im worried about starting my period?

Question

im 13 n haventyet started my period. lately i have been getting really bad stomach aches and back aches n know my period must be starting soon but i havent told anyone this. i dont want it to start because i am very shy bout things like this and will not know how to approach my mom or anyone else can you help me and tell me how you did or would talk to your mom about this.

Answer 1

You're matured for you age. I mean, able to talk about it in public and asking for our advise! My period started when I was 13+ when I wasn't expecting it to (never imagined myself getting it then!). I took a semi-comical aproach to it. I told my mother that I thought that I was sick (not sure if I mentioned a fear of death).. but I remember acting very worried in front of her. I was slightly anxious on the inside but ended up acting out more than what was natural. She congratulated me and said 'welcome to the club' and gave me a pad.. The story went on.

You know the signs of a period already which is good news that leads me to think you will know what to do incase your period does come. My suggestion is, since you are very shy about this sort of things, have you any friends who've already reached puberty and have pads? Maybe you could get one from a friend and keep it with you at all times, just incase. Then once it has come and you've used that emergency pad from said friend, you can aproach your mum and ask her to buy you a pack.. That way she'll know and you'll get what you need all at once..?

Good luck! Just remember, it's all natural and feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to about it : ) I can still remember how I was obsessed with washing my hands extra++ every time my period came in the first year or so!

Answer 2

I think that your feelings are shared by most girls in this position. I too did not share this information until I felt comfortable doing so. I didn't feel as though I needed to. I was lucky that my sister was older, so supplies were available to me when I needed them. You may want to do some reading and have some supplies handy in advance. It is fine to be private about these things. At the same time, don't be afraid to talk to someone about it as we all have had much the same experience. Know that when you have cramps or your back hurts it doesn't hurt to take a tylenol or some type of pain reliever. It can be uncomfortable starting out, but I was one of those lucky people who never really was much bothered with cramps and things. I hope this helps. Congratulations on your journey into womanhood.

Answer 3

I think the easiest way for you to approach your mom would be to ask her how she felt and what she remembers about when her periods started. That's a good way to get the conversation started and to get her to think about how she felt when she was a girl and this was new to her too.

Then you could go with her to get some pads for when your periods do start. You might also like to get some panty liners to wear just in case until you've learnt the signals that your period is going to start (I'm adding that because my periods were very irregular when I started and the only sanitary protection they had at my school was pads about an inch thick that had to be held in place with safety pins and it was humiliating!)

Answer 4

Having your period is nothing to be shy or ashamed of. You should be happy that you're getting your period, because that's the most important step in being an adult. Since you're telling us [complete strangers] it should not be hard to tell your mother either. I'm sure she'll be very happy for you. When I first got my period my mom bought me a gift =]. Sure, it's going to be a drag but it's all a natural process. I would prefer using pads rather than tampons, because they are more practical [in my opinion]

Answer 5

Has your Mum not explained to you about your body? My Mum just gave me a book to read(very basic) as she was never told by her Mother and didn't know what to say. Then I shocked her by suddenly telling her 2days after my 11th birthday I was bleeding. Poor Mum, no preparation, embarrassment and she felt I should not be doing this to her before the girls talk at the school in year7 (2years away) We coped, but when I had my daughters, I made shore they new about everthing, and how different people got different symptoms, started different ages etc., My Mother read all the booklets I gave them and she asked me more questions than my girls!! Go and tell your Mum you would like to talk to her by yourselves, and tell her you are shy to ask, but you have been getting stomach and back pains, and does she think you may be getting your period soon. Sometimes Mums don't want to seem uncool and ask you personal things, but if you go to her, it might be easier, and she will know you value her advice. As a Mum, I would like you to try to talk to her first.

Answer 6

Start putting pads on. im sure ur mom has some in the self or something. when it comes u will be all set. wen i got mine my mom made a huge deal about it. so just tell ur mom that u need pads and not to tell people. its just the way of life. and good luck with the pain. i know i cant stand it.

Answer 7

I didn't. I just started using pads and tampons. I'm also very shy and private about my things. My mom eventually asked me and I told her, but I didn't think I needed to tell her once it started. It might be good to talk to her about any questions you have or visit some websites about menstration that help you learn about what's going on and your body.

Answer 8

Well when you do start your mom really does need to know. I just asked my mom to get me some clean panties when I started mine and she figured out why. Don't be shy when it comes to telling your mom she knows that it can be any time and I am sure she can help you out.

Answer 9

I am surprised your Mom hasn't talked to you about this yet. Tell your Mom the symptoms you are having and tell her you think you will be needing some pads.