2007-02-14 01:06:26 · 22 answers · asked by The Central Scrutinizer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been with my husband for more than 30 years. Romance and intimacy and respect are at the heart of our marriage. As a result our sex life is wonderful frequent and very satisfying. Now that one daughter is away in college and the other has graduated with a good job, my husband have to time to do things go places and make love whenever the spirit moves us. I've kept a calender of my periods etc and even though I'm 49 and into the "change" I still keep track of the amount of sexual activity we've had. Since we began dating when I was 17, we've had sexual intercourse 3,348 times and my husband satisfies me just about every time. Valentines Day is tonite and I'm sure that 3,349 when my husband comes home from work. 3,350 will probably happen tomorrow morning if doesn't stop snowing :) !!!!
2007-02-14 01:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by melani 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The actual act of sex is the accumulation of all the romance and intimacy received from both parties. The romance and intimacy is a 24/7 pleasure where as the actual sex could be from daily to monthly depending on a number of different circumstances. If something should happen, as far as medical or sociological, and the actual act of sex can no longer be achieved it would not lessen our romance or intimacy
2007-02-14 09:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important, but it's just physical fun. Romance is a cliche and I don't give much thought to that. Intimacy is the most important and intimate trust leads to a better sex life. No one is 'bad in bed' but partners can be bad at communicating.
2007-02-14 09:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not a question that is properly asked in the general.
The answer lies in the specifics of the two individuals that make up the marriage.
If sex is important to a partner and missing, then sex as it relates to intimacy is very important. If sex is a anathema to a partner, then the avoidance of sex as it relates to intimacy is very important.
What causes problems is a sex drive / libido / sex attitude imbalance between the couple. What is important is that there not be an imbalance.
Here is the rule that ought to be followed: when your partner wants sex have it with them enthusiastically, when you want sex your partner should enthusiastically have it with you. (Think of this as a rule that works opposite of one partner being able to veto sex. Couples in which one partner exercises veto of sexual / intimacy initiations don't thrive.
2007-02-14 09:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless there has been some sort of tragic illness that makes it impossible., I think that sex and the physical pleasure that a man and woman give each other are the ultimate expressions of romance intimacy.
2007-02-16 10:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by tiapoquita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Infinitely important. The amount of thought and effort put into romance and initimacy needs to be matched bythe thought and effort put into sex. Typically people view the romance and intimacy as satisfying for the wife and the sex as satisfying for the man, but that is not true. Both want both, but the women tend to put more effort into the romance, the men put more effort in the sex, and when the effort is not returned, resentment results.
2007-02-14 09:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's very important and essential to keep a good marriage, it's like the salt and pepper of the relationship...it's a significant way to show the true feelings that both feel for each other, perfect way to communicate with your spouse...sex is not only important but
wonderful when you are in Love with your partner...think about it
and keep on loving.....good luck.
2007-02-14 09:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my marriage, sex is what happens after the romance and intimacy. My husband will treat me like a queen all day before he initiates sex.
2007-02-14 09:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's very important, when some aspect of the aboved mentioned is missing, it puts a strain on the marriage/relationship. It's sad really, because if one person is unhappy then marriage is doomed.
2007-02-14 13:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For men it is very important. If a woman uses sex as reward or denies it for punishment she will eventually be in for the shock of her life and some day post here with the following question:
Why did he cheat on me?
2007-02-14 11:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋