Is it good to be in the closet as far as it is not required ? Cause I don't feel the need now i am just 22.... Is it fine if I don't come out for a few more years ? even in future , I think I will pay the price of my family and friends just to be with that unfound person . Is losing everything worth sexual gratification ?
2007-02-14 00:07:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have been trying ot tell one of my friends that there is something important i wish to tell ....but she is tring to ignore . May she knows abt me and doesn't want to hear it
2007-02-14 00:55:07 · update #1
Only you know when you are fully ready.
Often when people come out, they regret that they waited so long, but you're the only one who really knows when you are prepared to take that step in your development.
2007-02-14 00:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by DavidGC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right for you. For most people, it's a process that happens over time. I don't know anyone who just decided one day to come out to the whole world at once. And you're still young. Don't rush yourself into any decisions you might possibly regret. Act true to what you feel, respect yourself and others, and let your life unfold.
I don't know what coming out has to do with having sex. Plenty of people are still in the closet (what a stupid term, IMHO) and having lots of sex.
2007-02-14 00:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by FTW 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can reconcile your woes from being alone (as if sexual gratification were all that there was to being gay!) against the possible loss (assumed price to pay) of family and "friends" then so be it. There is no requirement to come out.
Oftentime though it is healthier to be honest to the outside world as well as to yourself.
2007-02-14 00:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being in the closet for as long as you feel you need to be. When you do start to come out slowly, jut be careful who you tell. Some people "out" others without their permission and that is just wrong!
2007-02-14 01:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Bethe W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Denying oneself is never healthy, however, depending on circumstances (ie: where you live, the attitudes, etc) it can be a matter of safety. Only you can judge what's best. Being out is a personal journey each of us must make, but the more of us who are unafraid to be who we are, the better the world will be.
BTW, being out does not mean screaming your gay to everyone, it just means that you neither proclaim or disclaim. If someone asks, I tell them the truth, that's it.
2007-02-14 01:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not good to be there forever....I did until I moved away from home....I feared rejection from my family. But when I finally did, it was a relief. and my family, friends and coworkers accept me for who I am. When you are comfortable and ready, then come out.
2007-02-14 00:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude...there is no rule. Tell who you want, when you feel the need.
Personally I despise the term "in the closet"....too much drama.
IMAO
2007-02-14 00:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important, so you must do what you feel is best. Wait if you like, just don't blurt it out over the Sunday roast.
2007-02-14 00:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im in the closet for years and thats not good but it would be worse if im out of the close cuz there are many stupid homophobics
2007-02-14 00:22:29 · answer #9 · answered by classy naima 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it can lead to serious psycological problems to deny yourself.
2007-02-14 00:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋