How do you handle sadness over never having received any valentine gift?

Question

I am a 26-year old woman and I've never had a bf. I too, have never received any flowers or chocolate in my entire life and that includes every valentine's day that come every year.

It breaks my to see a lot of women receiving valentine cards, flowers, stuffed toys and chocolates. Many people would say i'm shallow but yeah, nobody understands how I feel inside.

I'm a woman and I've never received any flower from a guy. I feel less of a human. I feel deprived by life. It's the simple things that we want in life. If the saying "THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE ALWAYS FREE", then who come these simple joys don't come to me? Life is NOT just into me. Life has forgotten about me.

And then I had to endure teasings by co-workers over not having received any flower or gift or not having a date for valentines.

to nobudE: I can buy flowers myself if want them. It's the THOUGHT i'm talking about and the joy having realized someone love you enough to give you a gift. And flowers are an expression of LOVE. but i wouldn't buy them for myself even if i can.

So don't dare accuse me of being shallow.

We give the dead flowers. Why? BUT CAN'T give people flowers when they're alive. Sounds nonsense to me. What will the dead do with flowers.

Answer 1

Hopefully THIS will be your year, if not YOUR YEAR IS COMING, where all the girls in the office will totally gloat over what you got - something totally different from what all the other girls have.
P.S. I'd really rather have a nice card, nice meal cooked at home, and candlelit dinner, rose petalled bedroom....... but to each his own. I no longer work in corporate America but maybe you should let your man know about the "competion" that exists there??

Answer 2

Teasing Is out of line.
I Believe that he best way to get a Gift is to give a gift. But here is the catch, Gifts are something that you give because you want to, not because you have to and don't expect anything back.
The Best things in life are free. A smile can change someones day, a few kind words to some one can really pick them up. You never know how much this can mean to another . You have to become happy with yourself and not rely on others for happiness.
So If you would really like something for Valentines day send something to your self. you don't have to tell anyone that it is from yourself!

You can always start sending gifts to friends and Family, Something as small as a greeting card can really make someone feel needed and loved. and with that gesture you are sure to get something... It shows them that you care enough to think about them.

But are you wanting a Boyfriend? or the gifts that come?

Answer 3

wow i cant believe how mean the others were. I guess they have never experienced being lonely and feeling alone.

I understand how you feel. I had 2 b/f in my life and the first one didn't count and the 2nd one I married because i was lonely and I thought i was in love.. I lowered my standards... from experience it is better to be lonely than to lower your standards. I know that getting the candy and the gifts are not the important thing...it is because they are from someone that loves you and that is what you want. Am I wrong? If it is the candy..you can go buy that your self. And you day your 26?? and your coworkers tease you...they need to grow up and get a heart.

As far as finding someone...try the date sites... www.plentyoffish.com is free... good luck and i hope you have a happy valentines day in spite of being alone :)

ps..I'm alone too but that is ok..better then being with someone that treats you like crap :)

Answer 4

Why don't you give your self a valentine gift? Buy yourself some flowers have a candle lit bubble bath and a glass of champagne.
Being single ain't all that bad..... usually when you do meet a man they treat you like dirt anyway.At least you have been saved from heart ache or going out with a complete jerk.I'm sure life hasn't forgot about you.you are still young.And believe it or not you are not alone feeling like this a lot of women would be feeling sad today for the same reason. HAPPY VALENTINES DAY ! Please cheer up
I have a boy friend and got nothing either

Answer 5

I can defiantly see how this can be frustrating for you! I think everything happens for a reason. getting candy and flowers is nice, sure but focus on the other parts of your life, Career, family, a hobby. I'm sure you will meet someone some day and will get flowers! Just stay positive. Good things come to those who wait. My older cousin, 27, is the nicest guy and always gets broken up with. We all go through hard times, but you day will come so just hang in there!

Answer 6

I have never had a boyfriend either. I think that if the right man is ever to come along than it will happen in the right time. When I look back at all of the boyfriends that my friends had I think it is sad. Yes they had a boyfriend but the the relationships did not last. I am a person who does not have to have a boyfriend all the time like my friends did.

I feel that it is important to be friends with a man before you date them. There has to be a smooth transition that takes place. If you are not friends with the man like my friends weren't then it will more than like not work out.

Just like a book there has to be a "middle". If you have only a front and back cover than it will not make any sense.

Hang in there girl, your time is coming and when it does it will be beautiful.

Answer 7

Think about how great and romantic it will be one day when you've finally met that someone special and he will have been your Only Valentine Ever. He won't be competing against Valentines memories of crappy ex-boyfriends. And it won't be something you have to brag about to your crappy friends and co-workers, it'll just be a special feeling inside of you.

Also, you say life has forgotten about you, but is it possible that YOU've forgotten about life? Or ignored it? Life does pass you by if you don't actively participate, and make your own way, and decide you want something and go out and get it.

Good luck and feel better.

Answer 8

Aww, that sucks! : (
Don't fret though, 26 isn't that old! I truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone...you just haven't found your match yet. Have you ever thought about joining an internet dating site, like lavalife or match.com? You should, I know some people who've met their significant others that way! Don't let immature co-workers get you down, they obviously have something lacking in their lives that they have to belittle someone else. Your prince charming is out there, have faith, and love will come find you! Happy Valentines Day! : )

@---8----- <---- a flower for you!

Answer 9

This year why not give some Valentine gifts- Doesn't have to be anything fancy - A card for a friend - or maybe some heart shaped cookies - or some inexpensive flowers. - I think it will help you feel better.

Answer 10

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