What would you think if a married man (coworker) asked you out for lunch.
2007-02-13 14:23:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For example, Im a married man. What would you think if I asked you out for lunch.
2007-02-13 14:26:03 · update #1
Is it not ok for a married man to go out to lunch with another female?
2007-02-13 14:30:39 · update #2
Is lunch that serious?
What's the rationale?
2007-02-13 14:31:28 · update #3
truthfully all the previuous answers sound text book.. but really they would go.. its all about excitment.. thats why you are doing it.. and thats why she would except the invitation..so ask her.. be up front about your motives.. just sex.. just conversation.. etc.. ask yourself is it a big deal.. Answer: Yes what are you missing? What is she missing to go.. be honest with yourself..
2007-02-13 14:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by red74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think anything of it. I would let my husband know I was going to lunch with a co-worker and go eat lunch. example: "Hey, Bob from accounts payable just called and wants to go get a bite to eat at that Mexican food joint down the street. I'm gonna go. Do you want me to order an extra plate to bring home so you can take it for lunch tomorrow?"
Now, if you made a move on me...that is a different matter. (example: you try to hold my hand, or kiss/hug me, or say sexual things to me.) I would be upset that you would do such a thing. Reason one: That you would be the sort of person who would cheat or attempt to cheat on your wife. Reason two: That you think I also would be the type of person who would cheat on my husband.
But if it is just lunch. No, I don't have a problem with that. My husband goes out to eat with co-workers all the time. Sometimes it is with a group, sometimes one on one. Occasionally when I have the time I will join him on his lunch outings. Lunch is lunch and everyone has to eat.
2007-02-13 22:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how you asked. For instance, if you were to say, Hey want to get some lunch? simple and short...sort of asking for some company for lunch. But if you were to ask...I would like to take you to lunch, somewhere nice.
When I was single and worked with alot of married men, some would ask me to lunch..in the lunch room..very innocent. And there were others who asked that I felt were not appropiate ie, out of the office (safe zone).
2007-02-13 22:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by 2Bme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was clearly business related, I would be OK with it. But if I felt any other type of vibe (like if you liked me and I could tell), then I would politely decline. I don't date married men period. That lunch could open the door for other things and possible misunderstandings. Plus, I would never date a co-worker either. Hope that answers your question.
2007-02-13 22:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would flat out turn him or you down as i am happily married and very much in love with my husband and would much rather go to lunch with him:)
2007-02-13 22:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing that you're married, I would decline. Unless your wife was also invited.
If you have the time and interest to take a woman to lunch...Why not have it be your wife???
2007-02-13 22:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the initial flattery, I would think twice and put myself in his wife's shoes and feel sorry for her. I mean, he's kind of a scumbag if he can't be upfront with his issues with his wife before moving on to another woman.
2007-02-13 22:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by sadmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't accept it. I don't think it's acceptable unless it's a meeting to discuss the latest project at work, or a presentation. I would not like my husband to do that to me, so why do it to him? Respect your wife and don't go. If this woman hates you for this or demotes you, so what? You don't want to work for a company like that anyway. I do trust my husband and he trusts me, but being a raging conservative I think it's wrong and bad news...Unless of course you like drama!
2007-02-13 22:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it is a big deal, then no, don't do it. If it is lunch to discuss business, it is fine. If you are friends, it is fine. If he invites his wife, it is fine. If he is attracted to her and makes that obvious, it is NOT fine.
2007-02-13 22:49:43 · answer #9 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would only agree to it if we had a business matter to discuss. Otherwise, I would be very suspicious. But I would go, if only to form a friendship, and to let him know that everything we do will be kosher.
2007-02-13 22:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋