I have this guy friend who thinks he owns me. He calls me at least 25 times a day and believes he should know my every move. For Valentines day my best friend and I decided we would be eachothers Valentines. Well this friend of mine practically harassed her into giving me up so i could be his...pretty much yelling at her, saying "she doesnt want to be your valentine, she wants to be mine, (mind you, im quite content with my friend whom i already denoted my valentine) and why do you always have to but into our relationship and so on and so on. I really dont like him like that, I think he is annoying and all i want is for him to stop being so controlling I guess you could say...what should i do?
2007-02-13 18:45:57 · 15 answers · asked by ughhh 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
If he is your friend like you have stated and you believe all this drama is worth keeping your friendship , be open and truthful and tell him how you feel about his constant smothering and how it is negatively affecting you.
However, if you think or even know that he probably wants more than just a friendship and he's in to you more than you are about him, then the wisest things for both of you is to cut your relationship off. Maybe it doesn't have to be forever but at least until he has no feelings for you that are more than just being friends. It wouldn't be right for him to keep putting you into awkward situations and for you to contribute, even if it's unintentionally, into his desire of being with you.
Talk to him. Be clear but not hurtful. If he is your friend, you would want to do what you can to make sure he's not hurting too. Good luck and I wish you all the best.
2007-02-13 19:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by tjs315 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well let this person know you only wanna be friends and not like he possibly wants to me .snd he dont stop being so pushy and controlling that being friends is also gonna be on the stops. cause honey you dont need friends like that. do you have caller id? if so use it when he calls over a few times a day dont answer it. set a limit on him, and tell him how you feel maybe he dont realize how pushy he actually is. try calling him 25 times a day, see how that works. play the reverse role on him, i bet he will back down. if not call the cops!!!
2007-02-13 19:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by willwork4u2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him he is overdoing it, and this guy sounds fatal, so be careful. He might be trying to take friendship to another level. Tell him know how you feel about the whole Valentines deal with him, let him know you want your friend to come along, if he doesn't react well to that, let him deal w/himself. If he cant be matured about it, or understanding his place in your life, you need to start cutting him loose or have a serious talk w/him tomorrow like very early in the A.M. You need to be in control of your life not him, and he feels he could over power you. No...Seriously have a talk w/him and don't be afraid, if you are that's a bad sign! Talk to a family member to comfort you...
2007-02-13 18:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by HOPE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG...STAY AWAY from that control freak!
However, I get the impression that you're enabling him. Do you answer his calls? Do you tell him where you always are? You have plans and he forces you to break them? WHY are you allowing this to continue??? I'm guessing that in some strange way you like the attention.
Be careful. This person sounds dangerous. You also sound, young...you should tell your parents for your own protection. Seriously.
2007-02-13 18:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-04 04:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him... In plain and VERY clear terminology, exactly what you do and do not want where he is concerned. He has clearly overstepped his bounds, making you uncomfortable, and you need to put a stop to it before he becomes something far worse to you... dangerous.
Hope this helps...
2007-02-13 18:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Simple Man Of God 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a psycho. I think you need to tell him to back off a bit. Do it sooner rather than later and while you can.
It doesn't sound healthy to me. He sounds really intense. Has he got friends? I wonder what they think of his stalking?
Watch out.
2007-02-13 18:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by tray 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a huge warning sign that he is an abusive person.
Get away from this guy ASAP before he beats the crap out of you.
2007-02-13 18:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
anyone that controlling now would end up killing you in a one on one relationship because he couldnt stand you being with anyone else, you couldnt leave the house. ive read it a hundred times in the news about women found murdered.
2007-02-13 18:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Run. Run away fast!
Controlling people have no place in your life!
2007-02-13 18:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Birdy2_99 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋