y those suddely change whom we luv alot?

Question

i love my hubby he left to uk 2 yrs back he was broad minded whn he left but now he came back wth a different mood i am worried he wnts me chng as well
how can i be chng in 1 day he want me to waer this and before he never stopped me but now he interfaeres i dnt y he changed how can i make him back

after geting married i hve chnged alot just 4 him and he gone ,i never wear jeans before i wore it coz of him he said he like jeans but now after coming back frm uk he said i hate jeans wear i proper dress now how can i chnge my self 4 him aal the time

Answer 1

your mate has been doing things beside working while he was away. he has been with strange mates of both sexes and maybe he is not a playboy and maybe he just have casual conversations but something has changed him and methinks its not for the best. he has grown and you have not. he want what he thinks he wants and that is unusual as it is usual that a women marries and man and want to change him and his ways and a man marries a woman and hopes and prays she will never change..you have told me something that does not go with common sense or practice..why is he want to change you unless you have changed and are not aware,,but the chances are that since he is a wondering man like a sailor on the sea he has seen and done things that has made him dissatisfied with you and his lot in life..these are normal..just play along with his charade if you love and want to keep him and maybe he will grow up as most men are not very mature when it comes to marriage to a real women...and it sounds like you are a real women or you would not care..seek the advice of an older women or gentleman that you trust and confide in them...with age there comes wisdom
and don;t be afraid to pray a lot to seek a higher power of understanding and patience ...and you will need the faith to cope

Answer 2

I have seen this a lot. I have never found a way to change them back. So what I do is go on as before and let be how ever they want. in other words wear what you please and tell him to get over himself. it is not his place to dictate to you. You married him. You did not make him God. Now if you are doing something that you know is wrong then you should rethink the whole mater. But YOU have to make that determination.