My GF of 2 years and I just broke up. She's 5'7" and 260 pounds. I am 5'7" 155 pounds. I fell in love with her personality and joy we had together. Now that the vibe is not there anymore and she doesn't seem to be the one I fell in love with anymore. I broke up with her and she blames me for dumping her because she's a big woman. I killed my self explaining to her that her size has nothing to do with it but she doesn't wanna hear it. What can I do or say?
2007-02-13 19:00:44 · 19 answers · asked by ---Ã?--- 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shes is just using her weight as a way to get you back, she knows that you wouldn't have stayed with her for two years if you had a problem with her weight. She is probably just upset and little depressed and not thinking clearly, it happens to the best of us ya know? If she keeps on trying to put on guilt trip on you for the weight issue just ignore her and move on, you cant help that you are no longer in love with her, you are a good man you saw past her weight for two years and you know that your leaving her for the right reasons, as long as you've told her all that then you've done all you can.
2007-02-13 19:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by Megz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe she really just wasn't the one for you if you don't get that feeling anymore. It's time for you both to just move on with your lives and let this be in the past. Meet new people and don't continue having contact with your ex. It's the only way to forget about her. May be hard in the begining, but it's for the best.
2007-02-14 03:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Ceniccola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up with her i think that you didnot love her truely because foundations of true cannot be destroyed.... i believe you should tell her the true reason for your break up....Solve the situation and if the problem is small and can be solved and your love for each other is true you may come back again together otherwise...
2007-02-14 03:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is to assure her that after 2 years of being in a relationship with her that it didn't just dawn on you that she is over weight. There is nothing else you can do it is just something she is going to have to deal with.
2007-02-14 03:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nina C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u really can't do anything to make her feel any better about herself. she must have loved u alot more than u did her, it happens, best to back off and just let her think whatever she wants to. she must not have a clue to why, maybe u never discussed it with her, but it's a little too late now, best to just let it go if u don't love her for whatever reason. whatever reason u give her is still going to hurt her.
2007-02-14 07:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do or say. She does not want you to leave so she is trying to guilt you in to coming back, best thing you can do for both of you is to just walk away with no more contact for awhile. She will get over it as will you everything just takes time.
2007-02-14 03:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by daisy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything. She is just trying to manipulate you. She knows dang well it has nothing to do with her size or you never would have gone out with her to begin with. She is just using her size now to make you feel guilty. You can buy into it or wise up and realize what she is trying to do and move on. She wants you to feel bad, man.....dont let her do that to you. Just let it go.
2007-02-14 03:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were with her for 2 yrs. then she needs to grow up. That though she has in her head about her "size" is an excuse to make you feel bad. Nobody takes a breakup easy, this is her way of "Getting" back at you. Dont beat yourself up, its not your fault that she changed and you dont like it.
2007-02-14 03:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by Robert T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is insecure with herself like all other big women, of course she will automatically think that her weight was the issue. Instead of breaking up with her why not find out why she changed or what she was unhappy with ?
2007-02-14 03:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's just feeling sorry for herself. it will go away in time. she just wanted to put the blame on something that really isn't there so she'll not feel guilty. let her be for now and if you really want to explain to her the reason...try it after she quieted down regarding the your break up.
2007-02-14 04:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by shekinahjireh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋