For divorced woman, How can you recover and find new happy life after divorce?

Question

How does your ex's characteristics influence in your finding new man if you loved your ex so much and never hate him despite you are divorved?

Answer 1

There is life after divorce Honey! Been there, done that. I LOVED my X so much, that I thought I would not be able to breathe without him. Guess what? I can. On the down side however, he has influenced me in that I hold alot of myself back, and find it hard to give my all anymore. Even though he hurt me dreadfully, I still cannot hate my X either, as I am sure that I did things wrong too. I have forgiven him, if not forgotten what he did. I was insecure, afraid of being hurt again etc. for a long time. I have however met a wonderful, kind, patient guy, who surprises me every day more and more. He has made me realize that I too had faults in my marriage, and it has made me admit to those faults so I won't make the same mistakes again. He has taught me a great deal about myself that I did not know, and slowly but surely I have learned to love and live again. Give yourself time and be patient with yourself and anyone who comes into your life. You too will learn that the world does NOT revolve around your X, and you will love better the next time for having gone through the experience. Chin up and Good luck!

Answer 2

i'm not a divorced woman but my parents are divorced. my mum had a really hard time with it, she'd be doing ok and then my dad would just do another stupid thing and we would all be back to square 1. gradually it came to us that my dad was a different person, someone that we couldn't love, we loved the person my dad used to be but my mum learned to move on, and my brothers and i accepted that he was never going to love us again, but i decided to keep trying because i believe if he changed then he can change a little bit in order to accept his children in his heart. anyway, i'm sure you will gradually move on and i'm sure you will find a new man just by chance, and without even knowing it you may find more happiness.

Answer 3

well i would hope his characteristics would not influence you since you got divorced and that doesnt work for you other wise you would still be married. so maybe think of what you didnt like instead of what you did and make sure the new man in your life doesnt have those..

Answer 4

It's like failing in an exam. What do you do now? Study harder and better so you can pick up better clues for future exam. Move on and look ahead is the best way to recovery and don't recall old times cause it will come back to haunt you ...indirectly.

Answer 5

Avoid spending time alone...hang out with your friends or keep yourself busy and also do something that you enjoy doing. Also look back at what caused the arguments the two of you could have had and pick out what you could have done wrong and avoid doing that in future relatioships.All the best.

Answer 6

if u loved your ex u may find yourself comparing him to the next man, and may not be able to find someone to fill his shoes, so u have to put the past in the past, and know the next person may not be just like your ex. as everyone is different, they do things differently, have different personalities, and the past is best left in the past, got to move on with an open mind.

Answer 7

easy.....get out there and rock the town....once an ex, always an ex...they are forgotten people in my eyes....and life goes on....don't dwell on the has beens, get out there and enjoy your freedom....he's an ex for a reason....right?

Answer 8

it will take a long time.but eventually u will find a new guy.especially when u not lookin.

Answer 9

By forgeting about him.