I need help me and my child's father have been divorced for 11yrs and he has paid 1yr of child support out of these 11ys! I have taken him to court over 5 times, he gets odd jobs and quits as soon as the state finds him to pay. The last time we went to court he got jail time of 6 months but, served only 3-for good behavior. But still NO $!! I dont know what else to do. My daughter is now 12yrs old, almost a teen and very expensive. Last time I checked he owes $50,000 in back childsupport!!! Can someone help? What do I do now? How do I get him to pay???
2007-02-13 14:15:28 · 16 answers · asked by Adriana S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I always told my baby daddy that he could finance my European vacation, or he could help take care of the kids by paying now. But you just gotta keep taking him to court, eventually they will get sick of seeing you there and tell him to pay or go to prison. My aunt finally started getting her child support that was owed to her when her youngest of three was 21. Hang in there, it will get better.
2007-02-13 14:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you have taken this through your local child support agency. If not then that is the first place I would start. The next thing I would do is schedule a consultation with a lawyer and see what they can do. I read someone else did recommend Support Kids. They have become recommended through friends of mine as high but they were not successful with helping myself.
I have been though this same problem myself for the last 13 almost 14 years..so similar you would be surprised but I sought help through the local agency, a lawyer, and Support Kids..none could find him long enough to make him pay. The only thing that did it..which is probley no consolation to you is he started paying on his own six months ago by himself. I really wish you the best and hope that you find an answer that will help you!
2007-02-13 14:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every state handles Child Support differently. But no matter what just keep going to court and make sure the arreages are adding up and they have the right amount owed on file. Some states will suspend the absent father's drivers license if they are behind. But your child will see that money one day. No matter how much time passes arreages stay on record. I knew a guy that his dad never paid cs and when he turned 25 his dad was succesful and had lots of things... my friend took him to court for back cs and they dad had to sign over his house to him.
Your ex will have to pay that one day in some way, as long as you make sure it stays on record...even if your child gets it out of his life insurance.
2007-02-13 14:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jerri lynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel on this...my ex owes $48,000. in back support...he may have paid a total of a year or so...I have two kids with this man. No matter what, the court hasn't done anything about it. I even gave the place where he was to an officer (there was a warrent for my ex's arrest) and the officer just let him go!!!! so, if you can figure it out, let me know...lol. good luck.
2007-02-13 14:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex is behind 15,000 and I finally got the state to pursue a felony charge against him. He is pretending to be unable to work because of the medication he takes for bi-polar, but he is offering a tax return refund as payment towards arrears (which I get anyway check in to that too). My point is if he can't work how can he get a tax refund?
It is a felony to abandon your child and not support them. Also, there is supportkids who can help you, but they take 34% of whatever they collect plus the first $495. If you aren't getting anything at all, that might be a good way to get something.
2007-02-13 14:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Tink 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him: "Either you pay the child support you owe me, or I take you to court and you'll be in there longer than 3 months buddy..." you have to stand tall for you and your daughter, and remember that with all the money he owes you, you can put away money for her college, even a new coach bag! lol just push him and push him until he pays, persistence is perfection
2007-02-13 14:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by monkeyluver13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to pay attention which you have any such jerk to deal with. adult men without testicles, I hat it. The decide wouldn't have considered the "individual your with" via fact your daughter isn't that "ersons" accountability. The decide could have additionally taken into concideration what you ex-husband is able to becoming, no longer what he's presently accepting. Why are you paying to have your daughter fly as quickly as a month? that would desire to at bare minimum be a "shared cost", afterall it sound like it grew to become into HIS option to visit a diverse city. Is it court docket ordered?
2016-10-02 02:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by riedel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live but you need to go back to family court and tell the judge to revoke his dri.lis. actually you know what don't even bother your daughter is 12 now and you've raised her all this time just keep up the good work so she can be all that she can be one of these days she'll see him and he'll try to talk her and she just...
2007-02-13 14:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Chocolate Spice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It nasty to hear but there is nothing really you can do. If he is in the system, when it comes time for him to get social securty they will take a portion of that from his check. You can try having his pay attached, but there comes a time that you have to realize your on your own. Sorry, been there. Best of luck
2007-02-13 14:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your plight...ask yourself is pursuing all that money going to be a healthy choice for you. You may end up going at this for years with this dead beat. Cut him off from seeing his kids for one thing until he antes up.
2007-02-13 14:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋