Should you "dress down" for the guy's sake when going on a date?

Question

I tend to dress very chic, sophisticated, and pulled together(or at least, i hope that's how i appear! haha) So when going out on the "first" date with a guy who typically wears t-shirts and sneakers on a daily basis(we're college students, so it's allowed lol), should I dress down for him? I don't mean completely turn into a slob(that's not even him, thank God haha), but is this the time to break out a new Prada handbag(for example)? I know he's not going to notice any specific accessory anyway, probably just my overall look. So should I keep the flashy, "what's in style" clothing and accesories to a minimum to match his bachelor style and save being a "Sex in the City" lookalike for another night, or go with my regular style knowing that my look could have attracted him in the first place? P.S.~hopefully i don't sound too much like a stuck-up fashionista and hopefully i didn't make him sound like a 12 year old who doesn't know how to dress himself :)

i should probably add that while this is our "first" date, i've known this guy as a friend for a while.....dressing up for any occasion is NOT his style and he'll avoid it anyway he can haha so believe me, i understand what i'm dealing with here

Answer 1

When you say chic and sophisticated clothing I think of high couture and that definitely will be too dressy on a 1st date with a guy who typically wears t-shirts and sneakers. The way you dress on the first date can be depend on where you go on the date and what you're comfortable with. If you're just going out to eat for lunch and maybe a show/movie afterwards, maybe wear dressy jeans with kitten heels and a nice/sexy top and dress/casual purse, maybe your Prada purse if it goes with the outfit-that way you won't be overdressed and if you're doing some walking, you won't be uncomfortable. If you go out for dinner at a nice restaurant, you can wear your "Sex in the City" top and change the shoes to something with a higher heel under the dressy jeans or a skirt, but again, what you wear depends on where you're going. If your dinner date is at an upscale "restaurant/lounge" (where you pay $25-$35 to reserve a seat) or a restaurant where you have to book months in advance, a cocktail dress is preferred (the more upscale the place, the dressier you should be). If you're planning to do outdoorsy stuff, then dress down. You can still look fashionable and put together even if you dress down!

You can mix high fashion with dressy/casual jeans and still look good-just knowing what will work together is key. Just letting you know that dressing up ALL the time might intimidate the guy who feels like you may not be the type to let loose and just be casual once in awhile (I had an ex who felt I dressed up too often and that he had to look better than me if I did dress up but in my opinion, I didn't feel that I was dressed up, by city standards anyway.) I can't stress enough that how you dress depends on where you go on your date.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well dress as you normally would, have you thought that he actually dresses up for proper occasions, but wears normal clothes to not look like a toss at college?

Answer 4

I think- that if he's the kind of guy that actually notices what you wear, then you should dress for HIM as a way of telling him that you appreciate his attention. I know that sounds alittle chauvinistic, but then what else do you go out on a "date" with someone for anyway? You WANT to be noticed, & you want to please him... -Otherwise, you can dress any way you want when you're out with your girlfriends or out on the town on your own. "Style" is for public consumption, but when it comes to love- "eye candy" is where its at. :)

Answer 5

Well, he wouldn't of asked you out if he hadn't liked the way you are. I say keep your class, but dress more casually. Jeans, not a tshirt, but something casual. As for shoes, I'd keep it to a short heel. Something sexy, but not over-doing it.

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