Our work keeps us very busy..true..we have to read good books...true..we have to divert our mind in doing creative things...that is also true..but dont we need a person close to the heart..a soulmate...a close friend..who is only with us...show an unconditional love to us? What to do to make life meaningful when you dont have this type of friend..how to manage a lonely life?
2007-02-13 22:32:16 · 17 answers · asked by Saheli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think you "have to" do anything. You don't "have to" read books or "have to" do creative things. There's no set rules for your life. It's your life, so whatever works for you is right for you.
The thing about loneliness is that it has nothing to do with another person. Loneliness is a feeling that you have inside yourself, so it has to do with you. Even people in loving, committed relationships are lonely. Even people surrounded by frriends and loved ones are lonely.
It might not be realistic to say that you will never be lonely. But, if you want to feel less lonely, maybe you can explore why you feel lonely and try to fix it. Maybe your life isn't balanced enough? (I think that's what your question is hinting at.) We work, we sleep, we eat, etc. It's good to have a break, go on vacation, spend time with friends and talk to people about our concerns.
Reach out to those around you. My guess is that you are not alone in feeling lonely. If you are able to share a little bit of yourself with someone that you trust, you will probably feel better. But, you don't "have to" do anything.
Best wishes to you!
2007-02-13 22:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very insightful question. I too lead a somewhat lonely life although I don't think of it that way. I live by myself, I'm not married, nor in any relationship, I travel by myself, I go out to eat by myself...etc, etc.
So what do I do? I enjoy my time at work. I am lucky that I love what I do. I enjoy spending time with my coworkers after hours. I enjoy traveling and experiencing new things without having to see how the other person is liking things. If I want to scarf down my food in 2 minutes or 2 hours I can do that by myself.
Do I wish I had a significant other? Absolutely! But am I torturing myself and self-esteem over it? No way! I take one day at a time.
A good friend of mine said once, "List five things that were positive about today." So when I'm sad or feel that lonliness, then I say that and list the 5 things.
2007-02-13 22:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone who is single gets lonely sometimes. But, if you have had enough bad experiences with people ( or maybe with just one person), sometimes it feels better to have some alone time. I think that you can be alone and be content, you just need something to occupy your time, like an interest or hobby, even though it sounds cheesy. It always helps to have your friends and family there for you as well. My husband passed away awhile back, and at first it was very hard for me to get up each day- but I knew I had to! I have a 5-year old son who needed me to take care of him. I know that death and divorce are not necessarily the same thing, but they both hurt, and they both leave you alone. My main point is, that even though I miss my husband very much, I am starting to realize that I still have the rest of my life ahead of me- you need to realize this too. No matter how impossible it seems, the hurt does start to fade. I'm not sure what your experience was, but don't let it get you down too much. There is always a chance for happiness no matter what! This means alone or with someone by your side. If you have been hurt, don't give up! Not everybody is like that, so keep your chin up, think positive( I swear that really helps), and you will get through it!
2016-03-29 06:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your passion and work for it.
Find out if you wanted to play a musical instrument, write a book, build aquariums or just watch movies.
Build a new website or help a poor child get educated.
Enjoy - whatever you do.
You may find a soulmate in the process. In the meantime appreciate what you have and work a little harder for what you don't.
2007-02-14 02:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by Smart Indian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is meaningless without a friend...i agreed. to find a friend that will shower u with unconditional love is difficult, if u can find the friend you mean, congratulations to u, but b4 u get to know him, plz lead ur life in a proper way, loneliness is just an excuse for u, plz go and mix with other friends, they might be the one you are looking for...and for u, plz show ur unconditional friendship to them too , can u?
2007-02-14 00:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by ~~simply me~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God did NOT mean for man to be alone. Humans are a social animal, and need companionship. This is why God created EVE for Adam. My advice is to make friend and spend time with people. This is a partially what gives meaning to life, the second part is loving people.
2007-02-13 22:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm.......lets see, you can have hobbies that you like. Get a pet like a dog or cat, or if you want to develop meaningful friendships, maybe join some clubs, or take classes at a local community college. There are also solitary activities you can do when you have time for yourself.
2007-02-13 22:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cactus flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u Know , its seems to me, one of the most difficult ques to answer....BUT ..let me try...........u know...its easy if u ever didnt had a friend like this...but once if some one used to be there at any period of yr life , then its difficult to live, after he/she left.
by reading books, keeping yr self busy with something , u can divert yr mind for a while..but..what abt yr heart?....
ability To find substitute of any one is always differs person to person , if u look arnd you, u will find person like u, whose solumate had left then, once upon a time but they succesfully managed , as they able to find some substitute , most of the time...but ...u r not able to find that substitute in any one , as u r different frm those ppl.
So this is the byproduct of being different frm others, and its always going to be painful...having said that..its not that, this pain will going to be there for life time...but only TIME will cure it, as u r different frm others , so..it will take more time compare to others.
dont loose yr heart , atleast there r ppl who understand yr feelings!
2007-02-13 23:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself in a position of exposure doing something you know and love. i manage a grocery store and decided i wanted to learn how to fix computers. i did so and fix them now for others. its a full life and i dont have much idle time but i enjoy it and now have friends who have that in common with me. again, find something you like and share it...you wont be lonely for long. good luck.
2007-02-13 22:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate Cheating..playing with the feelings of the people...hate timebound love and affection. Hate females who consider males as an item of only entertainment.
THERE IS SOMEONE IN THIS BEAUTIFUL WORLD LIKE YOU,TRY TO SEARCH THEM
2007-02-14 23:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by ROSERAJA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋