I am throwing a baby shower and a friend wants to bring her newborn baby to the shower. I want to say it's OK but am sensitive that it will divert attention from the expectant mother. What should I do and will the newborn mother be offended if I say no?
2007-02-13 14:36:02 · 16 answers · asked by V T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I would think the expectant mommy would love to see a newborn, does she know about shower? If so, ask her if she'd be ok with it. If you don't know have the mom leave baby at home, she might be glad for a chance to get away and have some "adult" time!
2007-02-13 14:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Klara♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask the expectant mother. See if she minds..it is her shower after all. It might divert attention away from the new mom. The mother of the newborn should understand if you explain it without being rude. Just ask her to remember what a special time pregnancy was. Tell her that you really want to give this new mom a time where she is the center of attention because soon enough she won't be. The newborn mom will understand how one minute you are the star pregnant lady and the next minute the baby is the star of the show. You have to do what the new pregnant mom wants. It's her shower.
2007-02-13 15:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am always voicing in favor of leaving children at home during the shower. A newborn is sweet and not a distraction!! However, if she brings her newborn someone else might bring their 2 year old....and that is a whole other ball of wax.
The baby shower is about BABIES and the new mom!! I know a lot of people think bringing a child to a shower is ok....but, jeez, let our husbands take care of the kids for a couple of hours so we can hang out and get excited over the itty bitty pajamas without having to bribe the 2 year old to stop screaming!!
If you can allow the newborn without having to allow older children....I don't think it would be an issue. Especially if that mom is breastfeeding and has to bring the child. You may also want to look into setting up some child care during the event.
Hope that helps!!
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2007-02-15 07:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i went to a baby shower when my youngest was a newborn, some of the other guests were actually disappointed that i didn't bring him. id say go ahead and and let her bring her baby. maybe it'll give the new mother a chance to learn more about new babies. maybe there are some fun games you can play with the baby like guessing the weight. i dont think it will take away the attention of the expectant mother at all.
2007-02-13 14:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by happychick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend and I were pregnant at the same time but I was further along... My daughter was 2 months old and I took her to the shower with me and it just added to the excitement of my friend's upcoming child. Unless the person you are throwing the shower for can be sorta selfish it should not be a problem at all. Since I don't know your crowd it is hard to answer on what the out come will be... You should get some input from mutual friends that know the situation first hand and go from there.
2007-02-13 14:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Holly L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unless it is a bunch of stuck up people i would think that moms should be able to bring kids to the baby shower after all isnt it a celebration of motherhood just make sure that the mother of the newborn is aware of your concerns and doesnt try to draw attention to her baby and away from the mom. If you say no make sure you know that nobody else is bringing kids or get a person that you know is responsible to take care of everyones kids in another room so that all the moms can be comfy and not have to find babysitters.
2007-02-13 14:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby about 5 months ago. I went out of my way to tell people that they could bring their babies. It helped get everyone in a baby mood! The attention was not taken away in a negative way - everyone still spent the bulk of the time asking about my pregnancy/playing games/watching and oohing and ahhing over gifts. You could ask the pregnant mother you are throwing the shower for...
2007-02-14 09:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by JadeAMurray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a baby shower! What possible reason would you have to say no? The expectant mother will have plenty of attention and gifts, and if they're worried about competiting with a child, also have issues.
2007-02-13 16:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by loubylou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course she should be allowed to bring it - the whole point of a shower is to show support for the expectant mother .....not to ostracise the new mothers.......if she cant cope with having attention diverted to a baby, perhaps she shouldnt be having one herself.
baby showers are so boring anyway
2007-02-13 16:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by Boo Boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why u see this as a problem. I having a baby shower in april and there are going to be 2newborn babys there. I dont think that youre friend would mind either, i mean shes still getting gifts right?
2007-02-13 15:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by AD 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋