well me and my bf just had our first big fight and im scared because he cutts himself and idk what to do im scared cause he kept sayin he didnt deserve me and he should just end it now cause all he does is cause me pain and thats not true HELP!!!
2007-02-13 15:10:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok the fight was about me posibly being pregnant and he thought i was telling people i am whitch i wouldnt cause i dont even know myself and i dont know how people are finding out about it and i also wouldnt tell any body cause my bf is 18 and im only 15
2007-02-13 15:17:43 · update #1
He has never tried to hurt me and hes not a control freak hes just pissed off and scared because he knows he can get arrested for statitory rape and that ****
2007-02-13 15:27:57 · update #2
I don't know you or your boyfriend, but, I do. I've seen this behavior time and again. I'm old and i've seen this done at all ages. I have 2 daughters and grandchildren, too. They are all very open to me about their boyfriends. This routine of doing harm to himself becaue you had an argument / broke up / threaten divorce / go home to momma / etc, is a control method used to make you do what he wants. Sometimes these guys are referred to as control freaks. Sometimes they will cut or attempt suicide - but they will never succeed. They dont' want to die, just control you.
Your reaction is probably going to be that I don't know him or you. I don't personally, but I do from experience.
My opinion, and you're asking for opinions, is run from him as fast as you can.
2007-02-13 15:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you take brass knuckles, what makes ya think one of them won't bring a knife???? Any 12 year old that shows up for a fight of any kind should go to juvie. Sounds like you will have a tough life, chickie. Hope it's worth it for ya. There is NO reason that a 12 year old girl should be in such a situation. It's just sad.
2016-05-24 08:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok talk to him every second so he wont do ne thing stupid i used to cut and do stupid stuff so i know how he feels. Make him feel like he is your life so he feels like something other than dirt. People find out things cause if one person overhears your conversation then that person two people then those two people tell two people etc. trust me i know, i live in a small town with people who are big mouths. But you need to sufficate him (be with him all the time) so he wont have a chance to do anything stupid. Good Luck n Best Wishes. Just dont tell your parents if they are uptight that your pregnant cause they'll press charges. And if your not pregnant get secretly put on birth conrol for your and his sake. Tell the doctors not to tell your parents and not send a letter sayin anything to your house and legally they cant tell its called confidentiality
2007-02-13 15:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by Heya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart--you need to calm him down, first of all. Talk him out of the cutting. Remind him of positive things he has done, If you can, do not leave him alone. If you can, make sure someone else can stay with him if you cannot---(parent, friend, etc) .This is dangerous and very suicidal...he most likely needs medication. This will be a long process.. you must convince him to tell his parents, or someone, he needs to get to the doc, and tell the doc too. It is not so uncommon or embarrasssing. I mean, get him an appointment tomorrow, because if it is chemical depression, the medication can take a month or more just to get into his system, and he MUST take it all the time, like an I.V.....he needs to be stabilized...dont leave him alone...
2007-02-13 15:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by mbz2828 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...flashbacks...i had a boyfriend like that when i was 15...oddly enough he was 18 too...never did have a fight about me being pregnant tho...did have lots of other fights..no matter what you think you don't need him...i learned this the hard way, but it's pretty easy to say he is probably doing this to keep you with him and if he is really depressed and feels the need to punish himself cuz he isn't good enough for you then he needs to get help and you shouldn't be with him cuz it will just get worse as time goes on...and it is also a lot easier to get a 15 yr. old girl to think you need her in order to use her then it is to get an 18 yr. old girl to fall for the same act. My best advice to you, even if you choose to blow me off cuz i just "don't understand", is to get out of the relationship and to try to get him help if he really needs it. Try to be there as a friend but no more. After i finally ended it with my ex he suddenly stopped cutting until he started dating another 15 yr. old who fell for his ****...he was just a manipulative ***
2007-02-14 01:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you bf is suffering from depression at it;s wores. he may try and take his own life causing you to feel guilty and sad. I dont know what. you must like this guy to want to say and help. how long have you been together?
Have you seen this behaviour before and has he trried to hurt you. ask your self if he is scaring you can he hurt you if he gets really. ask his if he needs help or wants to talk to somebody. he could hurt you. but he may need you and you may love him. i the end if he is not threating to you then stay with him he needs a frined. my bf had problems cuz of family abuse and the effect of a native amercian or a reservation. I have been with him 5 years and we are getting married and ttc./ tryin g to have a baby
good luck
be safe
2007-02-13 15:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by waitingandwantiing 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl please don't take that **** to heart i cut myself for 2 years and the only reason why anyone really does it is for attention he is only doing that cause he wants you to feel bad and that is not good cause he is suppose to be your man you need to tell him that him hurting himself is causing the people around him depression and if u tell someone they will 302 him which means that they will put him away so u need to tell him to change he is threatening you so u need to start threatening him so he can see how he feels and you need to tell him that him cutting himself is not proving anything but the fact that he is crazy and if he doesn't care about himself then why should you. like they say u must love yourself before someone else loves you please write me and let me know how thing go i hope i have helped Melanie
2007-02-13 15:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by melanie15110 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
babe...get him some help NOW, before he cuts too deep or worse, goes after you. don't put yourself in a dangerous situation. call someone you both trust and have them come over or whatever (if yall live together) and then talk about getting him some help. if he loves you and feels like he doesnt "deserve" you, then maybe he will be open to getting some PROFESSIONAL help. good luck and be careful
2007-02-13 15:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by christopher_austins_mom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him again so it settles down, then break up with him shortly after. You don't need to be around that type of behavior, it's not healthy in anyway and it is VERY hard to fix. Get out!
2007-02-13 15:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by LD 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow...
What the hell are doing??????????
you are suposed to be lovers not fighters....
You don't fit togheter.
If he a trouble maker (the one who always push you to get frustred) then quit him.
If you are the trouble maker quit him too...lol
You are not suposed to fight!
Hope it help
good luck
2007-02-13 15:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by lollol 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋