girl dissapear into the night. Im sick of hearing that stupid statement. I think what there really saying is be our slaves and do our bidding and we won't leave you! right! I mean thats whats comming across ladies, just so you know.
2007-02-13 21:26:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
(Quote) How to work on your personality? Here are some ideas:
Widen out in your circle of friends and the things you're interested in.
Get a hobby
Develop the relationships that you do have, more fully.
Do typically old fashioned "good deeds"
This is my take on that....Widen your circle of friends.... so that we have more men to choose from to cheat with.
Get a hobby...so that you won't be around to see me cheat on you.
Develope relationships you do have more fully...
so when I leave your as* you will have some one to fall back on, ok thought full but sick. and
Do typically old fashoned good deads, so that if my new relationship goes bad, I may have a chance to come back to you because old fashoned deeds don't work any more on woman.
You female creatures are smart and I love it but Im still not sold.
2007-02-13 22:35:00 · update #1
Wow. You've made up a lot of make-believe to attach to those statements.
"Just be yourself" is what people say when they don't believe people should be phony just to make someone like them. People who say that do realize that if someone doesn't like the real you then you will lose them, but those people who say that also know that a relationship built on lies won't last (and even if it did it wouldn't be healthy to anyone involved).
"Widen your circle of friends" means "widen your circle of friends". The more variety you have in your circle of friends, the more rewarding it is, and the more chance you'll have of meeting yet other people. Also, the more likely it will be that your interests will be expanded, thereby helping you to develop your personality.
"Get a hobby" means "get a hobby". Having a hobby is a healthy way to be interested in something that is just your own thing and that gives you joy.
"Develop the relationships you have more" means "develop the relationships you have more". The purpose of this, as with widening the circle of friends, is to encourage you to enjoy your relationships on better level because having really good and solid relationships makes a person feel more whole.
"Do old fashioned good deeds" means be nice. You're wrong in your belief that being nice doesn't win any women. Women like men who are nice. Anyone who advises you to be nice is honestly trying to give you a hint about what women are really looking for.
And just so YOU know, no nice, well adjusted, woman wants anyone to be her slave or needs anyone to "do her bidding".
Just so you know, if a woman leaves you she most likely has no plans of ever coming back.
Just so you know, if a woman dislikes the relationship enough to leave it probably means she's not thrilled with you, and she probably isn't worrying about whether you have anyone to fall back on or not.
Just so you know, decent, well adjusted, women have no plans to cheat.
I don't know if you're attracted to the wrong kind of women or if the attitude that shows up in your question shows up when you are "the real you" and drives ok women away or a little or a lot of both; but the answer isn't in not being yourself but rather in making some changes in the way "yourself" sees women.
The "lines" that you picked apart are not something women have made up. They are generally accepted advice that anyone who understands good mental/social health believes in - plain and simple. The fact that you have added your own interpretation and portrayed women as out to fool you, cheat on you, leave you, or whatever else is a-whole-nother problem that you need to address before you can ever hope to find a nice relationship.
"Be yourself" is not a stupid statement. It remains one of the most fundamentally critical elements of any solid relationship. If being yourself is making women leave then, as I said before, that's the thing you need to pick apart and analyze and fix. There's nothing wrong with having some issues that need to be worked out, but there's something awfully wrong about accusing women of things you've invented as a way of removing any of the blame from your own issues.
2007-02-13 23:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
When we say "be yourself" it means "forget your agenda".
Since this isn't working for you, it means one of two things. But it stands to reason that hitting the nail on the head would depend on me knowing who you are as a person, and what your agenda is.
If your agenda is:
one night stand/shallow sex, then obviously, being sincere isn't going to get you that. So, the advice to "be yourself" in that case, isn't applicable.
If your agenda is:
a caring and possibly long lasting relationship, then being sincere is the right thing to do.
If it hasn't worked until now, then maybe you should work on your personality so that when a woman with the same desire does find herself with you being you, she'll actually enjoy being in your company and stick around.
How to work on your personality? Here are some ideas:
Widen out in your circle of friends and the things you're interested in.
Get a hobby
Develop the relationships that you do have, more fully.
Do typically old fashioned "good deeds"
While you're doing these things, you'll be "forgetting your agenda", and the person you end up coming across as will be what women (who are worth attracting for agenda number 2 above) are attracted to: someone who's interested in lots of things, talented perhaps, deep, sensitive, caring, etc ... a romantic relationship will develop as a by product. Trust this!
2007-02-13 22:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by bethisfound 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-17 09:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are out of practice, or need some female expertise. I would like an old fashioned type, cause I am an old fashioned gal(most of the time). I do like to get down and dirty sometimes tho. To be yourself simply means, dont pretend to be something your not. It is hard to live a lie.
2007-02-13 23:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise all people in any relationship to be themselves.
What is the alternative?
If a girl is not into you after having been yourself, let it go and move on. Why would you want a girl who doesn't like you?
I would say to some people who tend to be obnoxious and rude and nasty that they might want to think about their behaviour. Being yourself does not mean you can just say what you like, when you like and with complete disregard for other people.
2007-02-13 23:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listening to a woman giving relationship advice is like taking financial advice from a loan shark. You need to do a search for PUA (pick-up artist) on google or something and learn how to really get women attracted.
2007-02-14 02:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's my advice: take the advice of the other guy who said stop trying. You sound very bitter, and you need to work on that...you'll never find anyone with that attitude. I mean, that's how you're coming across, anyway.
2007-02-14 02:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the answer was obvious but I will try and spell it out for you.
We don't want to waste our time. If you are a dweeb we dont' want to go on thinking you are a hot guy when under the surface you are a dweeb. Eventually we find out and we will dump you harder then if you just show your dweebiness.
Alternatively we dont' want to miss out on a prince charming hiding behind some other false exterior.
I want a guy to show me his qwirks early and if I like em then I know we wil have a fulfilling and fun relationship. Chances are if I see quirks up front I will learn to love them but if I find out about them after a while I will hate them. I don't want to waste a good chance on such deception.
2007-02-14 00:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Would you ask a woman how to design an engine, perform brain surgery, or set up a manned mission to mars ? No ? Thought so, why do you ask a woman how to get what you want from women then. Ask men who have success with women instead.
2007-02-14 02:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Bingo! That's why I've walked away for the Dating Scene. It's up to you. Play their Game. Or GTFO! I chose to be alone.
2007-02-13 21:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋