th grade? Just listen to her stories, and don't rush her in growing up. Give her good, solid guidance in self esteem and self respect, and she will get through the puppy loves and crushes and have a good shot at good, healthy relationships as she goes through life. (And stay out of her diary.)
2007-02-14 01:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but try not to pry into her diary, it's so invasive and it's not like you're worried she's doing drugs so looking at it is such an invasion of her privacy. Tell her to just be herself with this boy and eventually it will either happen or if not then she doesn't have to be embarassed because of anything silly she tried to get his attention. Do they share an interest? If so maybe capatalize on that and they can make plans to do it together ie go to a favorite movie (dropped off by you of course) etc...good luck.
2007-02-14 01:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Think you should be focused on school work not the boys at this level. If we have this now what's going to happen in the 9th grade. I hate to say you shouldn't be focused on boys at this stage of her life. Way to soon maybe I'm wrong but your headed for trouble later. I know this from experience I raised a 32 yr old daughter.
2007-02-14 01:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by russell c 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know this was 10yrs ago but I AM closer to her age than you and when i was that age I didn't tell my parents anything about the boys I liked. Feel lucky that she talks to you, and just be there to listen to her when she gets hurt, lets face it she is only in 5th ggrade ans she will get hurt eventually, just be there for her... and maybe get her some ice cream or hot cooca if she is really down sometime.
2007-02-14 01:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by butterflygurl085 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firs of all, why are you lookin through her diary? That is hers and only hers to look through. Anyway, sure, they're young, but at least they're not dating or anything serious like that. 5th grade is when grls suddenly become interessed with guys around them. So just chill out and let your daughter do her own thing, just dont let her go crazy.
2007-02-14 01:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by K G 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can best help your daughter by letting her sort this stuff out for herself.
Just be there for her, & be ready to give an honest answer to any serious questions she may ask.
I raised a boy so I don't know for sure, but isn't it disrespectful to be reading your daughters diary?
2007-02-14 01:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to know... BUTT OUT!...you can't solve these problems for her, this is part of the maturing process, she has to do this. Just listen and encourage her to be open and this may lead to her own solution. Aaaand, why are you going thru her diary, that's a severe offense. My suspicion is that you lack maturity yourself for not knowing how to manage this and for going thru her diary. I suspect you're an enmeshed parent... step back while you can!
2007-02-14 01:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it is a normal thing to like a boy. That means that she is growing up and it is also normal that others are going to like him too. Tell her that the fact that he smiled and said no does not mean that he does not like her too he is trying to be on the safe side in case she said no first. But it is very early for her, there will be other boys that she likes and they will like her back and will not be afraid to say so. so in the mean time help her to keep her cool
2007-02-14 01:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by Alise 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just see if you want them to be together or not. If you do, suggest her to get close to him, you know like close friends. If not, tell her that being in love in 5th grade is too early for her. Wait a couple of years then she can see if she still likes him or not.
2007-02-14 01:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mirror 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get out of your daughters FACE!!!!!!! YOU are not in 5th grade. BE a normal parent and pretend like u don't got a clue!!!!!! I can't STAND people like YOU who are up in their kids bussiness 24/7
2007-02-14 01:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋