You started an affair with a woman while you were alone and based in another country. After 16 months, you ended the affair and went back to the wife and kid. However, the mistress got angry and demanded that you and your wife (who found out about the affair later) apologise to her for her trauma and heartaches. The mistress was angry that your wife scolded her for seducing her husband which was true. The last straw was when the mistress email photos of you semi-nude to the office and your boss to embarrasse you. Guys, how would you feel and react in this kind of situation? Angry? Remoseful? Guilty?
2007-02-13 18:32:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can have all of the reactions, but number one, there is nothing like a woman scorned....You and her both should be ashamed..you have hurt your wife in the process...Try to get help for you and your wife so you can pick up the pieces if she wants too, which count yourself lucky if she does, tell the psyco to leave you alone or get a harrassment order on her or what ever it takes...you both went into this wide open now each needs to deal with the results..Just try to be understanding with the wife's feelings..she will have to deal with it not having any thing to do with it...
2007-02-13 18:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. The guy is an asshole for having the affair to begin with... but...
2. The OTHER woman has NO place, nor right to claim any heartache, desire for apoligie, or retaliation! The OTHER woman is nothing more than that- and a total *****! She has ruined things, she deserves NOTHING!!!
Men, and women make mistakes in their marriage. Many are sorry, and many are not.
Regardless, the OTHER party never has any rights to ANYTHING since they do not belong to the family in any respect. They are the intruders, and when asked, they should leave quietly. Otherwise, they are only demonstrating how SELFISH, IMMATURE, and PATHETIC they really are! It's bad enough that they had to try and take what belongs to someone else, but to be so SELFISH to think that they deserve more- what a ******* FOOL!
So, if someone does something like that, the man/woman should be VERY angry with them for crossing the line and acting like a child. And even consider obtaining a restraining order.
2007-02-14 04:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bearess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always say if you don't pose for those kind of pictures in the first place, they can never come back to haunt you. I guess it's the chance we take when we decide to have an affair. And I bet the "mistress" didn't have to do much seducing. I don't know why but the wife always wants to blame the mistress and not the husband. He is even more guilty. He's the one who was married and he cheated. The mistress was just there for his convenience.
2007-02-14 02:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd feel just as guilty as blaming her. Yes, I'd feel guilty, to a degree. Why did you start an affair? Was your wife neglecting you? Did she cheat on you? The blame should be divided among the three of you. No one seduces me unless I let them, unless I want to be seduced. So don't go pinning it on the mistress alone.
You reap what you sew. Now give up the blame game and move on in life. I hope you learned your lesson, but I kind of doubt it. The wife took you back, but you had better NEVER leave her or cheat on her again. Do you really love her?
2007-02-14 02:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well........you had it coming to you. So now you should be Guilty AND Remorseful!!! Why do people always think they'il get away with affairs even if it was in another country? As far as your wife is concerned, if you really love her, make amends. As far as your job and bosses are concerned, apologise and accept the consequences. As far as the mistress is concerned, just tell her it's gone far enough and she must get on with her life OR if that doesn't work, you may as well pack up your family and move to ANOTHER country!!! I hope that you learned something from this.
2007-02-14 02:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Commodore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of the above. angry that someone who isn't really meant to get attached to you has the ability to embarrass you and potentially ruin your career. remorseful and guilty that you cheated on your wife...not only your wife but you're family... and you've caused heartache and pain. you're wife now has to live knowing she wasn't the the only one you were devoting any attention to her, meanwhile your child probably has no idea that daddy is a cheater. you have to live knowing that you're wife can never look at you the same way again. everytime she kisses you, she knows that when she was meant to be the only one in you're life you were kissing someone else. i'd also feel like an idiot for getting caught out. embarrassed that everyone at you're work place has seen you half naked and knows that you're a lying cheating pig. good luck getting out of that one mate.
2007-02-14 02:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any decent fellow would feel sorrow and shame that he had hurt his wife. Emailing the photos shows the cad up for what he is. Perhaps he will learn that affairs are not worth jeopardizing his marriage and good name.
2007-02-14 02:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by jom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel anything a mistress is a mistress and you should have know that it could be a possibility that something like that would happen> You should feel like "Dang I got what I deserved"
2007-02-14 02:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by â?¥ Pawya! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fatal attraction all over again. You open your life up to these little problems when you are dishonorable with other people. You are just going to have to deal with the drama until she chills out. You have more to loose than her is why she is doing it.
2007-02-14 02:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by Looking Forward 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad
2007-02-14 02:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋