My wife and I have been apart for almost a year now and I have been trying to get her to come back home and work things out. It seems I been putting all the effort. I send her e-mails to her job she never respond to them unless I call to ask if she received it.
She tells me she will call be back but never does only when she feels like it. She states she is busy at work but when we were together it was not like that, she made time.
She has a son which I did not get along with so she stated she had to choose between him or I.
I stopped by her job today to drop off a valintine days gift and card and she stated she will give me something on tomorrow before she leaves tomorrow night to go to India.
I have not gone out in a year or tried to meet anyone else and I do not know what to do because I am 37 and I am tired mentally and physically trying to make things work.
She give me money to help with rent sometime or if I need money but the question is, Should I move on?
2007-02-13 22:39:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do a singles marriage counseling. Talk to a Pastor, See a lawyer.Good luck.
2007-02-13 22:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we can put so much effort into something we just run out of energy. she did have to choose between u and her son, and she never gets back to u, if u were truly a priority to her she would call u back, she seems uninterested in the marriage. sometimes this happens when stepparents don't get along with children from a previous marriage. seems as if u are putting all the effort into getting her back, and it just isn't going to happen right now. u have to decide if u are better off with or without her and than make up your mind what to do. marrying people who have children from another marriage seldom works out, and may just not be worth it, as these children will always be there, even after they reach adulthood, it does cause problems.
2007-02-14 06:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to rain on your parade of misery but the FAT LADY has sung the "IT's OVER song" on you!. You and your wife have been a part for a year or more---it's over dude.
Groveling for any attention from your estraged wife is a bit pathetic. See the writing on the wall and get your hiney down to an attorneys office for some legal advice. They will more than likely advise you to let them file for divorce on the grounds your wife abandoned you and your affections.
Stop calling her---make a new life for yourself. You're young, 37 and soon to be single. MOVE on---make new friends. Enjoy life and before you get saddled into any new relationships make sure you LOVE YOU 1st.
2007-02-14 06:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it sounds like your wife really did choose between her son and you any good mother would.. but i feel as if is other reasons too.. if she hasn't come back maybe she is not.. and you should move on.. a year is a long time to wait. and you need closure in your life.
Sometimes things work out for the better!! go ahead and file for divorce. good luck.
2007-02-14 06:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on seems to be the best scenario for you, its difficult but from what you have said you have tried and no real response from her, and she did tell you she had to choose between her son or you,
seems if she wanted to fix the problems she would of brought herself and her son back in your life to try to resolve the issues but she didnt....
2007-02-14 07:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? SHE gives u money? and u re thinking whether u should move on? wake up, where will u move on without her? u re pathetic - taking money from a woman. she pities u, this is the only reason she hasn't told u to go and molest yourself, cos nobody else would
2007-02-14 06:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that your wife is not going to come back Im afraid but she feels guilty about it. I think you should let her go.
2007-02-14 06:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by pepper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
straight answer for a straight question --- is yes ! --- as much as it hurts --- don't get stuck in "2nd' gear move on mate for your own piece of mind . good luck
2007-02-14 06:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have moved on long ago
2007-02-17 21:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋