School started in September, and I've made a few friends, but not as much as other kids have. Now I am starting to see people just trying to be nice to me because they feel bad for me. How do I overcome shyness?
2007-02-13 14:06:29 · 14 answers · asked by Josh N 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
How old are you? Well, sometimes you just have to be brave and dive right in. Do or say something you normally wouldn't. Don't be afraid of rejection. Hang out with a big group of guys, that way you're just one of them and it's not such a big deal. Plus you'll always have people to sit with at lunch and hang out with at school. Good luck! =)
2007-02-13 14:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by ღღღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to focus or worry about it too much. Its completely natural and an extremely common thing to be shy. When I was younger I was very shy. I was so shy that I didn't even dare to ask teachers for help at school if I wasn't sure how to do something. But then, over time I gradually started to open up more and more and I soon became one of the most vocal people in my class without even realising it. It was asthough i just wanted to express myself after all those years of being the quiet one. Suddenly i was able to confidently speak my mind, and i loved it! After that I became stronger and stronger and for years now i have felt very comfortable with myself and much more confident. No one would ever guess i was ever shy. So, don't worry, I'm sure you'll slowly come out of your shell too. It sounds like you're thinking about it alot and thats the first step. Just relax and be yourself. Have faith in yourself, and dare to take a few risks. Maybe join an activity or sports group to meet even more people. I'm sure you are a lovely person and many people would love to chat to you. Just remember that you are not alone. So many other people feel this way too-including some of the others at your school, even if they don't seem shy.
2007-02-13 15:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Princess Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think that people are nice to you because they fell bad for you. Try to socialize with the crowd. When I am young, I am shy too and I have a few friends only just like you. But when I saw my friends in school or outside school with their friends whom I didn't know, I tried to talk to them and gradually the shyness wears off.
2007-02-13 14:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Albert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was shy when I was younger. How I overcame it was interesting. I prayed to God to give me that confidence. Give yourself a pep talk in the mirror everyday. See yourself in there and say to yourself you are no longer shy you are ready to take on the world and make someones life better this day.
I had done this for a long time now I no longer have to do it because it is engrained in me. I have been calling on business owners everyday for the past 25 years. I am in sales and I love what I do. I also make a great income at it. You can't close deals and make a living if you are shy.
2007-02-13 14:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mark T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of the time, shyness wears off the more you have contact with people, so don't worry about it too much, it will all come naturally in the end. Plus, chick's really dig shy-guy's.
2007-02-13 14:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not assume that people are nice to you, because "THEY FEEL BAD"! Not true. People are not that kind! They are NICE because they genuinely, Like you! Is that too difficult to believe? A "few" friends, is GOOD! How many do you need? Just keep doing, what you are. Smile, be kind, and TRUE TO YOURSELF! You will go far! Good Luck!
2007-02-13 14:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by DORY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its quality not quantity that matters..enjoy the friends you have and make the most of those relationships..if you focus on what you have and enjoy it and strengthen it, i believe other things will fall into place..you have to be confident in yourself..your friends will help you with that..find something your good at, that you love and be proud of it..show it off and make sure people know about it..don't let people feel sorry for you and don't cave into it..don't be fake and you won't get fakers..i'm sure your a wonderful person..just be you, and the rest will happen
2007-02-13 14:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by *<3_Gizmo* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What`s wrong with being shy. Somebody has to be.I have shy friends and that's apart of who they are.I like my shy friends just as much as my confident ones. Be yourself who can ask anymore? being shy is an endearing quality i think my shy friends are kind,sweet and caring.What a nice person you must be.
2007-02-15 20:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by theresa_rawson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry the fear will make you more shy. just be yourself people will realize you are awesome. also besides making friends if you are shy in other areas of your life the best thing to do is put yourself out there. thats all no special cure.
2007-02-13 14:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a sense of humor, people will love you! It may be hard to speak up, but if you do the reward of laughter is worth it.
2007-02-13 14:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by ferniee2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋