Ladies: How and what can a man do to understand women?

Question

Ladies: How and what can a man do to understand women?
- Women's feelings, thoughts, emotions, reactions, behaviour, interests, wants, needs, abilities, dreams, et cetera.

ANSWERS FROM LADIES ONLY PLEASE.
THIS IS FOR A PROJECT

Answer 1

you quite simply will never fully understand women.
you can better understand them by keeping a few things in mind such as:
1) women are not all the same. I don't care how many women did this or that or said this or that, this is not evidence of women being all the same. Every woman is a unique individual with wants, needs, loves, hates, and history that is uniquely theirs.
2) women are not men nor do we need to emulate men to prove our worth.
3) some women are at times at the mercy of the emotional left overs reproductive cycles that mess with their hormones, feelings, thoughts, and desires.
4) you can not understand all women. not all women want to be understood. each woman's unique individual history, family of origin, set of experiences, and hopes and dreams and desires are all only parts of who she is. there is always an X factor. the unknown within any person. If you want to understand a particular woman better then ask her to help you do that but don't presume there is some recipe for understanding all women.
5) even if some women do try to speak for all women, they actually don't. They can only speak from their own experience and knowledge and learning which is just one unique individuals opinion.
6) some women want to have careers, some women want to have families, some women want to have career and family and some women want just live each day without focussing o family or career.
7) some women will use their emotions to get what they want, this does not mean that every time a woman shows an emotion that she is doing this. it does not mean that she isn't either. we are all individuals
8) children may be the centre of some womens lives they may be an incredible invasion into the lives of other women and to some they do not even really exist while yet other women quite capably compartmentalise their children into a particular area of their life.
9) not all women are attracted to men. some women are attracted to women and some women are just not sexually orientated and some women are attracted to all genders to varying degrees.
10) some women are extremely intelligent some are not and most are somewhere in between. some women are logically intelligent while others are creatively intelligent and some women are spiritually intelligent while others are emotionally intelligent while most women are intelligent in all these areas to varying degrees.

Answer 2

Gain a better understanding of humans and realize that women, like men, are all individuals and that no gender belongs to a club where feelings, thoughts, reactions, etc. are dictated by gender.

If a person can understand humans really well then all they may need to do in some cases (when it comes to SOME women and SOME men) is this:

Think of humans. Then think of a gender. If that gender is women then add to all the other human things the following:

Women aim much of their efforts at building stability for their family, trying to raise well adjusted children, being aware that man does not live by bread alone and paying attention to emotional needs, being willing to sacrifice their own wants and needs for their children, and a general fierce maternal instinct.

You can't ignore the fact that women do the having-of-the-babies. So if someone wanted to understand that isolated thing that women have he/she could read up on what women think and feel during pregnancy and right after delivery.

Men often aim to build themselves into people who can earn as much as possible (to provide security for their family) and think in terms of income. Many men don't have the "big picture" approach to what children need now, how what happens now will affect them later, and how much thought and effort go into building emotional wellbeing and intellect into children.

People who write books on what women want and what men want don't always know what they're talking about. I have read so many books that say what each gender thinks and wants, and in my own life I have seen that I so often fit into the "men" category while a man in my life so often fit more into the "women" category. I know enough people to know that my personal "miscatgegorization situation" is not at all unique. Men aren't from Mars and women aren't from Venus!!! We are all from Earth; and while most of us share many, many, things associated with being a human, we are all also individuals who have our own little ways of being different.

Again, though, if a man wants to understand women he just needs to understand enough about all humans and understand himself, too. The main differences between men and women are so often just a matter of packaging and sexuality while the similarities between all humans are a matter of what is in their minds and their hearts and is shared.

In the past, girls and boys have been raised differently; and as a result, girls haven't always developed all the parts of their abilities and boys have, in different ways, be equally short-changed in terms of being nurtured into a more well balanced person. If, however, you matched up a bunch of well balanced and well adjusted, mature, women and men THAT is where you would see how alike all humans are.

Women are not aliens. If you want to know what we think ask yourself what you think. If you want to know what we have for emotions ask what you have for emotions. If you want to know what we want think about the things in life that you want.

If someone wants to understand women they need to be able to get it through their head that behind the smaller and more feminine looking packaging there is very often a person who is exactly like a whole lot of men!

Its difficult to try to point out that well adjusted, mature, men and women are the same while also acknowledging that they have differences in anatomy and sexuality that certainly do play a role. I think the best way to try to explain it is this: If you picture that a mature, well adjusted, human is the answer to a math problem; and then if you picture how many people will use a different approach to solving that problem and reaching the same answer, maybe that's the best way to explain how sexuality and anatomy play a role in people's being well adjusted and mature humans without dividing the genders into two groups of aliens who don't share the common emotions and thought processes and dreams and needs that all humans have.

Answer 3

Are you up to something?


With women, I simply treat them with respect and kindness|

I don't try to analyze them|

If you are looking for the right one, the best way to find her is to simply be yourself| Don't attempt to manipulate a result, it won't work (unless you are a sociopath preditor, but that is different)|


If you are simply yourself, the right woman will come into your life, naturally, without you doing anything to facilitate it|



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Answer 4

you wish only ladies. ha ha

understanding women ya right that would
be a miracle in it self.

Answer 5

easy, listen to her words, not your perceptions of her words.

Answer 6

no use.