Its 5 oclock in the evening here and valentines day. My husband is passed out. Its a work night and he has drunk a bottle of port and half a bottle of wine (he gets home at lunchtime) This is quite normal, I have repeatedly asked him to stop for a little while, as i am in my 35th week of pregnancy dont have a license and the baby is expected to come early (also mainly for his health) but he just tells me I am bitching at him and it creates a huge fight. What do I do?
2007-02-13 17:12:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it sounds like you have tried to talk to him about it and he is not willing to listen, You have to do something to get his attention so that he will pay attention to what you have to say. I hate to say that you should leave him when you are in the condition you're in, but that may be what it takes to straighten him out. sorry I cannot be more help.
2007-02-13 17:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared to call an ambulance or taxi or near by friend. (I.E. have the numbers ready). Even if he was awake tonight (or a night like this), he can't drive you drunk to the hospital.
Tell him that you won't have much time to wake him if you need to go to the hospital so he may be passed out while his baby is being born.
or, scare him :) ... write him a note that says: "Tried to wake you, went to hospital to give birth, see you when you get there (don't drive)." Then when he wakes and finds it and panics, tell him sorry, you just left the note there in case you actually had to leave in a hurry because you wouldn't have time to write the note at that point. Maybe he will get the picture.
2007-02-14 01:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sweetie, I think you have some important decisions to make not just for yourself but for your child. Is this the life you want to live? Is this the kind of home life you want for your child? Is this the example you want your child to know as a father? Why is he drinking so much? Is he an alcoholic or is he going through a lot of stress? Is he excited about the upcoming birth of his child?
First & foremost you need to make a plan for the arrival of this precious innocent child. Talk to a friend or family member & ask them to be ready when the time comes. It's obvious you can't count on your husband for this. The last thing you want is to be in a crash on the way to the hospital.
Your husband needs serious help & it's obvious he's not going to listen to you. Do you have a pastor or a family member of his who can reach out to him? It's going to take a third party. I'm saying a prayer for you. I pray God will give you wisdom to know what to do & strength to do it.
2007-02-14 01:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dump him if he drinks a lot and treats you bad then that must mean he doesn't care about you and the baby. Ad if he doesn't care about the drinking then he is only going to get whores. What are you going to do when the baby comes, is he going to be there for you for the baby? If the answer is no then what do you need him for? You can try first by asking him to try aa if not and he don't care what he is doing to him self then you shouldn't either. But care about yourself and your child and get out of there if he doesn't want to fix the problem or your relationship.
2007-02-14 01:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by The Brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is way too much. Based on how this sounds, this is not the first time he has done this. Do you have any friends that can give you a ride to the hospital? I would definitely find someone who could help you in that. I think that you should tell him to join a AA meeting to get his act together. There is a difference between a whinning wife and a concerned wife. You have a right to be concerned, you need him to be sober and ready. And he should be man enough to help you out.
2007-02-14 01:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Chris H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I sorry for your situation, but you need to do what is best for you and the baby. If that means leaving and going back home then do it. If he is unwilling to strainght up and help you by being a husband and soon to be father. Then I would say to him, "look I need your help, cause when this baby get her this drinking stuff will not go on, if it does you will force me to do what is best for our family, and that is leave, because you are not willing to subject this baby to this type of behavior, and if he is not going to be engaged in this family, then he will be here alone, and you will be gone" Sound harsh, but he need some kind of wake up call. If you think you can call his mom (your mother-in-law) and that will help then I would, if not then I would do what is best for you and your unborn child. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-02-14 01:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by 1TON 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take care of yourself, so that you have a healthy baby. Get your license. And ignore the drunkard on the couch.
2007-02-14 01:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go now Go! Walk out the door! Dont turn around now....
Seriously girl, you're betta off without him and yuo very well know that already..
God bless you and your baby.
2007-02-14 01:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get help - and then leave until he does. Then stay gone for a while just so he can get his head straight.
Call A.A. Tell them you need someone to come over for a 12th step call and see if they can help you. Its in your phone book.
2007-02-14 01:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move in with a RESPONSIBLE family member or friend until the baby is born. Good Luck.
2007-02-14 01:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Sir 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋