2007-02-13 14:55:04 · 20 answers · asked by Petey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We were together for 4 years, married less than 1. We just got divorced 3 weeks ago. He did not want to get divorced even though I was unfaithful and unwilling to work on our relationship. I think I may have made a mistake.
2007-02-13 15:02:13 · update #1
The fact that your the one that wanted the divorce,shows that you thought that you wanted something else or someone else at the time or at least you thought. The fact that he wanted to work it out, you should have given him that chance most men are not so forgiven about those type of things.All I can say is talk to him start out being friends for awhile and see how that works out.If he wants to get back together, then that's something your going to have to decide, if you think that you could do things differently and be faithful,try it but don't get back with him unless your really sure your not going to hurt him again, that wouldn't be fair to him.If not then just stay friends, it might work out better that way.
2007-02-13 15:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok a BIG hats off to you for realizing that you made a mistake. Betrayal by a spouse hurts like hell believe me. There is no worse feeling except maybe being run over by a car. You need to tell him that you made a huge mistake and that it will never happen again. If he decides to give you a second chance which I believe that everybody deserves he will have an emotional shield in front of his heart for a long time. You will have to prove your love to him and show him that he is your only one. Be prepared for a possible affair on his part down the road for revenge, it does sometimes happen. I hope he gives you a second chance and you don't blow it. good luck i really do hope it works out for you guys!
2007-02-13 17:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I desired to depart my husband as well and we had a large blow-up and i was once in a position to e-book a flight and get the heck out of right here. He thought about what I needed to say and stated he wanted to change. Humans perpetually endorse that men who say "I want to alternate" are simply making use of that as a last ditch try to keep women round; nonetheless, I thought, well, i have lasted this long, the least i will do is supply him a danger to show himself. If he does not correctly trade, then i will understand I did all that I might to avoid wasting this. So, provide him the benefit of the doubt and do not keep resentment. Will have to he relatively mean it through the lengthy-time period, then good for you guys. If, alternatively, it simplest lasts just a few months or whatever, then you're going to recognize for distinctive that you've got made the right determination.
2016-08-10 15:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by deuell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible and dangerous. I am seeing my ex on occasion, but making sure that I don't makes the same mistakes I made back then. I will not allow myself to fall in love with her again. I enjoy the time we spend together and revel in the memories of our history. While I am affectionate with her, my relationship is platonic.
2007-02-13 17:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is & love is a great thing, it's so strong that you can't fight it. If you love him again, then i think you should go for it. Every old marriage deserves that chance to build up for the better. As long as you both changed, you both know what you want, you both feel the same way towards each other & your really serious about the future together then GO FOR IT!
2007-02-13 14:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I dated a man for nearly 2 years, he broke my heart. he cheated on me and did loads of other crappy stuff. I fell back in love with him after I stopped hating him. I didnt do anything about it though becasue I knew he would be the same and never change.
Think about the nice stuff he did for you, then think about the crappy stuff and then sum up whether you think its worth it.
2007-02-13 14:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on your personality and mindset and what exactly made you fall out of love in the first place. I can't imagine it is easy, and honestly I am in a situation that parallels yours.
2007-02-13 14:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i feel this is very possible and can happen to people. This is actually a good thing. Does he know how you feel about him? Is he open to trying again? Talk to him and let him know how you are feeling.
2007-02-13 15:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but maybe not a good idea. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
2007-02-13 15:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by ulrichrcb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And out again?
Why did you get divorced? 99% of the time, I'd say "no".
But you haven't told us much. Are you sure you aren't just lonely?
2007-02-13 14:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋