i need advice???

Question

would it be wrong of me to send my ex an email an tell him how i feel to see if there is any chnce for us before i move on??
i still love him
we have been apart for nearly a year. is it too late???
and should i tell him all my feelings or just come out and ask simply if hed give us another chance???
we have had contact over the year and he has been driving past my house but he said it was coz he was worried bout me....
we were together for 4.5 years he is 30 and i am 23.

do i email him and tell him i miss you or tell him all o my feelings for him???

Answer 1

Move on...

Answer 2

I always think that one should not go backwards. There are reasons, and at the time probably GOOD reasons why you broke up in the first place. First think long and hard about the reasons, and then see if you really think you want to go through it all again. Move on Honey. Find love somewhere else. You need to work through these feelings for your X first though, otherwise you will never be able to love completely again. Why not phone him is you feel the reasons were not so important after all, and invite him over for a talk. Talk it out with him about how you are feeling, and explain to him that the issues between you two need to be resolved one way or the other. See what his reaction is to all this, and take it from there. Good luck though, like I said, we should learn to move forward, not backwards. Things usually work out the way they should.

Answer 3

If your on good enough terms with him I don't see the harm.

I'm a guy, as one, I can be concerned about a woman and not love her. Be prepared for that. I don't have enough details go on.

From the info I do have, 50% chance he only cares enough to make sure your ok. Once you let him know that, he will breath a syh of relief and move on. Probably still talk to you once in a while but would be happy to hear you have found someone new and wouldn't feel guilty about finding someone else for himself.

~or~

He will want you back, but take things slowly if this is the case.

One thing is definite, there seems to be unresolved feelings between you both.

I suspect he feels guilty for some reason. For that reason whenever you have a problem he feels obligated to come and help you until his debt to you is repaid. (Don't do that him on purpose because he will find out eventually.) I'm not saying you are or are not; I'm just telling you what I've seen other people do in situations that might not even pertain to what's happening in your for instance. I don't know anything about either of you. This is all just my opinion and guess work based on my own experience and the data provided.

Ok, so, talk to him, let him know he doesn't have to worry about you anymore because your ok. ~and~ Then tell him that you love him and want what is best for you and for him. ~and~ Tell him that you want to get back to together again BUT only if he is willing to sit down and talk things over, get any and all issues and problems on the table. Stress that you want to build a new positive history together.

Keep in mind that each "~and~" is meant to be a separate emotion / issue.

*** IF he turns you down you have to except his answer like this.

You have to realize that you can still be happy. Think to your self, having a life with no joy to even cry over being without isn't worth having. Get what I'm saying.

Make your self vulnerable, but keep a sharp eye out so not to be exploited. (I have no idea what type of guy your dealing with.) If it doesn't work out you will find someone and they will make you smile again.

Believe it or not, it's a win situation. Think of all the Mr. rights that you might disregard if you continued to wonder about your X.
Maybe your X will make a comeback tour. Either way this is going to be a good change, maybe not right a way. Stay close to friends, family, or co-workers.

This is definitely worth getting the answers you seek.

Be careful, be strong, be open minded, you can do it.

Answer 4

it is never tolate to tell him how you feel, HOWEVER he may not feel the same way so be prepared for that. The age is not an issue now or ever, you can not help who you fall in love with. Don't email him phone him. An email is so impersonal and a phone call will show you really are serious.
If he does not feel the same way sweetie then you have to move on, but you will never know unless you try and you do not want to spend your life wondering what if?

Answer 5

Never too late to try to find out whether the one you still in love with is still available to be your lover. Send him an email and ask if he is still interested to do/play or whatnot that you two used to like doing together.

Stop looking at this text; send him an email, NOW!

All the best.

Answer 6

If he is driving by your house and replying that he is worried about you it shows he stil has feeling towards you. But whether these feelings are there ones you want who knows. I would e-mail him and letting him know that you still have strong feeling for him, I would not tell him all of your feelings doing so could scare him into thinking that you are overly obsessive with him, and could cause more than just a loss in a friend. Just tell him that you still have feelings for him and just find out if he still has any for you.

Answer 7

quite simple realy there is oviously a good reason that u r broken up so move on love can take years to stop hurting nd never realy fades but somtimes love is just not enough to make a sucessful relationship

Answer 8

if he is driving by your house, it sounds like he still cares to.
Do send him an e-mail and say you miss him and see where things go from there. not knowing why you broke up in the first place its hard to say weather things will work out, but you should try if you still care about him.

Answer 9

The only way you will know if you do take some kind of action. How you do it by email, or phone. It doesnt matter. But you will never know if you don't do anything.

Answer 10

is he alone?
if he is not do nothing...
the only thing that you will fell after sending your mail is that you are stupid....
anyway you are so young!!!!!
the future is yours!!!!!

anyway, that s your life!
do what ever you think is the best!

good luck!

Answer 11

yes do it but dont expect him to feel the same. be prepared to move on.