divorce is NOT easy on anyone...... parents or kids.... everyone suffers, but the kids dont know how a lot of times to deal with it all...... but , YOU have to remember this, NONE of it is YOUR fault or worry..... adults have to make the choices and they sometimes have to make hard ones, and sometimes no matter which choice is made, it is not always right or wrong.. sometimes there is no right or wrong..... so you just have to go on with YOUR life.... see Dad when you get the chance, call him when you can, send him notes etc..... but NEVER talk about one parent to the other, good or bad stuff.... if one ask about the others health, or if they are ok, then you can, but personal stuff you need to make sure , they know is out of bounds for the kids....... just love both, respect both, and be a kid.... let them do the worrying and stuff........ God bless
2007-02-13 15:02:39
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answered by Annie 7
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Aww hunnie, I know what it's like to go through a divorce. And I know right now you are in a lot of pain, but the worst thing you could do is try to get them back together, because most likely the pain you are feeling now is the same thing your parents feel everyday. Once everything is settled, one of your parents are going to get custody of you, depending on how old you are, but you will have the chance to see them both. Unless there are some issues that the court doesn't see one of your parents to be fit, to have visitation rights. But please do not keep this locked up inside, talk to someone in your family, or at school that you trust. Like a grandparent or a teacher or a counselor. Just hang in there.
2007-02-13 15:01:10
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answered by jenimiper 3
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There is a reason they are seperating...and I wouldnt want to know that reason if I were you. I would talk to a professional therapist, or just your school counselor to help you deal with this issue. It is a tough deal, but you have to understand your parents are not splitting because of you, but may have stayed together not happy with each other for your sake, but just couldn't take it anymore...
2007-02-13 14:57:46
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answered by JP 4
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You cant do anything between your parent to help them get back together. Its more of there problem not yours, you are just probably the one who is the most hurt.
To get through it try to think of all the positives of having them divorced.... (Having double of everything.)
2007-02-13 14:58:04
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answered by tay tay 1
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Talk to your parents, sepratly first. Don't give up talk again and again to find out the reason. Mostly it will be misunderstandings between the parents. Then try to talk with them together and tell them how important they both are to you. Take help of your religious leader like church father if u r a christian. But u should make them understand how important it is for them to be together at least for your sake and how u love them both. Talk. Talk , and make them talk. Take care.
2007-02-13 15:02:06
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answered by Venkat Ramanan R 2
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Let them know your feelings, tell them u love them both. But dont try to figure it out alone. Get urself some counseling, even ask ur parents to help find u some to help u get thur this. Sometimes parents forget that the children suffer too.
2007-02-13 15:00:42
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answered by Sophi C 1
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I don't know how old you are but tell both your parents that you are having a difficult time with the separation and need some help with it. Maybe a counselor at school or church.
Have they sat down with you and discussed this with you? I know it was something my ex and I did when we first separated. We talked with both of our children about what was happening, why, and assured them it had nothing to do with them.
2007-02-13 15:02:13
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answered by Margaret K 3
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youre parents are getting a divorce for a reason, I'm sure you wouldn't want to be stuck married to someone you didnt want to. I'm sure they still care for each other and of course they both care for you...soo just hang in there and let them handle their situation. im sure you'll get to see both of them and you can at least talk to youre dad if you miss him. hes not going to ignore you and push you out of his life all together.
2007-02-13 15:02:23
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answered by Kansha 2
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well my parents were devorced since i was six months old and i remeber him somehow and ive never got to talk to him ever again and ive never seen him. Its hard to go throuhgh, sure i cry every now and then but just remember everything happens for a reason and you never know maybe it was just meant to be. Its really hard to get over it and honestly you will never get over the pain but as the years go by your pain will soon heal itself. im fourteen and i must admit in a way i got over it and i dont cry as much but just try to go on with life as if it never was to occur. Cuz thats something you just cannot control. Its like life, you cannot control when you die but you can control how but not taking drugs or commiting suicide and just like in your situation you cant controll it happening but you can control how you get over it. I wish you luck and i hope I was a help!
2007-02-13 15:01:50
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answered by Anonymous
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I used to 'stay' the existence of youngsters like you & those who lost the daddy in an twist of destiny, or so..... In particular aspects finished loss seems a unmarried important wonder, at the same time as the divorce loss is able to detrimental more beneficial, that too more beneficial intensely & often. at the same time as the mummy and father bypass for separation, the most important aspect to be seen is this trauma they deliver about in children!.yet maximum are least gentle , & proceed. this situation is is a spread of emptiness in 'fullness' , the thanks to conquer this must be concept about very heavily through all psychiatrists, psychologists, mind chemists, etc.... it is amazingly confusing to judge what's lacking on your mind compared to an similar mind living with at the same time loving mom and father! Crying helps, yet no longer completely. wondering about some thing else, some different person to disrupt or ruin those emotions is the subsequent maximum ideal. imagine of the 1000's of thousands of youngsters who're nonetheless more beneficial unlucky- both mom and father useless, or lacking in a conflict or earth quake, very poor, without food or shield & dress , etc.., or without innovative and prescient, limbs, listening to ability, .... etc.... who're on the globe .compared to them you're fortunate- this you need to convince your inner suggestions !- you've mum with you , siblings too, necessary needs are satisfied, dad is seen once in a week or so,.... Like this you pacify & cope with, as this can be a difficulty previous a number of peoples' administration ! I too weep with you & a number of others, who're like you. enable those help you to stay more beneficial advantageous, experience more beneficial advantageous, . solid success.
2016-12-04 03:52:31
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answered by ? 4
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