i posted a question yesterday feeling so guilty that i had helped a friend of mine place a phone call to the wife of the man she was seeing. some people on this board had alot of bad things to say about what i did. needless to say i couldn't sleep because i helped to break up a family and because of my phone call this wife took the husband's kids away. all kinds of bad things started to happen. well i went by the house of the husband knowing the wife had moved out i needed to confess to him what i had helped to do. well when i drove up i saw my friend's car parked outside. i went to ring the door bell and something caught my eyes in the window it was the married man and my friend having sex in the sofa. i rang the bell anyway but of course got no reply. here i am feeling bad i destroyed a marriage and there they were enjoying themselves. my friend later had the husband called me and he said thanks for calling his wife. i was appalled. should i stop feeling guilty? why marry anymore?
2007-02-13 23:27:22 · 10 answers · asked by sexylousleo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your friend is evil, u have a conscience, but if it hadn't been your friend it would have been another girl because this is him, he was waiting to do this to his wife, would have done it anyway. they may appear as if they are enjoying themselves, but wait until the karma comes to them. u didn't destroy the marriage it was already in serious trouble. the marriage wouldn't have been happy even if the call had not come. the call actually helped the wife get out of it, and find out what her husband was doing, u did the woman a favor really, would u want to know if your hubby were doing this? i certainly would. u did her a favor, she can now move on because she knows the truth. don't give up on marriage, this is just the wrongs of one man in many. good luck, and forgive yourself and as k the lord to forgive u for any part u may have thought u had in it, but your not the cheater here, your friend is, she is the guilty party, so she is the one who is going to get whatever karma gives her.
2007-02-13 23:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No one can say or tell you how to feel about what took place. Nor can anyone judge you for the choice you made. only you know why you made the choice and the reason behind it. The marriage was destroyed by the husband for the choices he made. No one will truly know the damage if any. The wife got the truth. That's a good thing, she is/was able to make a decision based on the truth. I would say for you, take a good look at what happen from all sides, and make this a lesson that you LEARNED. and move on.
2007-02-13 23:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to have to cut into you but you need to get out of there business (well its a little too late for that) but however you and your friend did more han just ruin a relationshipyall are ruining a marriage and things are a whole lot different in a marriage. They are not going to just fall out with each other and things are going to be all good. You are doing way too much. Did you and your girl even think about how the kids are going to be effected. What difference did it make that the wife found out. Your girl probably knew he was married all along and she accepted that. So now she mad and not only ruining the wifes life but the kids and who ever else is involved. Now what if that wife flipped out and killed her husband or killed your girl. Now what would that make you guility of? And why is your girl messing with a married man? Did she think he was going to leave his wife?
2007-02-13 23:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by christyle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "wife" might be made right now but think about down the road : she will thank you as soon as she cools off but tell your friend once a cheat always a cheat she can't trust him!
2007-02-14 04:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by truewrdz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. The wife deserved to know the truth now rather than later. She's made her decision and left him, she is better off without this jerk in her life.
That cheating husband will get his punishment for years to come and will eventually regret what he did, especially when he's standing before god on judgement day.
He will burn in the fires of Hades for eternity.
2007-02-13 23:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obvi he has put you in the middle to do his dirty work! He's been having this affair for a long time and everything! STOP feeling so guitly! He doesnt so why should you????
2007-02-13 23:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that marriage was allready dead you just helped reveal that. also don't worry so much what other people think around here, if anything you probably did that woman a favor. now she can get on with her life! now you go do the same-HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!
2007-02-13 23:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by MR. EARL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault, they were just using you as a pawn in their scheme.
Hopefully the soon to be ex wife will find someone who is faithful to her.
2007-02-13 23:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Indiana Jones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the husband doesn't seem to broken up about it.. otherwise he wouldn't be having sex so quickly..
so don't worry about
he reaped what he sowed.. and now he's got to deal with the consequences
2007-02-13 23:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe a word of this tale.
2007-02-14 02:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋