My girlfriend is practically almost my wife. She knows almost everything about me… she can predict my next moves and knows how I think. We share things with each other—our secrets, fantasies, fears and whatnot. I think about her a lot and we love each other. We both are attached to each other and bonded. People have asked me so is she your wife or how your wife… I am like we aren’t married yet. Should I marry her?
2007-02-13 17:41:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why not it seem like you fit to gether nicely.
2007-02-13 17:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by c_kaper@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as for handling money, it's great that you are financially responsible for your age, BUT c'mon she is 14 and you're 17, both very very young people, she is still in high school and you're barely out of it and talking about marrying soon? There are some people in their early twenties who wouldn't think twice about marrying anyone at the moment. Your story is typical, most people who once your age felt the same thing, they were head over heels in love with their boyfriend or girlfriend and thought it would last forever, when unfortunately for the majority of them it didn't. I know I'm sounding like I'm your parent or whatever but I was once your age ten years ago, and my mind frame isn't exactly the same as it were before. Not trying to be a downer but look at it realistically people change over the years (mentally and emotionally), who's to say she would stay feel the same or even you stay in love with her? Either of you may get curious and wonder how it is seeing other people and there will might be a little test sooner or later whether or not you're both each other true loves. You or your girlfriend most likely don't see it now but give it another year or two and there might be a difference. As for marriage, that's a big responsibility and carries more 'burden' than dating so if I were you i wouldn't take that big leap anytime soon. There is a lot involve when it comes to marriage money, kids, being a team as each people need to be responsible enough and bring things to the table to keep things afloat. If you're enlisted in the Marines, have your girlfriend consider going into college in the future to better herself not only academically but financially? Or she will just have babies? You two really need to take the relationship one day at a time and not have high expectations as anything could happen or even set yourselves up for a major heartbreak. Just enjoy each other for the moment and if you stay together when you're both more mature (I'm talking about several years), then see if marriage is still in the picture.
2016-05-24 08:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you feel about it and what does she? That is the big question. Sounds like a pretty nice start for a marriage, thougth personally I wouldn't marry someone after the third year of being together. I guess if you live together already you can skip that part. Being in love is a stage of mind that centers your life on the other person but it can only last about three years, true love last and does not depend on it. Why dont you picture yourself in a marriage with her and eventually with children. You know each others' family, don't you. Take a close look to it, what in her/your life has worked an what hasn't. We alway repeat scheme.
So good luck and lot's of success. Meanwhile enjoy the moment
None in this world can take that desition but yourself.
2007-02-13 17:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gerardo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I think that you should find out how she feels about marraige. Communicate with her about how both of you feel about spending your lives together. You don't have to immediately propose to her (unless you want to!) But you need to have an idea of how she feels about the future of your relationship before you can even begin to consider whether or not its the right move. If you both are happy and secure with the idea, then I say go for it! Just make sure its something you are at peace with. I wish you the best!
2007-02-13 17:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by mzstorm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her and want her to be your wife? If you are questioning whether or not to marry her, you might should think about it. What else would you want in a wife. You two sound like a perfect match.
2007-02-13 17:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her very much and can see the two of you spending your lives together...with kids later, then why not???? Unless you have a fear for commitment, it's another story. Look into your heart and ask yourself that question seriously.
2007-02-13 17:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel pressured, you don't want to make the wrong choice, however if you really do love her as you say and she loves you, then why not get married, but do it only if you're ready.
2007-02-13 17:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Brownie-Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her than yes, absolutely. Marry her.
2007-02-13 17:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ace 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to be married!
2007-02-13 17:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a great friend. Are you also madly in love with her?
2007-02-13 18:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good, depends on how long you have known each other.
2007-02-13 17:44:45 · answer #11 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋