2007-02-13 17:08:32 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You can keep the baby and love it which would be the right thing for you to do since you made the choice to have sex but if you feel you are unfit to be a mother you can give your baby up for adoption so that it can go to a loving family that will care for it and can financially support the child.. you can also do open adoptions where you still get the see the child there are many families that want kids but just can't have them!! There is also abortion.... which I don't believe in but it all depends on your beliefs! Good luck on whatever you decide to do!
2007-02-13 18:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by jasmyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To any one that thinks about having an abortion you should read this because once you have your child you will think about how grateful you are for not killing it. Even if you decide to give it up for adoption it still allows a life to live.
Month One
Mommy
I am only 8 inches long
but I have all my organs.
I love the sound of your voice.
Every time I hear it
I wave my arms and legs.
The sound of your heart beat
is my favorite lullaby.
Month Two
Mommy
today I learned how to suck my thumb.
If you could see me
you could definitely tell that I am a baby.
I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though.
It is so nice and warm in here.
Month Three
You know what Mommy
I'm a boy!!
I hope that makes you happy.
I always want you to be happy.
I don't like it when you cry.
You sound so sad.
It makes me sad too
and I cry with you even though
you can't hear me.
Month Four
Mommy
my hair is starting to grow.
It is very short and fine
but I will have a lot of it.
I spend a lot of my time exercising.
I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes
and stretch my arms and legs.
I am becoming quite good at it too.
Month Five
You went to the doctor today.
Mommy, he lied to you.
He said that I'm not a baby.
I am a baby Mommy, your baby.
I think and feel.
Mommy, what's abortion?
Month Six
I can hear that doctor again.
I don't like him.
He seems cold and heartless.
Something is intruding my home.
The doctor called it a needle.
Mommy what is it? It burns!
Please make him stop!
I can't get away from it!
Mommy! HELP me!
Month Seven
Mommy
I am okay.
I am in Jesus's arms.
He is holding me.
He told me about abortion.
Why didn't you want me Mommy?
Every Abortion Is Just . . .
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.
2007-02-14 05:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by junecleaver 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to your parents (or to a trusted grown-up, if you don't dare, or if they aren't really in your life, this could for example be a counsellor, or a pastor's wife, or your older sister, a female teacher you admire...)
Next, determine what your financial situation is. What your plans, hopes and dreams are. Can you keep the baby and finish your studies and find a job?
What about the guy? Is he in the picture? If he has a job and is responsible and you want to be with him for life, you could get married and raise the child together.
Otherwise, there are some centres out there for teen moms, with classes, a nice environment to raise a baby, and some even teach you a job. Can your parents or grandparents help?
Another option is adoption. This can be hard, I'm not saying the contrary, but it's giving your child a chance to be in a loving home with two parents, and will give you a chance to study, to fulfill your dreams (Izzy in Grey's Anatomy gave her baby up for adoption, did medical studies, and is now a surgeon, but had she kept the baby she probably would still be in the trailer park, working in a diner like her mother).
Last option, which isn't really one, is abortion. It raises obvious moral issues, because your baby is a little person, who probably already has a beating heart. It raises physical issues (you might never be able to conceive again- I've had friends who were devastated about this 10 years down the road)
It raises emotional issues (so many girls suffer with guilt for the rest of their lives).
And it's so sad to do this because there are many loving families out there who would love to care for your baby.
I hope you will find help, at any rate above all talk to someone who knows you and will give you good advice according to your situation. You are not alone in this.
2007-02-13 20:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 basic ones:
keep the baby
put the baby up for adoption
Keeping the baby requires a strong support system including both parents, parenting classes, mental health counseling, infant care classes, supplies, clothing, furniture, at a minimum. In addition, they may require help to stay in school and support through WIC and Social Services to help finance the child's needs (if the father can't, won't, or is too young to afford it). If the father is over 18 a court order needs to be obtained to order child support if he is not voluntarily (and adequately) supporting the child and its mother.
With adoption the adoptive parents pay the medical and nursery expenses of the mother until the child is born and released to the adoptive parents.
2007-02-14 02:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1>You could keep the baby(which you should plan out how you are going to be able to raise it. like how your going to pay the medical bills, diapers, food, clothes. and where your going to live, who is going to help you and are you going to staty in school.)
2>Abortion(Research what goes on during the procedure, find out the after effects, there can be internal damage as well as emotional. It doesnt always happen but its a possibility)
3>Adoption(adoption is good if you know you cant care for the baby and cant give it what it is going to need. There are open adoptions where YOU pick the family and are allowed to see and be apart of its life.)
2007-02-14 02:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There a few options.
1) Have the baby and raise it with your boyfriend.
2) Have the baby, get married, and raise it with your husband.
3) Have the baby and give it up for adoption.
But what you need to do right now is take care of yourself and of the baby inside of you. You both need good nutrition. Eat right and stay healthy. Don't smoke or do drugs. That will hurt the baby. And please don't get an abortion. The baby needs a chance to live.
Good luck and God bless you! =]
2007-02-15 02:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the comparable suggestions for a woman at any age. save it, provide it up for adoption whilst born or have an abortion. Any of those options for a young person will of direction be greater durable. in case you are the teen you may locate out in case you have the help of your mom and father or yet another person kinfolk member despite selection you p.c..
2016-10-02 02:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
, i was a 16 year old, pregnant , student, 34 years ago,, from a middle class family .Some of my fellow students got pregnant within the same time frame and chose to end their pregnancies.I was always very strong minded and chose to keep mine..He's a great guy,,married,no kids, works as a chef,so, what choice do you mean?
2007-02-13 17:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by seasideseeker30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 when I had my oldest son. I had my baby and raised him. It was very hard. the one thing that I would do differently is that I would have stayed in school and gone to collage. now im 35 and I really work hard for little pay. my mother made me quit and get married. If its at all possible stay in school.
2007-02-14 07:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion,Adoption Or Keep It
2007-02-14 07:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by nicnoo23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋