I think it's a bit unfair, he is sitting right next to me but the midwife or doctor doesn't even aknowledge him, they just talk to me. He made the baby too!
How about you?
2007-02-13 22:11:00 · 23 answers · asked by Smoochy Poochy 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No, I never experienced this, even now my health visitor either talks to my husband or if he isn't with me she will ask how he is. Throughout my whole pregnancy, all professionals included my husband.
2007-02-13 22:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't take my husband along to my ante natal appointments. I don't feel he needs to be there while I have my blood pressure taken and my wee checked. If there was a problem with the baby and I went for a scan or to see a consultant, then he would come. But for routine ante natal appointments I really don't think it's necessary.
At these appointments, the midwife is essentially checking the mother's body, and is making assumptions about the baby on the signals her body is giving. Therefore I'm not surprised that they don't involve the partner too much. Where the sperm came from is irrelevant for their job!!
2007-02-13 22:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My doctor is very friendly and caring and at our first appointment, he included my fiancee into every aspect of the conversation that he could. Of course, when the questions were just about how I was feeling physically or emotionally, my fiancee couldn't really answer that! My doctor did call my fiancee over to us every time we hear the heart beat, though, and the technician even adjusted the monitor when I had my ultrasound done. When the physical exams are done, we often sit down in my doctor's personal office and discuss our concerns regarding future blood tests, caring for our future son, and anything else that might worry us. I feel as though he gives us equal time.
2007-02-14 00:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the father of all of my children - we were married after our first was born.
With my first pregnancy he was unable to go to all of my appointments, my mom went with me instead. With the second pregnancy I went alone most of the time. With this pregnancy he's come with to all the appointments and just this last one him and my doctor were busy talking while I was sitting on the table waiting for the doctor was looking for the heart beat. It was kind of funny in a way, but at the time I didn't think so.
I'm just glad that my doctor, who is a man, is sensitive to how the fathers feel and talks to them just as much as the woman who is there to see him.
2007-02-14 00:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by lilly_rose_starphase 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The midwife/doctors concern is you and the baby as you are the patients. In what way would you like them to involve your husband/boyfriend?!? My Fiancee insisted on coming with me to my first MW appointment (even though I told him not to bother) and my midwife asked him if he would like to feel my baby through my tummy like she does when she is checking the size/position but I think this is probably uncommon. He accepted but was useless as he is afraid of pushing too hard LOL. It is like going to the doctors for any other reason, you wouldn't expect your doctor to acknowledge whoever you went with as they aren't the patient, you are.
2007-02-14 00:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by kimbo1605 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately, I have a very attentive doctor. My husband is not able to make every single appointment. He has made about 75% of them and every time he is with me, my doctor always includes him and makes sure he answers all of our questions. He addresses my husband directly and includes him in all discussions. Gaging from the other answers, I guess we are very fortunate and have an excellent doctor.
:)
2007-02-13 23:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ye that is true they do ignore them that was one of the reasons why i changed midwives and managed to get my doctor who was a midwife as my midwife she was amazing and consulted and disc used everything this made all of our lives a lot better and we were able to understand things more.
good luck and congratulations.
2007-02-13 22:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on your doctor... my husband didn't come with me to many appointments, but my doctor always asked how he was and if he was staying involved, etc, and when he did come with me, they would chat and the doctor would always ask questions like "do you have any questions about what to expect?" or "would you like to come find the heartbeat?" to get him involved. You can always try to get a different doctor, or at an appointment that your husband doesn't go to, try talking to your doctor and ask him to try and involve your husband more in the appointments. My husband was so excited and very involved in my pregnancy thanks to my doctor!!
2007-02-13 22:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by lynn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I just found out that I'm pregnant and my darling boyfriend is already making funny faces when I tell him when the appointments are and that he has to go with me. He would rather work and get a little overtime. I'm going to get my friend to go with me sometimes so he doesn't get the blues.
2007-02-13 22:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by miss_spoon0143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never had this problem .. but my husband is chatty and would jump into the conversation , and when i was in labour he had the nurses running after him making him toast and coffee and i was left lying on the bed being totally ignored !
2007-02-13 23:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋