Do real men cry?

Question

My husband shed some tears during his mother's funeral last year and these last few days he's been undergoing chemo treatments that've taken quite a toll on him and had a few weak moments.I just find it really inappropriate and walk away when he's like that.I can't be the only woman with this opinion.Why not find another outlet that doesn't make you seem like a sissy?I'm a woman and I barely ever cry,he's supposed to be the men so why not act like it?

Answer 1

I find it somewhat surprising that you continue to ask questions here. When you asked about moving to another city and leaving your husband behind for a job, the answers you received were clearly against you. Then, when you asked questions about your husband having decided to go with you when you moved, people again told you how cold and selfish you were being for not wanting him to go. Now, this is your second question about your husband crying, and, once again, you are receiving very clear feedback from people disgusted, as I am, by your lack of empathy. Why ask these questions if you won't listen to the answers? In dozens of responses, people have quite consistently advised you to adjust your priorities and provide symathy and support to your husband. Rarely have I seen such clear consensus here! You would do well to heed these people's advise and undergo a major overhaul of your attitudes.

Answer 2

Look I am not big on crying myself.I have barried a lot of family members in the past ten year.And have not cried at the loss of any of them.Not that I didn't love them most especially when it came to my big brother.But I am one of those people whom have to keep strong for my family.And I don't allow myself to show weakness around them so they have someone they can lean on.But you have a real issue here lady.You are not god and who the he** are you to judge someone else for crying and imply that your husband is less than a man for crying.To start with real men show emotion weather it is crying or something else.You suck for walking away when he was crying if you were a good wife you would have held him tightly not walked away.I have seen my hubby cry on only a few occations.The loss of our 1st baby,when he was told that the doctors didn't know if I or our son was going to survive when I was in labor with our 2nd baby our son and when his dad died last year.And I know my hubby is a real man.He works hard to take care of us and he is always kind and loving and there for us.That is what makes a real man not weather he crys or not.You really ,really suck do you have any idea how bad chemo is and how sick it makes you.Well of course you don't or you would know better that to pick on someone for crying when going through it.I really hope he has some other sort of support system other than you sorry butt.If he is a smart man when he gets better he will go out and find a real woman instead of you.You suck has a human being and I am ashamed to be in the same catorgory has you.(both wife and woman).You don't deserve to be called a wife or even woman because a real woman wouldn't act like you.

Answer 3

I think your suggestion that men shouldnt cry is pathetic. Especially with the thought that 1. after mothers funeral or during it, the man cries because death of loved ones hurt deeply. 2. Chemo treatment. The sheer fact he has cancer is enough to make someone cry. Worrying about dying, worrying about the ones he loves, the pain of treatment etc. What if his outlet was to beat the crap out of you, do you think you might cry?

Answer 4

I don't know what planet your from or maybe rock you crawled out from under but you need to get "REAL". Men are human beings and from the first breath we take in life it is a natural process to cry. Why is it such a stigma that men shouldn't cry that it's unmanly to do so? I have a guy that I love more than life and he is "all man" in every way yet when our beautiful cockier spaniel died this big hunk of male cried like a baby in my arms, that is how much we loved our dog. I'd rather have a man release his pain through tears than I would in anger, every living soul needs an outlet when they are hurting so deeply in their soul.

Answer 5

Real men don't cry, human beings do. Hence, the funeral of his mother he was a human being not a man, and any man would certainly become a human being in a situation like that. Otherwise, he is not different from a beast!

All the best!/

Answer 6

I agree with most of what has already been said. There's no shame in that man crying.

But I like to be different. . .

When President Nixon was about to face the music for Watergate, he asked Henry Kissinger to come into the Oval Office to pray with him. Nixon began to pray and broke down crying.

Later, when Kissinger retold the story of how Nixon wept, he said, ". . .It was just disgusting!"

You, my dear are probably just a Cybelian so you would find weakness in a man alternately disgusting yet strangely seductive.

Answer 7

I swear to God, are you a YA troll making this stuff up or what?

Because that's one option, the other is that you are incredibly emotionally stunted and lack empathy.

People will face life-changing crises in their lives. In the scenarios you provided (e.g. funeral of a parent, chemotherapy) you describe a male dealing with issues of mortality in which they must re-order their worldview. These are not atypical, and different people have different ways of dealing with them, but one thing is certain: everybody goes through them at some point(s) in their lives, and everything changes, and when it's over and if they survive and deal with things in a productive manner, they emerge stronger yet more empathetic and fully rounded human beings.

Answer 8

Real men cry and they don't care who sees them and the same should go for a woman. Crying does not make you weak it is a normal emotion just like any other. I think people that hide their tears are weak and insecure with who they are.

Answer 9

Ok, so this is the same guy who you asked about in the earlier question. Now you have shed light on the fact he lost his mother, and is also undergoing Chemo. Add to that, he has an insensitive wife who is more worried about image, he has earned the right to shed a few tears.

My opinion still stands, your husband can really pick them!

Answer 10

You are a very cold person. Everyone cries and just because you were told not to doesn't mean that everyone has to be like that. Real men do cry. It's the phony's that don't and pretend to be so cool and hold it in. Poor guys...always having to live up to being a tough guy. Good for your husband for crying. Too bad you aren't there for him. To console him and hold him. Poor guy. I hope he has some sort of support behind him.