Why do people have problems in their marriage?

Question

The solution seems so easy to me. Just love your partner and respect them. And just be happy! Be happy together! It is easy, yet the divorce rate is climbing. I just don't know what is going on in the world today. Why aren't people getting along?

Answer 1

Its not that people can't get along a lot of divorced couple are still very good friends i just believe that the values our country has today are all mixed up and we wed for the wronge reasons. we hook up for the benifit of having an attractive or weathly partner, instead of a person that complements your personality and values. we need to take more time getting to know each other out side of the physical connection to see who are you dating really.

Answer 2

It's not as easy as just loving and respecting your partner. Things happen (financial,emotional etc) that challenge us and our marriage and people change. I love my husband of 10 years but the things about him that used to amuse me, now annoy me. Sometimes you just grow apart, into different directions. The little things you used to debate about turn into full blown arguments. There are just so many factors that affect a marriage and for some couples, when they face a particular hurdle, they can't climb over it. It takes 2 very strong, committed and very compatible people to survive a marriage. It's really not as easy as just loving and respecting your partner. There's just so much more to it and until you've been married for at least 5 years, you won't understand just how hard it is to keep a marriage harmonious.

Answer 3

they have different belief systems, married for all of the wrong reasons, when they see that their expectations aren't being met, they become disenchanted with that person, also inability to communicate problems opens the door for infidelity. many problems are caused by an outsider in the marriage looking to separate the spouse from the other spouse. and if the marriage has a few unresolved problems it usually means the end of the marriage. too many people out there with no morals and no character who want a relationship with someone, and if they see a married person in a long term relationship they see a good thing there, and go after it.

Answer 4

Life is tough. Most people don't have the staying power. Most people marry for the wrong reasons too. They will deny it, but hey, the stats speak for themselves.

Most people have unrealistic expectations too. They are delusional frankly. When they come down to earth they see that life is no easier for them than it is for others. Money helps smooth a lot of difficulties, and a lot of people stay together because they have careers they love and a more balanced life. But those who are more religious in nature tend to stay together because it's a philosophy of life by which they live by, and materialistic things don't really factor in.

I think these people stay together more because life is about commitment and family and those are the priorities to them.

Others don't really have anything to base their spiritual life on so I think they go through life trying on new skins all the time if you know what I mean so marriage is very disposable and not a lifetime commitment to them, unless it goes their way of course.

Answer 5

Reasons for marital problems.
1 Sexual dissatifaction, which is the result of physical limitations of a partner or of boredom borne out of routine stuff.
2 Financial difficulties or incompatibility due to career options or lack of them.
3 Impulsive behaviour in the place of intuition and imaginative thinking.
4 lack of empathy and feeling of oneness on different issues or persons.
5 Incompatible opinions and lack of communication
6 Absence of mutual respect.
7 Extra- marital affairs.
8 Considering family as the centre of the universe and over-emphasis on family obligations and relations.
9 Materialistic culture spilling into sensive relations.
10 Easy access to exchange of information via modern media and changing cultural pattern.
A multitude of million other factor besides above, depending upon each individual case.

Answer 6

for me personally, I think problems start when the other person feels that they can change their partner, even though they married them just the way they are. One cannot go into marriage with any intentions on trying to change anything about their partner and if they cannot force that change, figure they can always get divorced later if things dont change to their liking.
Also refusing to communicate their feelings and needs in a honest truthful way is detriment to the marriage. Being honest about what you want is also important.
I think divorce needs to be harder to obtain and also marriage counseling needs to be mandatory for all married couples trying to get divorced, specially if there are children in the marriage.

Answer 7

we have different opinions and personalities.... that's why other people still get involve with divorce thing..... when u enter into a marriage life, its not just an easy game...its a deadly game.... you must learn all the things before trying to get married. you see in marriage, u both must have the relationship box. that box must contain love, respect, responsibility, loyalty, honest, understanding, etc. that box must be full at all times. but when u knew it would be empty, u must fill it up again and again....

Answer 8

Some people quickly get tired of looking out for the other person first. They become selfish and start only thinking of themselves. Loving someone and being happy sounds easy, and it can be, as long as you're both giving 100%.

Answer 9

I think in the US we put too much emphasis on falling in love in order to marry. Marriage and bearing children are much too important to leave to those who have 'fallen in love'... because it is difficult to think clearly when you are smitten. It seems to me we spend more time and energy purchasing a car or a place to live (both rather temporary) then we do choosing a life partner. Sometimes I think 'arranged' marriages make more sense because our parents know us and what suits us... they are way more objective as to the future... after all the progeny will be their grandchildren and so they have a huge stake in this marriage too.

Answer 10

Alot of couples don't get along is because they don't have time for each other, meaning most married couples work both male and female where they go to work and not see one another all day and when they get home they go in different directions and if they have kids they spend time with them and leave no time for themselves. Its a cycle day after day.They forget about one another because everything else is more important.