I had our 2nd child 3 mnths ago, and my body is ok except for my belly, it is like a deflated balloon, and I feel very self-concious about it, especially being "on top" - my hubby says he doesn't care about it, etc., do you think it's true, or is he just trying to make me feel better? If your wife/gf had the same issue, were you still attracted to her? Thanks for your answers.
2007-02-13 16:22:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, even if he's only trying to "make you feel better" think about it. Why would he try to make you feel better if it weren't because he wanted you to feel positive about your body, because he wants to look at you, enjoy you? If this weren't so, he would shut out the lights and hide you under him.
So, enjoy yourself and know that he cares for you and that means all of you. You are a genuine, whole and complete woman. Real in every way. Not some airbrushed vapor from a magazine. You are the woman he is enjoying on top of him, the woman he wants to see, make love to, enjoy. So let him and do it with wild abandon. Confidence is the sexiest look of all.
2007-02-13 16:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That balloon will go away. Are you breastfeeding? If so, the body really fights you on losing fat... it likes that for milk enriching. Didn't you have that balloon after the 1st one? I sure did with both. If you and hubby can get those kids in the jogging strollers and walk together, the physical activity alone will boost your energy and metabolism. You'll feel better and will not be staring down at that tummy anymore. It's a watched pot.;) Also, having him doing something non-sexual with you like exercise will strengthen your self esteem and your trust in him to not find you flabby. Get that man on the Momma Team and get yourself of the pute. It's a dangerous thing thing to find your validation outside of God, yourself, and your husband.
2007-02-13 16:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by momshepard3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was very self conscious after our first child, and is again after our second. Her response last time was to avoid all sexual contact till I exploded repeately and she finally gave in after a year. That seems to be her goal this time too.
Do I care about her loose skin? Yeah, because its preventing me from having a sex life. As for how it looks, its pretty low on the list of things I'd like to change in my life.
Err, I guess I didn't answer the last bit. I still find her very attractive. When she walks around in yoga pants or whatever, which she does all the time, it still drives me wild.
2007-02-13 16:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, then he loves you he isn't going to care about your stomach you look the way you do cause you gave him two beautiful children! Your his wife he should love you no matter what some extra baby flab should not be such a big deal for you your a mom and a wife believe me everyone has a little extra flab! You've had two kids!! I'm sure your husbands loves you just as much as he always did if not more!
2007-02-13 16:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by Megz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure he means it when he says it, if it bothers you, do some excercise to minimize it. I certainly would still be attracted to my wife/gf if she had the same thing, after all, it wasn't her belly I fell in love with, it was the beautiful person on the inside.
2007-02-13 16:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just had the baby three months ago!!! it took me a year a piece to get my belly back to the non deflated look, it takes work hunny, your husband knows that... you know what i always did, i went out and bought the sexy lingure that had open cups for the booobs, but underwire to help support my breastfeeding machines, but had the sexy lkace and what not to cover the tummy for the first while... he didnt miss anything... it didnt bother him, but i felt so much sexier... really, he knows its not like its from eating to much or letting yourself go, you had HIS damn kids, best of luck girl, learn to love yourself, and congrats♥
2007-02-13 16:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He would be very shallow if he let this bother him. I never did. If you want to reduce the problem there are exercises to tighten up the abdomen. Good luck
2007-02-13 16:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋