would you forgive and forget?

Question

if your boyfriend had been sleeping with your sister for over 3 months would you forgive them both? thats what they want... he wants to still be with me but i think he just still wants a reason to come over and see my sister... and should i stay mad at her? i mean that is the lowest act a sister could do right? Help!!!

just letting you all know how helpful you were, but i have decided i can not be with him anymore and dumbed him and as for my sister... i have decided to move as far away as possible... i have told her i did not want to contact her anymore and she can have the guy i onced thought i loved... they both broke my heart... and i can not forget that nor forgive them. thanks you everyone. now im going to find a real guy who cares!!! best wishes! xoxo

Answer 1

I'm with you sister, tell them both to go somewhere hot for eternity - and maybe you can forgive her, after your married, and doing much better in life than she is - but dump them both.

I mean, you have been betrayed, why betray yourself as well?

Answer 2

Depends. Has she got into bed with every boy around, or just yours. If he's in bed with both of you, well, you either love it or leave it. Does he have a brother, better, a father you could have your way with, while he's having his way with your sister? Staying mad at either of them is a waste of anger. People routinely have sex with anyone who will cooperate. But I would remove any tattoo's with his name on them. Give back any gifts, no hard feelings. Have his dad buy you a car. Let the b/f or your sister tell the b/f's mother. Now that might be the worst she could do. Having his mother mad as hell about you sleeping with her husband would raise the stake considerably, at this point, you could say that your sister told you what a great guy in bed the father was. Tell your ex-boyfriend that he could learn a thing or two from his dad. Dad probably is a lot like his son, won't confirm or deny anything. Be careful though, the mother may try to seduce your father.

Answer 3

It would be hard, but I would forgive, but never forget. If he cheated on you with your own sister, what kind of respect and love is that from both of them towards you? And not to down your sister, but why would she want to sleep with him after he has been with you? That's like her climbing into your bed. And then to have him coming around you all this time like nothing was going on? That's not right. And if I were you, I would tell him to go straight to hell for still wanting to be with you, and the same to her for telling you to forgive her, like nothing happened. If you take him back, next time it might not be with your sister, and there is always a possibility that you wont find out next time, until he brings something home to you that u don't want to have. It is out there, and many people get it and do not know they got it. So be careful, and do what is best for you. Good luck with this, I hope I was of some help.

Answer 4

I may forgive but never forget. Get rid of him and work on your relationship with your sister. Boyfriends come and go...but your sister is there forever. I would want to know what made her think it was ok for her to sleep with your boyfriend...try to get past that...and move on. Without the guy.

Answer 5

if i am in the same situation that you are in right now, i would be real mad and i guess its just a natural reaction to be angry with the both of them and forgiving is far from reality.more so that it is your sister who is the third party invloved here.how painful it is to be betrayed by your own sister.but then life must go on.you have to accept the fact that they did betrayed you.try to forgive them and let go.if they ask forgiveness, give it to them and forget everything including your boyfriend.you know what?you're blessed, because at this early, you've already proven how weak your boyfriend is.he doesnt deserve your love.GO GIRL!!!

Answer 6

First you need to cut him out of your life. He is just a boyfriend, they come and they go but family is forever. Secondly, i wouldn't cut my sister out of my life because bottom line you are family BUT i wouldn't trust her anymore and I definitely wouldn't talk to her more than what was necessary. They both are selfish and liars. You can never forget somethng like that but forgiveness is necessary in order to move on with your life. Forgive them for their ignorant acts but don't forget and i would definitely cut your boyfreind out of your life. Let your sister know what she did really hurt you and let her know you two will never be the same. Good luck.

Answer 7

I know a lot of people are into "family is forever", but I don't believe that. I've had family come and go. I'm better off without them if they're going to treat me like ****. If I had a sister do that to me, I would probably patch things up just because I don't like having problems with people. If she meant a lot to me and was close to me, I'd try.

As for the dude, I wouldn't go back. No way. I wouldn't trust him and the relationship has to have trust.

Answer 8

no, in this case you can't forgive and forget. i mean, your own blood caused you trouble and hurt you like this? that girl is a slu*t and you know it. there are lots of guys in this world and she chose to f*uck your bf HOW LOW SHE IS!!! as for the guy, he is a jack**** and he doesnt deserve you at all. you move on, find a BETTER man and tell your sister she better not mess with you ever again or else! thank god I have no sisters!!!

Answer 9

I think you should get rid of him. He is no good for you, for doing your sister. Especially your sister. Your sister did not have respect for you and neither did he. You will be hurt, but you will have to learn to forgive and move on. I think that they are the ones who should apologize for what they have done to you. They are the bad guys.

Answer 10

Blood is thicker than water... you can forgive them, but you will never forget the hurt they caused you. I would drop your boyfriend, any man who loves a woman would never do that. A sister is sacred, her guilt should be punishment enough. good luck to you, and sorry to hear about your misfortune.