My Boyfriend Doesn't Like Valentine's Day... :(?

Question

My boyfriend think's Valentine's Day is a dumb holiday. It kindof makes me sad because the 3 years we have been dating we never do anything for it. I see everyone at school and work getting gifts from their husbands and boyfriends and it just makes me really sad. :( He knows that I wish he'd care more about these holidays (he doesn't celebrate our anniversary either) but I never get any reaction other than "It's an excuse for men to waste their money" I still got him a gift though! Just because he doesn't like it doesn't mean I can't like it.

(and about our anniversary, we dont have an actual date for it -- the whole "going out" thing just kindof merged but we have a made up date for our approximate anniversary... but he uses the fact that there isnt a real date that we don't have to celebrate it. - just thought i'd clear that up a bit.)

Happy Valentine's Day by the way! I hope yours will be better than mine. :/

Answer 1

Aww, I don't mean to bash your bf, but he sounds like a jerk :/
It's definately not wasted money if it's spent on making your day happy. It's those little things that make girls happy and sometimes guys don't see. They're like why on earth does a box of chocolates make her so damn happy?! And it's not the chocolate itself, it's that they took the time to get it for you.
Also, even if there's no "official" anniversary date, I think you guys should still celebrate it.
You need to talk with him about it (but it sounds like he's not going to change that easy)
but really let him know how you feel and seriously if it's spent on making you happy it's not a waste of money.

Answer 2

You know what i think about your boyfriend?I think he suck . cause you know why?
1st : He doesn't care about you and gives a reason saying that its reason for wasting money while all the other girls in the world get to have a romantic time on valentines day and all their anniversaries
2nd : Wasting money ? I don't think it's a waste of money . The valentine's day i spent last year was romantic enough ,it wasn't THAT costly and even though you don't have money true love can make you enjoy valentine's day WITHOUT money . Your boyfriend's a total cheapass
3rd : To all the people who suggested that her boyfriend is just saving money or whatever and is supportin him..I'm very sure you're just the same fool like her boyfriend .
4th : Wow you sticked to him for 3 years and he never brought you out for a date ? He's PATHETHIC .
Conclusion : Dump him , he has no life . He probably spent his money on some prostitude to have cheap sex . I doubt he'd waste that much . *Sorry for the caps..I'm pissed off hearing about your boyfriend . Just throw him away..there're many boys out there that really care for you . Happy valentine's day tho it's still not too late to find a new one and celebrate valentine's day with him this year..Good Luck ;)

Answer 3

Ok, so Valentine's Day is quite overrated & commercial, but the anniversary? I say good for you on still getting him a gift. Don't let your boyfriend ruin Valentine's Day for you. Do something special. I'm sure there are some things that both of you could do together & enjoy. Something more in the realm of spending quality time together & enjoying one another's company. He says "It's an excuse fo rmen to waster their money," so do something that doesn't involve going out and spending money. Maybe rent a movie or make him a special dinner, or you could just set up a really romantic evening with him. Just do something to make the day special.

Answer 4

My husband thinks Valentine's Day is for the birds. So, he did something funny - he celebrates President's Day in a Valentine's way - with stuff that's on sale! He doesn't like being told what to do, I guess. One President's Day, he presented me with a painting he'd made of the cover of my favorite childhood book.

If he doesn't like Valentine's, it seems less than respectful to give him a gift, tho. Give the gift to yourself...

I don't know exactly when we started going out, either, but we met in a summer college course, and I spotted him the first day of class, so I count the first day of that class as our dating anniversary - July 12, 1982. A year later, we got the kind of anniversary that's much easier to keep track of - a wedding anniversary.

He always celebrated that one nicely, but after 15 years, our second son was born on our anniversary and we haven't celebrated it for ourselves since. Maybe I should do that on Labor Day..,

Happy Valentine's Day, dear.

Answer 5

While I think V-day should not be a comercial holiday (the was it was set up) where money is the main issue, I disagree that that it's a waste. I've been married for 10 years and we still make it a special day.

Now, if you've shared your concern with your BF, and he still does not make an effort, that raises a red flag for me. I'm not saying it's a deal breaker...I don't know enough about your situation to make that kind of call, but if my wife would express that level of interest in having a special day, I would make a solid effort to make her happy. My issue here is not the holiday, but the lack of caring on your BF's part.

Answer 6

i have been married to the same man for 10 years. we have never celebrated the holiday because we celebrate it every day. a special day is not even needed when you and your mate are honest and make each other feel loved and needed on a regular basis. i do not need another gift, chocolates or flowers to feel loved by my man. If it really bothers you, then ask yourself can i get past this and have a relationship with this man? if the answer is no, i will be miserable every valentines day if he chooses not to celebrate ever.. perhaps finding another man is the answer. communication and compromise are crucial to any relationship, if he is unwilling then he is unworthy.

Answer 7

Boyfriend shouldnt care what you get as long as you bear in mind! some trouble-free ideas are chocolate or make a card announcing IOU one holiday to the action picture redemable at each time availible! i'd incredibly p.c. to spend time with my female chum like that! playstation dont ask him what he needs that's akward for him!!

Answer 8

Ok so this may sound creepy and weird but I have friends who are engaged and he doesn't like V day either. So they celebrate(maybe made it up???)"National Steak and ******* Day." Pretty much it is the male equivalent of V day. It's March 21st and you cook him a steak and give him a ******* but only if he does something really great for you on V day. If your V day sucks though then you can make his day suck too.

Answer 9

Poor you. Maybe you can do something special for yourself instead of buying him a gift that he obviously doesn't appreciate.

Answer 10

dump this jerk, he uses this excuse so he doesnt have to spend his money on anyone but him. hes a cheapass and will never treat you right.