From past 1 month I'm in a serious problem.....plzzz.....help.....?

Question

Hello friends...im an 18 yr old boy from bangalore...i have a friend of my age...she's not my GF or Lover...she's my Best(true)friend...she's very caring, friendly, sweet, n a nice person to be with...n we love each other very much as friends...n we share evry thing in our dailylife...n we r friends for more than 8 yrs now...we trust n care for eachother very much...but...from past 1 month im acting strange...im becoming vry possessive abt her...whenever i see her talking too much with a friend r my bro r somebody...n dont spend time with me r dont msg me r talk to me...i feel jealous, sad, bored n lonely...but if she's with me...i feel like im flying, very happy, excited, energized, to be with her always, i feel like im in heaven...n nowadays im being very much attracted towards her uncontrollably...i dont know why...plzz tell me why im feeling like this...i dont want to hurt her by doing something stupid...l love her very much as a friend n dont want to lose her...plzzzz...help me...

hello friends.....but i have one more problem....she wants to concentrate on her studies now n she really dont like if i talk about that kinda topic.....im confused ryt now n dont know wat to do......n theres one more problem.....4 yrs back one of her friend proposed her when she was in 9th grade....n that day she became soo angry on him that she said "ur just my friend n nothing else" n walked away.......so im afraid to talk to her abt this...coz, i fear of loosing her n her friendship......if she says no.....nowadays i cry a lot n cant sleep properly......plz tell me wat to do......plzzz....

Answer 1

sounds like u may love her more than a friend..its up to u n her where u take it from ere

Answer 2

She has become your drug. If she really is a friend, you'd treat her just like any of your guy friends. You don't really care what your guy friends are doing in their spare time, or who they are dating, do you? To me, some of the things you wrote above speak out about how you feel about yourself. You're not a big fan of yourself, I'd imagine. You need to learn to not rely on getting that feeling from another person before you can actually be a good boyfriend or even a "best" friend to anyone. Trust me, if you don't work on this now, you're going to have some problems. Figure out what it is that makes you require another person to make yourself feel good. It shouldn't be that way. Fix it, fast. If you don't you might find yourself crushed some day in the future when a relationship doesn't work out. Start working yourself away from dependence on another person for your happiness. You'll find it will make you and whoever you do end up in a relationship with much happier. Good luck!

Answer 3

Mr. cool dude why r u getting so confused dear calm down n take a deep breathe.Firstly Hi! this is Garima your friend.Ur in age where mostly people suffer from tension & confusion bouts as u r turning into man ok.Dont loose control on urself she is ur friend n a very trustworthy one too, tell ur mind to be stable n focus on her as a friend whenever u r with her , u'll feel better.Hormonal changes in the body is causing these confudions for u if u wont take care about it ¬ behave normally ¬ have control on urself u will surely loose something precious .Let me tell u gals hate boys who cant control the situation as they know they dont have control on their self.So ALL THE BEST.

Answer 4

There is a very fine line between friends and lovers and I believe that you are starting to cross that line. In other words you are falling in love with her…what a beautiful day to do that! Well since you guys have been friends for so long I guess you could talk to her about it. Just open up to her…with so much love in the air, who knows she may have the same feelings for you. Go ahead ‘CoolGuy’ I’ll say a little pray for you… that she may love you too.

Answer 5

This is a difficult problem.

You've started a relationship as friends and you're feeling the urge to move beyond that. Remember the best relationships start as friendships.

You're either going to have to deal with those feelings or pursue the relationship.

I respect your fear of losing such a good friend over it but do you really want to wonder about this for the rest of your life?

Answer 6

hi

i can very well understand ur recent situation. don worry nd hav faith in god everything will b alrght.

ya its true that u love her. but,u know there is abig problem. u need 2 control urself. it usually happens when u r wid somebody 4 a long time such feelings start coming automatically. it's natural.

if u truely love her try 2 understand her problem,her feelings,her priorities.......................................

then u need 2 take her out of ur mind. i know it's not easy but,u hav 2 do it. take ur frrnds help.u hav 2 do this 4 her nd ur family,future.................

atleast treasure her as ur best frnd. u need to set down ur priorities u need a frnd or a gf.a gf can never b a frnd nor a frnd can b a gf.

so,my frnd u need to find d solution of this problem urself. use aaj nahi to kal apki kami mehsoos ho gayi nd she'll b urs.

don worry

take care of urself.

may u get d solution of ur prob.

for any futher help don hesitate 2 mail m @ [e-mail].

bye

Answer 7

being a girl, i could understand, how it could be for a guy like you, having true friend ship for more than 8 years. try to put ure mind which u intersts you more. knowingly or unknowingly dont let her know, the things happeneing with you.

or ask her causally that is she in luv with any one??then the problem is resolved.



if she wishes to have you as ure life partner then go ahead.
dont stop ure self.

ure life will be amazing..

Answer 8

i think you're falling for her... my hubby and i were the same way... we were friends for many years and then he finally told me how he felt about me, at first i was a bit surprised but then i realised i felt the same... we have been married happily almost 5 years now.. it is true what they say " friends make the best lovers".. just talk with her, you never know maybe she feels the same about you as you do about her! Good Luck!!

Answer 9

SOMETIMES HAVING A PERSON AS A FRIEND IS BETTER. AND MORE BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOR SO LONG! DON'T GET ME WRONG THERE MIGHT BE SOME KIND OF CONNECTION BETWEEN BOTH OF YOU BUT SOMETIMES IT JUST HURTS THE FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN TWO. TALKING THINGS OUT HELPS, SO MAYBE IF YOU TOLD HER HOW YOU FEEL, YOU MIGHT FEEL BETTER?

Answer 10

i know that this isnt easy for you but you know what..you need to make a choice...

1. a bestfriend for life
2. gumble everything, let her know how you felt for her...you might lose you're bestfriend by doing this
.........but you never know, maybe she likes you also...if the feelings are mutual..you're a lucky guy...you have a bestfriend and a girlfriend at the same time.Goodluck bro