***Should I Move On***?

Question

My wife and I have been apart for almost a year now and I have been trying to get her to come back home and work things out. It seems I been putting all the effort. I send her e-mails to her job she never respond to them unless I call to ask if she received it.

She tells me she will call be back but never does only when she feels like it. She states she is busy at work but when we were together it was not like that, she made time.

She has a son which I did not get along with so she stated she had to choose between him or I.

I stopped by her job today to drop off a valintine days gift and card and she stated she will give me something on tomorrow before she leaves tomorrow night to go to India.

I have not gone out in a year or tried to meet anyone else and I do not know what to do because I am 37 and I am tired mentally and physically trying to make things work.

She give me money to help with rent sometime or if I need money but the question is, Should I move on?

Answer 1

Move on. I know it may be difficult but I think that if she really was still interested then she would have responded positively to you. The other thing is that she probably wants to be with someone who will accept her son.

Answer 2

1 Make sure what you want.
2 Your are obviously exhaused, mentally and physically.
3 You are not entirely ,financially independent, either.
4 You don't like her kid and you have no valid reason for your hatred.
5 She can not live a life of guilt if she 'forsakes' her kid for you as she is ' she + her kid' and there is no other way.
6 You sincerely want to start your life afresh, with her or without her.
7 Why don't you show her that you are mature enough to accomodate her kid in your life?
8 She put her happiness far behind that of her kid and why can't you understand that and treat them as one inseperable unit?
9 Move on if you can't reconcile yourself on such a minor issue because she can't trust you anymore in this regard. You may try to alienate this kid from his mother or secretly illtreat him. Even if you don't do either, she can't live worrying about her son all the time unless you endear the child first.
10 Mother is God's representative on earth, maybe in outer space too.
This is biological love that neither alters nor falters; ask your mother if have any doubts.
11 She is not looking for a husband but for a father to her child. Dont make an issue of the child if you truly love her. If you can't love that kid, truly and genuinely, you are neither worthy of her affection nor can call yourself mature enough.
12 If I am in love with a mother of a child, I would endear the child first and I would do it gladly because he will be part and parcel of my family and I will be his caretaker, guide, friend and father and lot more good things that accompany fatherhood, though he is not biologically my offspring.
13 Dear Pal, fatherhood is only a fiction and it is a tragedy if the biological father happens to be a loser.
14 Be a proud and loving father first and then, the rest of the best follows. Otherwise, move on as your presence is unwanted in this context.
15. Take your time and think,talk, seek advice, compromise, and whatever so that all of you can be happy together.
You look like an honest guy, you can be better in other aspects too.

Answer 3

I'm very sorry to say this but yes, you should move on. There are other women out there that I'm sure would like you. It seems obvious that your wife doesn't want to come back to you. Don't torture yourself. Get a hobby, join a club, go out with friends. 37 is not old! You have plenty of time to make a new life and that's what you should do. Good luck.

Answer 4

I am sorry but move on my friend. You should have made her come to you if she wanted the relationship. By making her come back to you at least you would have given her a chance to miss you. When she left was the time for your to say you don't know if you will be there in the future. You create attraction with the fear of loss.

Answer 5

It sounds like you are the one doing the chasing & she is running. Its definitely time to move on no matter how hard it is. I know because I went through the same thing with my husband of 13 years. It broke my heart but I made it though the tough situation I wish you the best of luck : )

Answer 6

Yes, you should move on.
Why would this woman want to be with you if you can't make the effort to get along with her son, and you are asking her for money?
She isn't making time for you because she isn't interested in you. Start dating again, maybe you can find another woman to help pay your bills...

Answer 7

Win Best ... Gosh, you certainly did try. Your question and details were very well written, too, I should add.

It's a shame, but I've been through the same myself. It saddens me, really, to read your brief explanation. You've surely tried. I suggest you try to adjust your thinking about her, take a rest, and yes, move on, unfortunately.

All the best to you, Win Best. Good luck, sir.

Answer 8

It might seem like you are putting in a lot of effort but it seems that she needs some time to think...when she gets back try again.

Answer 9

yes you should move on with your life as you said when she cared she actually tried but now its been a year and nothing? move on and maybe when she sees you've given up she might come back but dont get your hopes up

Answer 10

You will never be more important to her than her son Im afraid, blood is thicker than water, and it sounds like she is trying to move on and you arent. Its been a year, maybe its time to move on.