We have been married for 8 1/2 years and I only remember him buying me something for St. Valentine's Day once. It is his birthday, and I feel I am getting a little dry on this day, due to the fact he never gets me anythin. Not even a card. Never mentions anything to me even. This year I decided to for get getting him anything but a card for his birthday and buying him a small box of candy. I feel I more than deserve something for V day. What are some suggestions for me to try to get him to buy me something?
2007-02-13 16:51:12 · 15 answers · asked by butterfly_261 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes! Just because it's his birthday, does NOT mean he shouldn't show affection for the wife of his youth! You are his wife! You DESERVE something for Valentine's. You must tell him this kind of thing. Tell him you feel as if you feel left out on Valentine's. Where the passion in this relationship? I seriously ask you to consider this question. I mean honestly, I would be upset with my wife if she didn't get me anything or even mention Valentine's. You have a right to get upset. But, please, don't get so upset that you ruin the day. Any man thinking he can get off the hook simply because it's his birthday is mistaken. Now, as for HIM. Make sure you get him something for Valentine' Day... and a little something extra for his birthday. I'm sure you can use your imagination.
2007-02-13 17:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by standup149 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This seems so shallow. Why has a day to express love come down to greed and getting presents? Sickening. It would be nice if you got each other cards or at least mentioned Valentine's Day. But the important thing is how much you love each other every day, not just on Feb. 14th. Don't let greedy merchants let you lose site of this.
2007-02-13 16:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he should. You can't help that mother nature decided his lease was up in the womb on the 14th of February. It's a day meant for love, and giving to each other is a expression of that love. Even though it's his birthday, it has meaning for you as well. If he doesn't feel this way, don't get him anything on the 14th period. Be it a birthday of Valentine's day gift. He'll see how it feels to be ignored on a special day and next year (or the following year depending on when you do it) he'll see the light.
2007-02-13 16:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Nille 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should just tell him how you feel instead of limiting your gifts to him as some sort of sign. You are married and have been for nearly 8 years, by now you should be able to openly communicate with your husband when something is bothering you. But, on the other hand, how does he act the rest of the year? Is he generally sweet, appreciative caring and romantic? If so, maybe you shouldn't press so much for somehting special on Valentine's Day.
2007-02-13 16:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His birthday may not have anything to do with the issue. Some guys are just insensitive and don't understand the point to valentine's day. Most men aren't good at picking up on subtle hints, so instead of chintzing on his birthday and hoping he figures it out, sit him down and have a talk. Explain that you are feeling under-appreciated and that Valentine's day is his annual chance to rectify the situation.
2007-02-13 16:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Valentines day is just an excuse for presents and money spending! Its his birthday, I would hate to have my day on another holiday, its supposed to be your day and you have to share it! Perhaps you should stop feeling you should deserve something, and start appreciating what you already have? Really will a box of chocolates really make your life that much better?
2007-02-13 17:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of you guys should give the other a present the day before or after Valentine's Day.
2007-02-13 16:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by TheSilverBeetles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all about you isn't it? Why do you need something? Does never get you anything any other day of the year? You really need something the mans birthday and on a made up holiday?
The Stig
2007-02-13 16:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by The Stig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if he got you a card but nothing for your birthday? Why would you forget his special day?
You've been married for 8 years. Why can't you discuss how you feel? Don't start playing games...it won't be good for your relationship. Tell him what you're thinking; he can't read your mind. Dropping hints rarely works.
2007-02-13 16:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should get you something if he knows what's good for him. Valentines Day is and will always be for women. Men just hope to get lucky.
2007-02-13 16:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Cochran 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋