how would you react??

Question

my friend just told me a few days ago she had sex with her neighbor down the street from her house. Problem is, she is 19 and he he 29 and MARRIED. Even more sad his wife was at home with the kids, he left with the car, picked her up, and was back in enough time where she never knew anything happened. I don't want to look down on my friend, but to me that is a horrible thing to do! It's making me reconsider ever wanting to get married lol. are there any trustworthy guys out there in this world? it boggles my mind why people get married and their obviously not even in love.

Answer 1

Yes there are many trustworthy men still out there. Some people just have no respect for themselves or their significant others. I am sure if he cheated on her this time, there were other times, and prob the wife is not as clueless as u think. Some women just choose to ignore it, while others just wait for a more opportune time to bust the guy. (like when the kids are older, she has a job, she has all her ducks in a row.........) Dont let this discourage you......... there are still good men out there.

Answer 2

Personally, I would ask my friend how she would feel if she was in the wife’s position. Secondly, what did she hope to accomplish from the act? Does she want a relationship with a man that is a cheater and break up a home that involves children? Does she want to be the other woman? Was it insecurity? Depending on how close you too are, I would question her as to why she would participate in such an immoral act. I think a little shame might get her attention better than harsh words. I am assuming that she told you this in a manner like “ooh guess what I did!” Regardless she needs to be told that her thrilling adventure comes with the possibility of a lot of pain for many people, including her.

Don’t swear off marriage; just wait until you know you have the right one. Never settle there are good ones out there.

Answer 3

What it boils down to is the apparent lack of morals from your friend and this man. I recently had a friend who admitted to me that she was having a sexual relationship with a mutual friend of ours. This guy was not married but was living with his gf who was pregnant with his child. When the baby was born she went to the hospital and looked his gf in the face like she had done nothing wrong. She asked my opinion and I gave it to her. I was totally honest with her on how I felt. She then began sleeping with another man who was in a relationship, now she is currently sleeping with a married man. I have pretty much stopped talking to her. I still say the usual hi how ya doing stuff but nothing more. I choose not to be friends with her. How can I trust her ? Can you really trust your friend ? Would you trust her alone with your man knowing the she doesn't care about the sanctity of the relationship ? And yes not all men are scumbags like this one. There are still some good ones left out there who believe in being true to the marriage. Don't give up on marriage just because of this.

Answer 4

I think that your friend is all wrong for what she has done. She has allowed herself to be put in that position with a married man who has a wife and kids. She will be the reason for their marriage to break apart, she will be the reason for his kids to be without a father. Does you friend care of any of this? I don't think so, because all she cares is being with a married man and making herself feel good because all she thinks about is herself.

Your friend doesn't respect herself and her body. She is being used by this man like a 'whore'. You should tell her what I said and stay away from her. She is a bad influence to you. Or, tell her parents, they will straighten her out if she still lives with them.

If you want to put a stop to this, go and tell his wife. Sooner or later, she will find out when your friend becomes pregnant. This man is not a man at all, he is a loser to his wife and kids.

Answer 5

No do not look down on your friend!! But you do need to tell her how you feel about it. Just remember the wife always finds out so your friend will get what is coming to her. Yes there is good men I have one of the best. People get married when they are not inlove because they are selfish and dont give a crap about anyones feelings. he too will what is coming to him. It is illegal to cheat and she can get his kids taken away from him if she ever finds out.

Answer 6

I personally would go tell the wife. Your friend won't be his first indiscretion. What if he picks up an STD or AIDS and brings it home to his wife. What if he gets her pregnant again and she passes whatever he gave her onto her child? He's not playing games, he's playing with people's lives.

Answer 7

I'd kinda close up about it all.
I would tell my friend I thought she was a whore. Sorry, but it's blunt with me in all friendships.

Just because she pulled this off, doesn't make all men untrustworthy out there all of a sudden.

Answer 8

yeah i understand where your coming from,id ditch your friend cause real friends dont do thing to hurt others.Also the guy she slept with needs to look after his wife and kids and forget about teeny boppers.
But please dont turn off marriage yourself from this as not all men are cheaters and you'll know when you have someone worth marring.

Answer 9

I'd be very disappointed with my so called friend and let her know how I felt about her actions. Could she have been making it all up? Where the heck are her morals.......In the closet?

Answer 10

Eeek!!! I hate people they are so crude. I don't really know what I would do in your situation I don't think I could stay friend with someone like that. You know that old saying you are who you hang with?? That's pretty scandalous!! I would be careful could you trust her around your boyfriend??