My penis is rock hard when i put the condom on, then when im about to stick it in her, it turns soft and it wont go in as easy.
2007-02-13 16:20:00 · 20 answers · asked by Vanq 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
answered similar question...my answer was best...here it is "Negative thoughts or worries can prevent an erection from occurring as surely as sexual thoughts or fantasies can produce one. A sign that your erection problem is psychological and not physical is if you can get an erection while sleeping, when waking up in the morning, or when masturbating, but you can't get one when you're with your partner. This can happen as a result of anxiety, stress, depression, conflict with your partner, or guilt.
Another common psychological factor that will sometimes keep a man from getting an erection is "performance anxiety." This happens when a man is so worried about getting an erection that his fear becomes self-fulfilling.
Before a doctor can decide how to treat your erection problem, he or she will need to know what's causing it. You may be able to help determine the nature of your problem by taking some of the following steps.
* Look for risk factors. Answer questions, such as: Are you taking medicine? Do you drink a lot? Have you suffered a groin injury? Are you depressed or under stress? Are you having trouble communicating with your partner?
* Make lifestyle changes. If you drink alcohol, cut back. If you smoke, get information on quitting.
If you use prescription drugs, ask your doctor or pharmacist if they could be interfering with your ability to get an erection. If you ride a bike frequently, go shopping for a wider, softer seat.
* Talk to your partner. If you think that you're having trouble getting erections because you're anxious about having sex with your partner, be honest about it. Look for solutions together.
* Relax. When you're with your partner, exchange massages or have sexual interactions that don't lead to intercourse; it takes the pressure off if you don't feel you have to "perform."
* Try counseling. Sometimes talking to a professional, a person with whom you aren't emotionally involved, can be helpful. Ask your doctor to recommend a psychiatrist or psychologist who is experienced in sex therapy.
I am too young to advise you!!
2007-02-13 16:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feeling, but it's OK! Christians have a penis too, and it's a good thing and a blessing, not something bad. It's about what you do with it! Hahaha! There aren't a huge number of Dudes with an 11 inch hard on, so he would be in a large normal minority. He shouldn't worry, and He is Good! When a Lady falls in Love with him and wants to be his Lady, or likely his wife! Hahaha! Wonder why? Hahaha! It could take some time and a little adjustment if his girth is also big, which is likely is! A Lady is able to adjust to her man, and it could take several days of patience, and the doctor also has progressing size inserts that are used to help her increase comfortably her Lady part size up with comfort to be able to enjoying her large man. Remember, a woman can adjust to birth a baby, and no gear on a Dude matches that girth. Hahaha! When the adjustments are done, He and his Lady should have an amazing Love life. A longer penis makes it possible to lots of positions where body closeness is less likely, and lots of variety. He needs to go in carefully with lube at first, and find out what depth feels good for her, and then only use that much length into her for on going Love Making. He will be able to memorize the feel of that max. depth. Our gear has that much feeling. He can give her amazing feelings by touching against her cervix and not pushing into or hard against it. It's going to be an awesome, careful, and enjoyable learning for both of them. This is as much info as needed, because she isn't even in the picture yet, but will all be good! And if they are careful and do it right, it should be awesome. For making Love, a long Dude only uses and much of his gear as is needed. Not so long Dudes, just use the entire gear. Tell your freind that he is good with lots to look foreward too. Wanting the best for you, I mean him! Me! :- )
2016-03-29 05:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try having her put the condom on you. sounds like you have some mental issue. Maybe you are nervous or worried about the condom breaking? If she put the condom on it might help to keep you really aroused and take your mind of being nervous
2007-02-13 16:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Beeper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes with all the pressure there is to perform the act can be overwhelming. Try other methods to overcome the anxiety. Ask her to help you. fellatio or masturbation may help. May you overcome this and have a stress free Valentine's day.
2007-02-13 17:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r too stress... or u are not very keen in doing as u having other things on mind but ur body "needs" it... therefore u may only concentrate for a moment but awhile later drift off in ur thoughts...
2007-02-13 19:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by vanessa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What RD said.
Also, see my answer to:
"During sex,sometimes ,my penis gets flaccid before penetration ,I wanna know why,and what I can do?"
You may have "Madonna-Whore complex."
2007-02-13 16:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you bin playing with it too long
2007-02-13 17:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by Rumrunner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cus you get nervous. Lots of guys go through this.
2007-02-13 16:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
cause ur so nervous around her
2007-02-13 18:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥queen b♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, its just nerves and anxiety. just relax and it will be cool
2007-02-14 07:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Pete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋