I have always been a person who forms very strong attachments to men - butterflies, heart pounding, knot in the stomach kind of girl. Recently, all that has stopped. I'm not really attracted to anyone, and this has made me very nervous. Should I question my sexuality? I'm still a virgin, and a bit isolated at the moment - all my friends are away at college. Please help! Has anyone else had experiences where they question their sexuality?
2007-02-13 23:34:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Pretty much everyone questions their own sexuality at some point - if only to reassert the one they were sure applied to them in the first place.
Relax, getting worked up about what you are and who you might fancy will just make you more nervous (and unattractive to discerning folks). It's a vicious cycle.
Best thing is to try and find a set of friends in whose company you can relax. Have you considered that it might be the upheaval of having lost all of your friends to college, that has left you confused and upset? Work on resolving that isolation. As you bring yourself to accept or modify your environment, to something with which you're comfortable, so your desires will resurface.
2007-02-13 23:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a question of sexuality, I think you just need some time to/by yourself right now. Focus on what you want and need, not on who you want or need. You sound young and I promise you that things will start to seem more clear soon. Maybe it's not you. Maybe the right person, male or female, just isn't around you right now. When the right person comes along your heart will tell you how you feel about this person. Then you'll get your butterflies, tight chest and stomach-knot back. If you feel that way about a girl then you do, why deny it? If you feel that way about a guy then you are straight, if you have to label it. It'll all work out. Good luck. Isn't love grand?
2007-02-14 07:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all your friends are college age, I'm guessing you are too. Honey, you're still very young. You don't have to decide anything, questioning and experimentation is normal. There might not be anyone around at the moment that you're attracted to. That doesn't mean your sexuality is changing or different. It sounds like you need some friends though, you sound lonely. Check out happenings in your area, go out and make new friends, keep yourself open for new people and experiences. If you're in some remote, isolated area, make e-friends. Find places to chat, get connected to people that you have something in common with. Good luck honey.
2007-02-14 09:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by FTW 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey I dont think yiou should be worried about your sexuality,But I do think you may have a litttle depression going on which can affect your moods,and emotions.You have gone through some major changes and all your friend are off to school.I dont think you have met the one who is suppose to give you butterflies.If you are that concerned go talk to a counselor and get the stress level down and then ask your self all these questions when you are not depressed. Good LUck and I hope you feel better soon.
2007-02-14 07:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by stegall_sherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you asked the question in the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered area then maybe you just want someone to tell you you're gay. Is that what you want to hear? You came to the right place, then! The gays are going to say you're gay, the heteros are going to say you're not gay. Maybe you worry too much about it! Maybe it's a simple matter of what you already said- You're not really attracted to anyone. Maybe that's because nobody around you is attractive to you and that's all. If all your friends are gone away, try and get out more and make new friends. Someone is bound to strike your fancy and then the worrying will be over!
2007-02-14 07:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anomaly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's only natural that you question your sexuality. We all do at times in our lives. Don't worry about not being attracted to anyone, when the right person comes along, you'll be attracted in a big way.
Just be happy and don't worry.
2007-02-14 07:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone questions their sexuality..but you haven't said anything about being attracted to women so i would say your safe in your sexuality, but it sounds like something else is bothering you that is affecting everything else.
2007-02-14 07:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Crush06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has sexuallity got to do with beiong with no one? I am with no one and do NOT question myself. I love the ladies with all my heart, but do not want a steady girlfriend.
By the way, I am a MAN who LOVES WOMEN, all of them. Couldn't live W/O them, and surely cannot live with them. Tee Hee
2007-02-14 07:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it is natural. When you meet the right person.. man or woman you will know.
2007-02-14 07:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by confused 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋